Some people go to the sea in search of adventure, andsomeone - to improve their health or just to escape from everyday life. However, often our compatriots who go to hot countries are interested in resort romances. If you could not resist the onslaught of passion, then returning to real life will not be so easy. Our advice will help you get out of a love affair with the least losses and enjoy such a thing as a resort romance.
Features of the resort novel
Every woman, leaving for warmer climes,subconsciously prepares herself for flirting and romantic adventures. Therefore, when she arrives at the resort, she makes it clear to others with all her behavior that she is ready to start a new relationship. Single men really understand that women are on the beach with exactly the same goal as they are. Therefore, without wasting time, the newly minted machos use all the methods of seduction known to them. Resort romances have their own specifics. Do not hope that the handsome stranger you liked was inflamed with tender feelings specifically for you: most likely, any other woman could have been in your place. You just happened to be in the right place at the right time. Let's leave naivety aside. Are you still sure that you had love at first sight? You already experienced exactly the same feelings, or rather a flash of feelings, several years ago, when the relationship with your future husband was developing, and which subsequently grew into marriage. So where did your tender experiences go? The thing is that on vacation our demands on men are lower, and we feel quite relaxed. And if in everyday life we only recognize smart, caring, handsome, wealthy and God knows what other men as worthy partners, then on a resort a funny joke and a tasty cocktail are enough for us to start an acquaintance. That is why resort romances rarely turn into something more. Consider the fact that on vacation many people have more free time to look well-groomed, cultured, nice, charming and irresistible. Imagine your new acquaintance in a different situation, when he has a rush job, his car has broken down, and his child has a sore throat. Believe me, in the best case, your angel will turn into the most ordinary man, and in the worst case... I don’t even want to talk about it. Many men on a resort pretend to be someone they are not. How, for example, can you check that your man is actually the owner of a prestigious jewelry salon? Or maybe he just overheated in the sun and is delirious? The cute boy you met on your way may actually be a polygamist, a repeat offender, or just a gigolo. Before you let things go, think a hundred times whether you need extra problems that can lead to huge troubles. Calculation and pragmatism are one of the easiest ways to get the holiday romance out of your head upon returning from vacation. After all, in this case, the woman knows in advance that after resting and relaxing in the arms of the chosen object, she will calmly say goodbye to him without unnecessary pangs of conscience and return to the bosom of her family, plunging headlong into ordinary everyday life. Therefore, if you still decide to have a holiday romance, it is very important to develop the right attitude and strategy of behavior so that it brings you only pleasant emotions.
Tips for "lovers"
So, you are ready for love and romance.You've had a rest and look good, you're in a great mood and fighting spirit. What to do next? We've put together a short list of recommendations on how to start a holiday romance; our recommendations will help you experience all its charms and joys.
- At the beginning of the holiday do not rush to the firsta fallen man, and observe everyone who surrounds you. Roman on vacation, of course, is not the choice of a life partner, but his hero should be treated with due attention.
- Don't forget about your self-esteem:Flirt, but in a beautiful and elegant way - so that the man does not think that you are throwing yourself at him. Remember that he is a hunter by nature, and your behavior should inflame his instincts and imagination.
- Do things you wouldn't dare to do in everyday life.life - that's what a holiday romance is for! Right now you can turn your vacation from an ordinary holiday into an unforgettable adventure. Just don't forget about the laws and rules of conduct at the hotel!
- A holiday romance should give you confidencein itself, and not take away the strength. So do not focus on how you look, what you do and how you behave. Relax, relax and enjoy everything that happens to you!
How to part?
Surviving a holiday romance is often not easyIt's that simple. In fact, everything depends very much on your marital status. For a married woman, the best option would be to end the relationship. You don't want to "drag" them into your family life, do you? Therefore, when breaking up, observe the taboo: no addresses, phone numbers or meetings to avoid the temptation to renew the relationship. However, not all women have such reasonable qualities. In most cases, amorous, tender and vulnerable ladies, having started a holiday romance, lose their heads and leave their new companion with a broken heart. In such a situation, it is better to move away from the object of your passion than to have the opportunity to run into him and silently suffer from unrequited love. In a word, out of sight - out of mind! If you are an unmarried woman, then we do not advise you to delude yourself too much either. As written above, a holiday romance has a number of features due to which it seems especially bright, beautiful and romantic. But it is not a fact that if you met this same man in your hometown, you would not only date him, but even just talk to him. The sea, the sun and the lack of tension create a special atmosphere, which makes a holiday romance so attractive. However, it is worth remembering that nothing is impossible in the world, especially in love, and if you are a single woman looking for love, not romantic adventures, and if you are really hooked on a relationship with this man, you can try to communicate by phone or email at first. What if something serious comes out of this unpromising holiday romance? You never know!
Homecoming
So, unforgettable, full days are left behinddays and nights of love spent in the company of a new companion. Now you have to cope with the bitterness of separation and adapt to real life in your hometown. Several days have already passed since returning from the resort, and you still can’t come to your senses? Remember that the main assistant in this matter is time, which, as they say, heals, including romantic relationships, or rather what is left of them. In the meantime, plunge headlong into work, and then you simply will not have time to remember the various stupid things that happened to you on vacation. After all, what was, long ago passed and will never return ... Now it's time to return to household and official duties. Moreover, during your absence, your spouse has managed to miss you and will certainly arrange an unforgettable meeting for you. So is it worth regretting a momentary passion when a reliable and proven loved one is nearby? Often, resort romances in a married woman indicate a lack of attention and new impressions in her family life. That is why the option of plunging headlong into household chores after a vacation is not suitable for everyone: it happens that this only intensifies the contrast between passionate love affairs “on the side” and the boring routine with your husband. Do you want everything to be different? Start making changes in your life! Invite your husband on a romantic date: an expensive restaurant where you come in elegant outfits, a walk through the beautiful places of your city and a luxurious hotel room can add zest and spice to what has long seemed bland. Just do not overdo it with the pressure, otherwise your husband may suspect you of cheating. By the way, about cheating. This word instantly triggers a reaction that only intensifies the negative consequences of a holiday romance, namely - a feeling of guilt. If you are married or in a long-term relationship with a man, then there is a high probability that you will also experience this problem. It is precisely in order to protect you from it that we wrote above about a rational and pragmatic attitude to a holiday romance. On vacation, the soul asks for a holiday, an integral part of which is love and romance. However, if you are still tormented by remorse, you should carefully weigh all the pros and cons. After all, telling your husband about cheating, you are simply transferring the burden of responsibility “from a sick head to a healthy one”: this will not improve the situation, you will only make an innocent person suffer. You can try to reconsider your attitude to cheating, because a romance on vacation is not love, but just a stormy passion and rest. But you continue to love your husband! If the feeling of guilt continues to torment you, try going to a psychologist - he can help you cope with the unpleasant consequences of a holiday romance. Thus, like everything in our life, a holiday romance has its beginning and its end. If you treat him right, he can bring into your life what is missing: passion, romance or variety. But don't expect anything more from him and suffer if something goes wrong. Only in this case you are guaranteed all thirty-three pleasures and no headaches!
