Gone are the days when lipstick on the collarshirt could become irrefutable evidence, exposing the unfaithful husband. Now lipstick firm have thought up which does not leave a trace, and it is possible to change, even not meeting in a real life. How to be, if you suddenly became concerned about the feeling that something went wrong in your relationship? Agree, it is not very pleasant to look at your beloved husband, and to think: "Something, dear, you're darkening ... .to find out what thoughts you have in your head!" Any woman will become nervous, suspecting that her husband started her change. The trouble is that because of our excessive suspiciousness and emotionality, the signs of betrayal of the husband seem obvious to us, we attach too much importance to any little things, and we often interpret them not quite correctly. And then we begin to get nervous, harass the husband with our suspicions and clarify the relationship. Not knowing how to behave properly in such a situation, we bring the spouse to a white heat, and it often happens that even an innocent man in treason speaks to himself - if they say they still scold me, so I'm in the very I'll go off for a walk. So at least it will not hurt, really it will be because of what scandal! Women should understand that explicit signs of a husband's infidelity are possible only when a man does not value relationships and does not seek to save a family. In all other cases, he will diligently clean up the tracks, leave no clues, and only the observant wife, paying attention to the sudden change in some habits of her husband, will be able to understand that he had a passion. To help you avoid unnecessary suspicions and vain excitements, we will tell you about the psychological characteristics of the behavior of a man deceiving his wife. 
What should alert you?
The most obvious signs of infidelity are: a sudden change in established habits, the emergence of secrecy, the reluctance to share the details of his life and the loss of interest in any manifestation of romance with his wife. Here's what changes in behavior you should pay attention to. Mention of a certain woman If he more and more often starts to mention in conversation the same woman, who has never before spoken so often. This may mean that the woman became the object of his desire. It is issued by its own subconscious - when we fall in love with someone, it becomes very difficult not to talk about it everywhere and always. Changing the image Your husband began to dress differently. He suddenly gave up hotly loved jeans and T-shirts and began wearing trousers and designer shirts, which you chose so lovingly for him, and he refused to wear them, insisting that in jeans he was much more comfortable? Yes ... He definitely wants to impress someone! Change of musical passions He somehow sharply changed his musical tastes. This can mean that certain music reminds him of her - your opponent. Of course, everyone can listen to completely different music, but if he suddenly switched from hard rock to gentle romances, this can not but arouse suspicion. Work on weekends and lower wages You notice a sudden and abrupt change in his working time and / or salary. It is very convenient to use work as an alibi! The man says that he now must work on the weekends, or should stay late at work. Of course, this may actually be, not always the delays at work - this is an excuse for emotions. But you understand that such a credit can not be permanent. In any case, it is worthwhile to see how this affects his salary. By the way, the way he spends money can also say a lot. If he spends too much money and can not explain it, or he was suddenly "cut his salary" for no reason at all, then you already have reason to believe that he spends money on someone else. Getting Away from Home You suddenly realize that he spends more and more time outside the home. The husband, who started an affair on the side, is constantly looking for a good excuse to get out of the house. If so far he was a chronic lover of a man's four-legged friend - a sofa, and then suddenly he was drawn to walk with the guys, then to help his parents by the house - it's time for you to become alert. If he says, for example, that he will go on a weekend to visit his second cousin (whom you, by the way, can not tolerate, which is well known to your faithful), then take, and call your husband several hours after he was supposed to to come there. Just pretend that you just want to ask how he got there. Just call not on your mobile husband, but on your relative's home phone. And if he is not there, then now you can call the mobile and it's very innocent to ask where he is now. And from his answer will depend on what conclusion you should do. A change in the behavior of his friends His friends or colleagues who used to communicate with you quite naturally, suddenly begin to feel uncomfortable in your presence? This may mean that they know more about your husband than you do. They, of course, will cover it (male solidarity has not been canceled yet!), But eloquent signs of a man's betrayal are not only in his attitude towards you, but also in relation to you of his friends. In any case, you can not help noticing that they begin to treat you with pity and concern. Sharp jumps of mood Your husband suddenly becomes very irritated, and at times he falls into a bad mood and even depressed. Then he begins to look for an excuse to quarrel with you and demonstratively leave the house, then he starts asking if you are happy with him, whether his attitude toward the family is happy. This may be a sign of a mid-life crisis, and he may indeed be tormented by the realization of the worthlessness of his life. Or maybe a sign of his feelings of guilt in front of you. In any case, if he begins to get bored and remember the years of his youth, then this should already alert you. Sudden Internet addiction you notice that he spends more and more time on the Internet. Now it's so easy to communicate with your mistresses right under your wives! True, many people like to hang in the net, but if the husband has changed his habit of watching the movie every night with him for correspondence by e-mail behind closed doors in another room, then there must be a good reason for that. Secret conversations on the mobile phone A lot of the habit will tell her husband to hide her cell phone from you. Of course, do not rummage in the phone of her husband in search of evidence of his treason - it's just dishonorable. But you should take note if he began to carry the phone with him, moving around the apartment, whereas before he just threw a mobile phone, wherever he fell or turned it off, as soon as he went home. Or he constantly writes and receives messages. Or he says that he is called from work and goes to talk in another room, and he talks in a whisper. You understand that you do not speak to your colleagues, lowering your voice to a whisper! Changes in intimate life And the most accurate signs of betrayal of her husband - if he lost interest in you and ceased to engage in sex with you. Most likely, he gets it somewhere else. Do not believe in excuses like "I'm tired" - no healthy man can last a long time without sex. And if so far he wanted you to have sex two or four times a week, and now he himself almost never initiates love caresses, then this can indicate the presence of treason. It happens the other way round: he suddenly starts to demand a lot of sex and wants to try new positions and techniques. This may indicate that he received new ideas somewhere on the side.
Do not rush into conclusions
If you find any of the husband's behaviorabove signs, do not rush to panic or immediately start disassembling. Remember that changes in behavior can simply be changes in behavior and nothing more. People change over time, and our husbands are no exception. It may be that your husband really cares about something, but this is not due to his love affairs. And he hides his experiences because he just does not want to disturb his beloved wife with some of his troubles. And then, one or two signs can only alert, but can not be grounds for accusation. It's worth simply looking more closely at your spouse, trying to understand what is happening to him. And only when there is no room for doubt and you will have concrete evidence of treason, you can begin to act. 
What's next?
Having convinced that your spouse has deceived you, you canfeel deeply hurt and this is understandable. Usually women experience a strong sense of uncertainty. What will happen next? How to proceed? Run away or forgive her husband? Will he leave or stay? You must decide how you will proceed. It would be best, of course, to talk with her husband. Only you must be guided by specific facts, not guesses and rumors. Stay calm while talking to your husband. Do not attack him at all with accusations. If at the very beginning of the conversation you lose self-control, your conversation will not be constructive, because the spouse is likely to take a defensive position and will not want to be frank with you. Tell your husband about what changes in his behavior make you nervous, ask him to explain them to you. Give him a chance to calmly explain, listen carefully to everything he wants to tell you. Do not be angry, do not interrupt him. If he is really guilty before you, he may name such reasons, which you will not be very pleased to know. For example, he will say that he really misses your warmth in a relationship, or that you have ceased to follow your appearance and no longer look attractive and feminine. In any case, it should be remembered that any signs of a man's infidelity show that he is looking for something that he lacks in marriage on the side. Whatever the reasons, you must give your family a chance to stay in touch. Of course, if you still love each other. We advise you to read:
