Almost before all young parents earlyor there is a late question about the need to give the child to a kindergarten, because, alas, but maternity leave can last a maximum of three years. And not every family has an opportunity to use the services of a nanny. And grandmothers do not always have the opportunity, and yes. which is a sin to hide, the desire to spend days with his grandchildren. Here - then to help parents and comes kindergarten. It's no secret that today it's very, very difficult to get to kindergarten. However, the problem of how to get into kindergarten will not be considered in the framework of this article. Often happens so that parents manage to achieve practically impossible - to receive a place in a kindergarten. However, they do not have time to rejoice at this, as they face an even greater headache - the child does not want to go to the kindergarten. And here very important adaptation of the child in a kindergarten. Of course, you can brush aside the child's unwillingness, ignore the wild screams in the morning and drive the child to the kindergarten forcibly, comforting that sooner or later he will get used to it. However, children's psychologists argue that this tactic of parents' behavior has a very negative impact on the fragile child's psyche. And often the consequences of such trips to a kindergarten can poison a child's life for many, many years. ... Read More

Rights of parents, children's rights. These words sound so often, then most people just do not pay any attention to them. And only a few people know what these enigmatic rights and duties of children and parents are. However, very often this knowledge is lacking just when they are very necessary. All the rights and duties of parents and children are divided into two main groups: property and personal. Property rights, in turn, are subdivided into alimony rights and obligations and property rights. At first glance, such a construction may seem complicated, but in reality it is not so. By the time you finish reading this article, you will be practically an expert in this field. Not so long ago, the light saw the new Family Code of the Russian Federation. There was a significant number of amendments and changes, which greatly facilitate the regulation of personal relationships between children and parents. In addition, the rights of the child are ensured by the conditions of the child's humane and correct educational process. If, of course, you will comply with these rules. ... Read More

Sooner or later comes the time whenThe grown up karapuz gets acquainted with a kindergarten. And what kind of acquaintance it will be - joyful or with daily tears - directly depends on the mood of the parents and the preliminary preparation for this event. In fact, the psychological adaptation of the baby to stay in kindergarten is not an easy task. After all, the child barely escaped from his chest, he became more independent and bold, when suddenly he finds himself in a completely unfamiliar situation, confused, without a mother. There are a number of typical mistakes that even the most enlightened parents often allow the child to go to kindergartens in Ufa, and which, as a rule, greatly aggravate the problem of the primary adaptation of the baby to the kindergarten: Mistake 1. The kid is given to a kindergarten because he has a brother or sister appears, and it is difficult for my mother to cope with both. Here the problem may arise in the fact that the older child is already having a difficult time experiencing the emergence of a "competitor", and now he is also "handed over" somewhere, in fact, they are getting rid of, as kids often think. Mistake 2. Before leaving the karapuza to the kindergarten, on family councils (in the presence of the future kindergartener) anxiously discuss all the negative aspects related to the forthcoming stay of the "poor child" among snotty, aggressive children without a mother. Such sentiments are very quickly transferred to the baby, and in the kindergarten he will go with anxiety and pessimism. Error 3. On the first day of visiting the kindergarten, the baby is taken home only in the evening. According to psychologists, children between the ages of 2 and 4 are very poorly oriented in time, and my mother's words "I'll come at 7 o'clock" do not say anything about the baby. But waiting for him may seem like an eternity. Mistake 4. When she brings her to the kindergarten, her mother enthralls him with new toys or socializing with children and quietly disappears, knowing that parting will not do without tears. And in this case, of course, all tears and hysterics will go to the teachers and nannies. And the kid will once again be convinced that the mother can throw it and disappear. Mistake 5. Listening to the child's endless complaints that everything in the kindergarten is "bad bully", my mother laments and does not know how to save her child. With this behavior, the child will increasingly believe that everyone is offending him, and do not like the kindergarten - a bad place. So, to go to a kindergarten without tears, you need to adhere to such advice of psychologists: in advance to show the kindergarten, fun playing children; on the first day leave a little for a little while; Do not run, but give the kid a chance to whimper and say goodbye; have an optimistic attitude and calmly help the kid solve all the problems that arise .... Read More

The role of the father in the upbringing of the boy is greatly overestimatedcomplicated. But do all parents know exactly what it is, this role? After all, the education of a boy is not an easy task, so it is necessary to take into account a large number of nuances, including such important as the participation of the father. Let's try with you to understand this question from "A" and to "I". The role of mother can not be overemphasized. She wears a baby under her heart, nurtures him with milk, carries it on her hands - in a word, gives him life and cares about his well-being. But Papa's destiny can not be underestimated. The man also contributes a lot to the upbringing of the child, to the development of his thinking, skills and worldview. Especially if the child is a boy! Very often mothers of grown sons complain that husbands are not engaged in raising a child at all. But, dear mothers, remember the first years of your child's life. Are not you yourself to blame for this? Very often, young mothers are jealous of their new position and do not let their father to the baby for a cannon shot. A man is not particularly upset. And not because he is a bad father and husband. Everything is much simpler - maternal love is instinctive, and paternal love is social. Simply put, the father learns to love his child. ... Read More

The child was missing ... Unfortunately, suchreports in the media are not uncommon. Dry statistics show that in Moscow alone, more than two thousand children are lost annually. But behind these figures are the real tragedies of each family. But, fortunately, in most cases, lost children fall into the arms of their mothers quickly enough. As a rule, most often children are lost in places where there is a very large crowd of people - on city holidays, in shopping centers, recreation parks, railway stations. And this is completely unsurprising, because, as a rule, in these places the attention of an adult is scattered - it has to be concentrated not only on the child, but also on some actions - the choice of the goods, his payment at the checkout and the like. And the children are not asleep - very many kids will not miss the chance to take advantage of my mother's confusion and go to explore the territory. Remember the song: "terribly interesting, all that is unknown!"? The child will run to watch something, and parents will have a panic - the child is gone! And, in addition, very often many children specifically run away from the mother, it is worthwhile only to release the baby's hand from his. For the child, all this is just a fun and exciting game - he is not yet able to appreciate all the danger of what is happening. And this innocent prank can be worth a lot of nerves - both yours and children's, because the kid will certainly be frightened, realizing that he was lost. ... Read More

Child aggression is a problem thatdisturbs a huge number of parents. And it's no accident - in recent years, more and more children have shown an excessive amount of aggression, which significantly complicates the process of social adaptation of the child in society. And in order for this process to proceed as smoothly as possible, parents should be aware of the causes that provoke child aggression, as well as how to deal with it. In order to understand the causes of child aggression and methods of combating it, it is necessary to know and prehistory - that is, all the features of child psychology from the very birth of the child. This is exactly what will be discussed in this article. The newly born baby is only able to experience two strong emotions: displeasure with something or pleasure. So, for example, if the baby does not experience any pain, does not feel hungry, and his diapers are dry, he shows only pleasure and positive emotions. These emotions, he can express - depending on his age - a calm sleep, serene walking or a smile. Otherwise, if the crumb experiences any discomfort, no matter what he is caused, he will not slow down very violently his discontent - he will kick legs, get out of your hands or just start to be very capricious and cry loudly. However, as the child grows, his protest actions begin to change, becoming more complex. The protest at the crumb begins to manifest through destructive actions, which he directs either to those people who, in his opinion, offended him, or to some dear things for these people. Very often young parents who first encounter such aggressive behavior of the child are very much afraid, assuming the worst - the presence of their child any serious problems with the psyche and even deviant behavior. Surely every child psychologist and psychotherapist can tell a lot of cases when to them on a reception to death frightened young parents brought hardly learned to go and talk crumbs, complaining about supposedly unmotivated aggression. However, this is far from the case - after all, aggression to any extent is inherent in absolutely any person. Psychologists explain this phenomenon by the fact that aggression is originally instinctive behavior, which is necessary for the individual (in this case we are talking about a person) to survive in the environment. In other words, aggression is one of the components of the most basic instinct of any living being - the instinct of self-preservation. However, it goes without saying that man differs from animals precisely by the ability to reason intelligently. And as the child grows and develops, he will gradually learn to translate his instinctive aggressive beginnings into those forms of expression that are acceptable in society. Speaking in the language of psychologists, a person, as he grows up, socializes aggressive initiatives. Children's aggression should disappear almost completely. In some cases, alas, a person, even if grown up, does not acquire the skills of self-control over his aggression. As a result, it is extremely difficult for such a person to live in a society of people. And in particularly serious cases, aggressive behavior can become so unmanageable that, in the end, an adult will either be in a psychiatric hospital, or even worse - in places not so remote. Agree, a very sad prospect ... That's why the important paramount task of all parents without exception is teaching the child to control his thoughts, feelings and behavior. However, very many parents go to this goal in a not quite correct way, just trying to suppress the aggression of the child. However, this can not be done in any case, since aggression is extremely necessary for the development of a person's quality. And in the event that parents suppress these negative emotions of the child, there is a very high risk that the resulting aggressive impulses, without finding an outlet, will appeal to the child himself - so-called psychologists will develop autoaggression. And as a result the child can cause very significant harm to himself. And there, even before the development of psychosomatic disorders, it is within reach. That is why the main thing parents should teach their child is to control their aggressive emotions, splashing them in a safe way. How can you effectively and safely defend your interests and rights, as well as protect yourself from the possible dangers of the outside world by a socially safe method without harming yourself, yourself or the people around you. In order to successfully cope with this task, parents must thoroughly understand all the issues related to the main reasons for the development of aggressive forms of behavior. Child psychologists distinguish three groups of causes, which become the main causes of the child's destructive behavior: ... Read More

Virtually all parents are strong enoughare concerned with all those issues that in one way or another concern the education and training of their child. And it's completely unsurprising - in our time all people have clearly learned that a good education is the key to success in life. And the prestige of the working professions is rapidly falling. Almost all parents who are interested in educational methods, sooner or later meet such a concept as personal-oriented learning. However, few of them understand what exactly this method is, and what disadvantages and advantages it has. And without this information, it is extremely difficult for parents to make a decision about whether it is necessary for them to have personally-oriented instruction for their child. On the Internet, you can easily find a huge amount of information about this method of education, but in almost all cases it will be almost completely incomprehensible to parents. And it is not surprising - after all, almost all such material was written by teachers for teachers. It abounds with a huge number of specific narrowly specialized terms and concepts, which it is practically impossible to understand without appropriate education. So what should parents do? It is for simple parents that this article is written. It is the most simple and accessible language described personally-oriented learning. You will be able to evaluate all its pros and cons, and also decide whether this method of teaching is suitable for your child. ... Read More

Smoking is a big problem of modernman and society as a whole. In ancient times, tobacco was considered a divine gift - tobacco smoke was used in occult rites and healing, in order to avoid wars, the "peace pipe" was lit up. Of course, modern people have often heard about the harm of smoking, its consequences and reflection on health. This is reported everywhere: the media, television and the Internet - information about the dangers of smoking is not a secret for anyone. All this - articles, photographs of patients, dependent on tobacco and cigarettes, depressing statistics and stories about other consequences of smoking - aimed at making people aware of the harm of smoking. So why in the world, every year, the number of people suffering from this terrible habit, is growing rapidly catastrophically? If earlier the bulk of smokers were male half of the population, today these rows are replenished not only by women, but also by teenagers and even by young children .... Modern youth starts to try cigarettes on average in 10 -12 years, of which a large half, addicted to this occupation, continues to smoke, gradually and not noticeably for themselves by increasing the number of cigarettes smoked per day. Starting with one cigarette a day and ending with regular systematic smoking. By the age of 17, one in ten young smokers already have a pronounced dependence on tobacco, despite the fact that even children in general are aware of the damage caused by smoking. ... Read More

Recently, more and more often from parentsyou can hear that their child is studying at home. And home schooling is of increasing interest. Perhaps you are also thinking about moving a child to home schooling? Home schooling is quite possible, but parents need to know some of the features of this procedure. There are several varieties of this form of training, each of which, despite common similarities, has its own distinctive features. This is exactly what will be discussed in this article. ... Read More

The birth of a baby, of course, brings a hugejoy for young parents and all relatives. However, after the first storm of emotions will pass, it is necessary to take care of the fact that the kid would become a full-fledged citizen, it is necessary to deal with the main issues: ... Read More