Find the right moment to inform the senior aboutadding to the family, I did not speak for a long time to my daughter that I was waiting for the baby. She herself did not believe in her happiness. I've wanted a child for so long! She said only on the fourth or fifth month. I collected them and said: "I have an important statement for you: you will have a brother or sister." Monica (a girl of five years old - Antenna note) was immediately delighted, she is very loving, and Alina at the age of 12 keeps all the emotions in herself, that's why she took the news seriously. Maybe she still remembered what it was like when Monica was born. At that character explosive, she active, loves attention, so that the elder then got.
A photo: Anna Sedokova's press office. Make the elderly involved with the expectation. I reminded my daughters that I was counting on their help, that they would feed me with the baby, feed them, and the girls were very happy about it. Monica did not go to the kindergarten without kissing my tummy. And Alina, as an adult, was insanely worried about me, watched that I did not lift anything heavy. In general, all the new members of the family were eagerly awaited. In order not to be torn between children, spend time together. What I did not expect was that with the advent of the third child, the process of putting everyone to bed will be the most difficult. Children all fall at one time. And they got used to having their backs scratched, fairy tales telling, and you just do not have so many hands. It was decided to sleep until the four of us, so that I would not be torn. And the girls have never complained that the brother wakes up at night. On the contrary, when my strength is running out and I'm ready to give up, suddenly Monica's hand with a pacifier stretches toward me in the dark. Monica and Alina help me sometimes and rock my brother and calm him. It's very valuable. Do not label the problem until it emerged. The appearance of a new person of the family dictates and changes the habitual way of life for everyone else. The child is keenly aware of this. And it can provoke jealousy. But we have a word such in the family vocabulary is simply missing. I am convinced: the wolf that feeds wins. If you give too much attention to the question of jealousy and constantly say to the elders: "Do not be offended, that your brother gets more, your mother loves you too", involuntarily become a victim of one's words, and one of the children will surely begin to feel deprived.
A photo: press office Anna SedokovaRasslablatsya and have fun with the family. In general, the third child is a large revaluation of values, you begin to focus on important things and pay less attention to small things. I'm an eerie perfectionist by nature. It has always been important for my daughters to be perfectly dressed, go to school with the perfect lessons. Dress the same three children in all clean, have time to feed everyone and send on their business was simply impossible. While you are engaged in the second, the first has already poured on itself a compote. I calm myself that it's okay if one day a daughter goes to school with a spot on her shirt. It is better to take care of your nerves, it seems to me, a quiet mother - a pledge of family happiness. Right now, for example, Monica does her homework while standing on the chair with her feet, shouting something and painting the notebooks. You need to have a strong nervous system, so as not to start shouting: "Sit on the ass, stop messing about," but just let her do the lessons as she likes. Although it's also for me, believe me, it's hard to give. Let the child be yourself, do not compare it with anyone, do not give extra reasons to feel imperfect Recently, for the first time, I had a lot of fights with Alina. Because of the fact that she spends a lot of time in the phone. In vain, I think. I, like all parents, sometimes get carried away in the process of creating the best copy of myself from children, I keep saying that it is easier to learn languages now than in 22, twine is now easier to sit down than at 44. I want them to avoid any problems, then the children like all children want that no one should touch them and just live. So we have to fight first with the daughters, and then with ourselves, reminding ourselves that they have their own way. And I do not have to worry about it, my children are wonderful, they are the main treasure in my life. Here's one came running and pulling his hand, so I went to do my homework. Be a team. But every child should have time to communicate with my mother alone. I teach girls to concentrate on good things, telling them that we are a family, a team that we need to support each other, that I can not manage without them, and my brother can not do without them, because they are the most important people in his life. Every child should feel needed, have a role in the house, and at the same time have a separate time to stay alone with his mother. The Untouchable. With Monica, for example, we daily do our homework together, with Alina walking with a dog. ... Read More