Joy or grief, resentment or pleasure,love and dislike - the feelings and emotions experienced by the child are as strong and varied as the adult, but not always he is able to properly express them. Most of the relationship between the newborn and mom is manifested in the views. The infant blinks, moves her hands, opens her mouth, mother responds by caressing, talking, melodic song, etc. The main moment of communication during this period is feeding, so breastfeeding is important, which contributes to the development of a deep emotional connection between mother and child. Darwin also noted that the language of emotions unites countries and peoples, regardless of their history, traditions and culture. The child naturally aspires to speak in this language, but not always he succeeds, and this problem can haunt him for many years and in the future negatively affect his psyche. Therefore, it is very important that parents and all adults who surround him help the child learn to understand and express their feelings and emotions, both positive and negative. Starting from 3 months of birth you can visit with your baby
. In the center will help your child grow healthy andhappy! The newborn has the ability to express what he feels, directly depends on his survival. He has two basic emotions: suffering and pleasure. When a baby feels any kind of anxiety - hunger, cold, pain, he immediately gives it a cry. Mom or someone else from adults in response to his signal eliminates the cause that caused this unpleasant sensation, and the child immediately calms down. If he does not see the desired reaction in response to his demands, his call for help becomes more insistent. And on the basis of how his requirements are perceived, satisfied or ignored, encouraged or rejected, the kid will build other, more complex emotional signals. Their diversity and ability to express their feelings grow with him. By one and a half months the child begins to smile consciously for the first time, and to four or five - to show his displeasure with an irritated cry or with piercing angry cries. Thus, to replace the state of general excitement, characteristic of the newborn at the time of anxiety, gradually more and more specific and conscious reactions, different depending on the emotions experienced. And here the influence of parents and other adults is of particular importance in terms of how the child evaluates his experiences, and therefore for the development of a tendency to express or suppress them. As a rule, adults tend to divide their feelings into positive ones - joy, satisfaction, love, gratitude - and encourage their outward manifestations in every possible way, and negative ones - anger, envy, jealousy - which, on the contrary, are met with obvious disapproval. However, such an assessment is typical for adults, and only for them, since the child himself is not yet able to see his feelings from the ethical point of view, he simply expresses them! This is his first test of relations with the world around him, so the psychological development depends on how much the child is given the opportunity to express what he feels. In some cases, adults not only seek to suppress negative emotions, but also disapprove of the excessively positive manifestation of the positive, thus making the child feel that these latter are not entirely acceptable. This is an unforgivable mistake! The child's emotions should in no case be suppressed, ridiculed or condemned. As a result, it may turn out that he will begin to hide his feelings, committing himself to obvious violence. Today, you can find a lot of literature on the psychology of raising a child in the family. Do not think that your baby is too young. Education should begin with the first birthdays. The child needs constant attention from his mother, he must feel her warmth, her scent, her love, but at the same time it must be remembered that boundless, blind love can raise a despot from your baby. To be able to love a child is to think a lot, to experience a lot, to look for, to give up fettering patterns, habits, prejudices. Being a parent means learning to love and respect yourself .... Read More