Problems in sex are quite a thingcommon, occurring equally often in both men and women. They occur not only in those who have some kind of disease. There are quite a lot of seemingly healthy people who are dissatisfied with their intimate life, and their number is increasing almost every day. The reason for psychophysical and psychological problems in sex is a discrepancy between the erotic part of the psyche and physiology. You can treat this in any way you like, but the fact remains - sexual dissatisfaction negatively affects the general condition of a person. Time goes by, and both the nervous system and the entire body suffer from this. After all, intimacy is not only a means of procreation, but also a way to relieve psychological stress, which has become an invariable companion of most of us today. So what are the problems with sex in the stronger and weaker sexes and is it possible to somehow combat them?
Problems in sex in men
There is probably no completely complete one in the worlda man who has not encountered at least once one or another problem in sex. Such cases are very unpleasant, and if repeated, they cause fear, provoking the emergence of even greater difficulties. In principle, many failures in intimacy in the stronger sex are a phenomenon that can be corrected. What are the usual sexual problems in men?
- Difficulties with erection
One of the most common problems with sexmen can be considered to have certain erectile dysfunctions. Actually, these disorders are a relative concept. Some consider an erection that is insufficient for sexual intercourse to be a deviation from the norm, some consider it sufficient but occurring once a week, and some consider it normal but short-lived. There are men whose erection is enough for two three-minute sexual acts a day. There are also those who are capable of full-fledged, but infrequent copulations. In principle, you should sound the alarm and look for ways to cure it only after a complete lack of potency. As for other situations, there is no need to panic yet. Who knows what reasons have caused this state of affairs? Sexologists claim that erectile dysfunction can appear after injuries, surgeries, after taking certain medications, with hormonal imbalances, with vascular diseases. In addition, fear and various stresses affect the state of male potency. And finally, a lot depends on the partner. Perhaps this is not the woman you want. Or, on the contrary, that one, but it inspires timidity. But who knows what creates such a problem in sex! Its essence is that the erection program seems to start, but the quality of its work is unsatisfactory. Well, the penis does not increase as it should, and not for the time it should, and that's it! Of course, in some cases, you cannot do without a specialist who can provide qualified assistance. But there are also situations when you can cope with this problem with sex if you always create the most suitable conditions for an erection. Often, an environment corresponding to good potency or a suitable partner do their job much better than the most competent specialist.
- Failures in the speed of ejaculation
Ejaculation disorders are one of the mostcommon male problems with sex. They usually involve premature ejaculation, almost immediately after the start of stimulation of the penis. But it can also be difficult. Such problems in sex can often be dealt with without the intervention of a sexologist. In general, the time of ejaculation depends on the man's age, his sexual experience, the length of time he has known his partner, and when he last had sex. Ejaculation very shortly after the start of stimulation often occurs due to strong excitement, in the presence of some nervous system disorders, from embarrassment or excessive overexcitement. Difficult ejaculation is observed during stress, due to alcohol or drug use, or an inappropriate atmosphere. Special techniques help restore the normal time of ejaculation, allowing a man to control his sexual behavior. The training they provide is the most effective therapy for such a sexual problem. They teach the ability to focus attention on the body in moments of complete relaxation and independently determine the moment of orgasm. These are fairly simple techniques for regulating ejaculation and their application is not difficult at all.
- Size and shape of the penis
Male members vary in length, thickness and evencurvature. These features of the penis structure sometimes cause its owner a lot of trouble. Thus, the small size of the penis creates some inconvenience during sexual intercourse, forcing its owner to feel inferior. As a result, intimacy becomes a test for him that negatively affects the psyche. A large penis also does not relieve problems with sex. In addition to the fact that it can cause painful sexual intercourse for the partner and even injure her; an impressive organ cannot always achieve the necessary state of erection. Because for this state it simply does not have enough blood flow. As for the geometry of the penis, sometimes it is so curved that it is impossible to insert it into the woman's vagina. Doctors, as a rule, advise plastic surgery in such cases. It must be said that its success is questionable. No, the size and shape of the organ, of course, can be adjusted to the standard. But what to do with the subconscious memory of past problems with sex, which cannot be destroyed? There is a high probability that after a single misfire, this memory will cause a malfunction of the entire sexual system of the body. And what the consequences will be is unknown. What should men do then, who have a specific size and shape of the penis? After all, in intimacy there are many ways to reach the peak of pleasure. So why not use them, giving pleasure to both yourself and your partner? Well, we have talked a little about the most basic problems with sex in men. Now let's see what difficulties in bed women usually experience.
Sexual problems in women
It must be said that the weaker sex is faced withproblems in sex more often than the stronger sex. And this happens because most ladies do not consider certain shortcomings of intimacy to be problems. Well, sex with a husband occurs without any special sensations, so what? Is he satisfied? Satisfied. So, everything is fine. And then nervous breakdowns, depressions, psychoses begin, out of nowhere, diseases appear. And life becomes joyless and dull. And intimacy with a husband begins to cause disgust. All because His Majesty Sex does not forgive a careless attitude towards himself. So what kind of sexual problems do women have?
- Anorgasmia
Anorgasmia is the inability to perform sexual intercourse.to reach orgasm, which is observed in almost a third of women. It can exist both from the very beginning of sexual life and arise after a long period of normal sex with the husband. Moreover, often outside of sexual intercourse - during masturbation, petting, during erotic dreams - orgasm is likely. It also happens that it does not occur only during intimacy with the husband. But with someone else it is quite acceptable. The reasons for the occurrence of such a problem in sex in women are usually stress, neuroses, lack of sensual connection with a partner, hormonal disorders and some diseases. The occurrence of anorgasmia and the perception of intimacy as something shameful or intended only for procreation provokes. Elimination of such a problem in intimacy lies, first of all, in changing the attitude to sex in general and to intimacy with the husband in particular. A woman should understand that the quality of sex depends not only on the state of her physical and mental health, but also on the well-being in her personal life. After all, it is poor intimacy that is the main cause of conflicts with her husband. This awareness is enough to start looking for ways to get rid of sex problems. They will certainly be found.
- Frigidity
Frigidity is sexual coldness,which is either a very low libido or its complete absence. Frigid women are not capable of strong arousal before sexual intercourse. Although they can get pleasure from it and orgasm. But at the same time, they either have no need for sex at all, or they have it, but it is very weak. Frigidity manifests itself in different ways. It happens that a lady does not feel attraction to intimacy with her own husband, while some other man could easily excite her. And it happens that passion in a young lady, with the likelihood of pleasure from the process of copulation itself, cannot be awakened by anyone at all. In general, frigidity is usually explained by a conflict between the body and mind. A woman simply psychologically ignores either a specific representative of the stronger sex, or this sex in general, in a sexual relationship. It is quite possible that after meeting a suitable partner, all her sexual coldness will disappear as if by magic. Especially if you create an environment suitable for intimacy, allowing you to relax as much as possible. And devote the right time to foreplay. In general, the higher the intellectual level of a person, the more prone he is to various intimate complexes. These complexes are most often the cause of problems in sex, usually based on some fears. If you determine what kind of fear it is and try to reduce it to a minimum using some available methods, the sexual problem will disappear. Well, and if you can’t cope with it on your own - well, you’ll have to seek help from a specialist. We recommend reading:
