The relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law is definitelyfertile ground for psychologists. Study, build theories, write dissertations and publish books with useful tips - they will undoubtedly be popular among consumers. After all, every daughter-in-law dreams of improving relations with her second mother, no matter how much she refuses this in public. And many mothers-in-law are not as formidable as they seem from the outside. Think about the relationships in your family. Maybe not everything is as bad as it seems to you. And if your mother-in-law at least somehow makes attempts to be friends with you, and you care how she treats you, and you start thinking about the question of what to give your mother-in-law for her anniversary a month before the celebration - you have a chance to improve relations with the "unapproachable" mother of your husband.

Who is the hostess in the house?

Unfortunately, over the years, your husband's beloved motherforgot what it means to be young, that your own mistakes teach you to cope with life's difficulties faster. And so she tries to teach her "wayward" daughter-in-law everything she knows. If she's lucky, these two women find a common language, communicate peacefully, and even come to visit each other with pleasure. But quite often the situation is the other way around, especially if the young people live under the same roof with the husband's parents. Then the mother-in-law does not just go to visit, but fully walks around all the rooms in her apartment. She can even start cleaning the young couple's room or advise how to cook, wash, and raise children properly. And for the most part, this is done not out of spite or malice, but from a pure heart and with a desire to share her own experience. Of course, there are exceptions, but let's hope that they are a minority. The main thing is that you do not forget - your mother-in-law is also a woman, and she is not alien to female weaknesses. And what do women like? Gifts, of course! And if the gift is "right", then any, even the strictest mother-in-law will soften and stop looking at you as a stupid child. Here is your truce, now the main thing is to properly maintain this truce, so that, in the end, real peace comes to your family!

Some subtleties in preparing for the holidays

It is during the holidays that you can either strengthen your friendshipmother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or to mend a shaky peace if their relations are strained. But one mistake, one inappropriate gift can, on the contrary, build such a wall between women that even the Chinese would envy. Therefore, before thinking about what to give your mother-in-law, remember everything you know about her. In this case, every little thing, every conversation you have will be important. Yes, and be sure to talk to your husband - who, if not he, knows what his mother prefers. Let's start, perhaps, with the most grandiose and therefore the most difficult holiday - an anniversary. So, what to give on this important day for any woman? It has already happened that women do not really like to celebrate their birthdays, and the older we get, the less this love. Therefore, try to surround your mother-in-law with attention, but unobtrusively, so that it does not look like pity. Of course, you should definitely offer your help in preparing a festive dinner. Anniversaries are usually celebrated in a big way, so extra hands won't be superfluous. And while you're both circling the kitchen, you can casually notice how fresh she looks, how gracefully she handles household chores and the kitchen. Praise her recipes and table setting. In a word, pay attention to the little things, because no man notices them, but we know how much they mean and how nice it is that someone saw and appreciated our efforts.

Be attentive to all the small things

A gift for my mother-in-law on such a significant occasionthe holiday will probably be the main topic of your thoughts for a couple of months. And in the end, you will still think that you made a mistake in your choice, “or maybe you needed something completely different?” - this thought will not leave you until you see the reaction of the hero of the occasion. The question of what to give your mother-in-law, first of all, will depend not even on your relationship with her, but on the relationship between her and her son, that is, your husband. If the relationship is strained, then, most likely, you are not friends with your mother-in-law either, which means, on the one hand, it is easier for you - you do not necessarily put your heart into the gift. As a result, your nerves will remain intact. But if the relationship between mother and son is warm, you have more room for imagination, because you can find out everything you need from your husband. After all, it is to him that the mother can complain about a broken iron, dream of a new TV. She can tell that she read about a wonderful health resort on such and such a forum and definitely wants to go there. Or maybe you once went shopping together and remember that she was simply captivated by earrings that would have gone so perfectly with her new dress, but then there was no opportunity to spend money on them, and then they somehow became irrelevant. Again, all the same little things, but how much they can help if you notice them. The finishing touch of a gift for your mother-in-law should not even be flowers, although they are a must for any holiday, but a card. Yes, today we rarely use them, but even if you are sure that this is a relic of the past, make an exception for this holiday and choose a particularly beautiful card for your mother-in-law. The words printed inside are always beautiful, but they are not enough. Add a few warm and sincere wishes with your own hand, they will always be a pleasure to reread.

Do not forget about interests and hobbies

What to give your mother-in-law based, for example, on herHobbies. Maybe she is an ardent fan of theaters or opera? Or maybe she can’t see the sky from her balcony because of her houseplants? Or maybe she has her own, albeit not very large, library at home? A hobby makes choosing a gift much easier, although it does not exclude the possibility of getting into trouble. For example, if your mother-in-law loves classical theater productions, you should not try to introduce her to modern art, this can be interpreted as imposing your personal tastes. Choose a houseplant wisely as well. Nowadays you can find very beautiful exotic flowers, but unfortunately, no matter how hard you try, they do not take root in our city apartments, or in our climate in general. And a ruined plant will only upset your mother-in-law. Everyone compiles a library based on personal preferences, so there is also a risk of guessing wrong here. The main thing is not to leave the choice of a gift until the last day, then you will have the opportunity to first clarify your mother-in-law’s preferences, and then travel around half the city, but find exactly what you need. Yes, the gifts described above are very simple and not expensive. However, in the case of relatives, money has no meaning. Even an insignificant thing, presented from the heart, will bring more joy than a diamond necklace, hastily chosen in a store.

Gifts, useful for body and soul

If yours has no obvious interests,There is no mother-in-law, which means that her hobby is herself. It is absolutely normal for a woman of any age to love herself, to pamper and cherish herself, to take care of herself. Such a woman can be given, for example, a membership to a spa salon. or a certificate to a good beauty salon. Or again a certificate to a cosmetic or jewelry store. The advantage of certificates is that the mother-in-law will be able to choose the product or procedure she needs herself. But an anti-cellulite cream or shampoo against hair loss can easily offend, no matter how much they cost, since they too clearly indicate the flaws in appearance. Agree, no woman will like this. If your mother-in-law spends more time in the kitchen than in front of the mirror, conquer her with a colorful cookbook, or look for a book for writing down recipes, preferably a thicker one, do not forget that your mother-in-law is an experienced woman, she probably knows a lot of recipes. Also, frying pans, saucepans and other kitchen utensils are never superfluous.

Do not forget that there are other holidays except the anniversary ..

What to give your mother-in-law for other holidays,less grandiose, but no less responsible in terms of gift selection? Mother's Day, your husband's and her son's birthday. By the way, if you really want to improve relations with your mother-in-law, be sure to find out when her name day is. She knows, believe me.. And if you don't forget to congratulate her, it will be a pleasant surprise for her. On such holidays, sometimes a bouquet of her favorite flowers, warm words and, of course, attention are enough. If you can't invite her to visit or come in person, try to talk on the phone for a long time, find out her news, problems, experiences, health condition, but also be sure to share your joys and sorrows, then she will feel that her opinion is important to you, that she is not a stranger. And this will be the best gift for any mother-in-law! In conclusion of all the above, I would like to add that you can find, if not a road, then a path to the heart of any person for sure. And no matter how expensive and correct your gift is, it will lose its value if it is not accompanied by warm words and a kind attitude. We recommend reading:

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