Almost all the girls, planning their lives, dreammeet a free man and give him a heart together with an anonymous finger on his right hand. For an engagement ring. But sometimes it happens that a person already having a family starts to take care of a young lady. And to look after beautifully and persistently, claiming that she feels fervent feelings for her. On the one hand, he does not really believe him, because the stamp is in the passport! And on the other hand, I want to believe, because a man likes. And here's what to do? Can a married man really fall in love with a girl and should he be reciprocated?
Can a married man fall in love with another woman
Marriages, they say, are in heaven. And if so, then the hearts of the spouses must belong to each other and no one else. This is ideal. But in reality, everything is different. Marriages are in the registry office and not always they are based on a true deep feeling. It happens that people create a family by necessity, they unite, based on considerations of calculation, because relatives so wanted, this person is comfortable and so on. And it happens that a guy and a girl enter into an official union under the influence of love, which eventually disappears without a trace. But after all, a man is married, not married, he remains subject to the feelings of man. And when to the wife of special attraction is not present, like the true before the husband without ceremony falls in love with other woman. Whether this is subject to condemnation is another matter. The fact remains that if the heart is free, it can become attached to some young lady. And you can not order him. And a married man can fall in love unexpectedly for himself in his co-worker, the first girlfriend and even a friend of his own wife. Everyone suffers such a situation in their own way. Someone silently suffers, realizing that he is not free and does not seem to have any moral rights to third-party love. And someone flies from the reel and forgets everything in the world, trying with all his might to achieve the reciprocity of the object of love. This especially applies to guys who marry at a fairly early age for marriage. A young man who has barely crossed the threshold of twenty years in his wife sees the mother rather than the woman who should be guarded and protected. Initially, this state of affairs suits him. But then, having matured, he wants to be independent already. In order to prove his independence, a mature husband, consciously or unconsciously, starts looking for one that will help in strengthening this independence. And, of course, he finds and seriously takes a great interest, not particularly thinking about the consequences. A man who has lived with his wife for a couple of decades is able to get a grip on another woman's ears. The reasons that the men, whose years of youth have long passed, fall in love like boys, a lot. Then you and boredom, and the predictability of relations in the family, and lack of attention on the part of the wife, and the desire for novelty, and the desire to take a look at what did not walk in his youth, and the search for a kindred spirit, and drilling into the edge of a demon ... At this age, often take a great interest in the young lady after she accidentally visits her bed. New sensory sensations, arising from the possession of an unfamiliar body, deprive them of their ability to think soberly. Sometimes this state does not last long. And sometimes it makes a man completely lose his head. In a word, having a family and even children, a man may well fall in love with some young lady. And to fall in love seriously. And what should the girl do in this case? No, if he absolutely does not like and absolutely does not fit, this question does not arise. Categorically reject courtship, and deal with the end. But you often like it and it's right! How to be in this case?
What attracts a romance with a married man
In fact, the novels of free women with familymen today often meet. There are not even very moralizing people who hunt precisely on devoted women to successful men. I do not think it's necessary to explain the successful ones. And why on the devotees? Yes, because faithful husbands do not differ tempted in dealing with the opposite sex. They are easier to seduce. A request for help, admiration for the mind and actions, a few appealing, tender, rather frank looks - and the wife in your hands. And there already as it is necessary. Someone from his mistresses is trying to break up the family with all his strength, but somebody is satisfied with what will fall. This applies to women who are ready to communicate with a married man and who represent beforehand what such a connection threatens. However, often in such a trap, inexperienced ladies in these matters come across, experiencing to their knight is not mercantile interest at all! It's no wonder - he is usually attentive, caring, romantic, not rude, always looks good. In addition, it does not bother every day, does not impose itself, does not demonstrate its shortcomings, trying to show itself only from the best side. A fairy tale, not a man! The woman's heart stretches toward him more and more, and her reason is resisted less and less. As a result, a stormy and sometimes rather long novel begins. If so to judge, then it's even cool. Well, who among us does not dream about relationships that are not clouded by any domestic problems? They met, admired each other, namilovalis and dispersed. He does not know how dented we sometimes look in the mornings, does not require hearty lunches and dinners, does not reproach for not sewn on the button in time. We, in turn, have no idea how many gentlemen are sitting in the toilet, how loudly he snores at night and where he manages to put his dirty laundry. And in general, whether it happens, it's his dirty laundry. A novel with a man who has a family is attractive due to his unpredictability, which significantly influences the depth of feelings. The unexpectedness of meetings and the inability to enjoy them fully, without regard for the fact that a loved one has a wife, give the relationship (if they are not based on benefits) a certain aura of elevation. What incredibly captivates young romantic people. And if we are just like that, then we can rush into the embrace of a married man, forgetting everything in the world. But this is something you should not do. Since in such relationships - a lot of sad nuances, it is usually impossible to do without.
Negative side of the novel with a married man
No matter how noble a charactera woman, if she meets a married man, then in most cases cherishes a dream to take him away from the family. However, this is extremely rare. Even if the mistress is much younger, more beautiful, fresh already orderly bored wife. Because even the ears in love with some lady ladies are afraid of the cardinal changes that break the habitual way of life. They can suffer, torment themselves in doubt, rush from one woman to another. But as a result, there is no choice. Under the influence of falling in love, a family man will deceive his wife and lie to his mistress, promising to marry her. No, his lies are not at all the realized meanness of an egoist who thinks only of himself. It is rather self-deception, drowning out the voice of conscience. Say, since I fell in love, I will certainly divorce. But after. After all, the wife is a close person, and it's impossible to hurt her too severely. "Later", as a rule, never comes. Of course, there are exceptions. It happens that a man really leaves the family with intentions to create an alliance with another woman. And this union even turns out, and it turns out not bad. However, who will give a guarantee that he will not be pulled at least from time to time to the previous family, especially if there are children there? And that he will not long for the favorite chair, adored dog, comfortable slippers, finally? Whatever the marriage, it does not pass without a trace. And the second wife will never be the first. However, truly loving people can experience such vicissitudes of relations. If a man and a woman really do not think life without each other, and for this he goes to extreme measures and leaves the family. But the point is that one is being solved for such an act! The majority prefers to leave everything as is. Because his wife habitually quarrel and put up, remain silent or discuss slippery topics, go to visit and attend some activities or lie on the couch. Next to it you can relax, spit on the need to be always in shape and care in communication. The spouse will accept much without prejudice and will forgive much or even will not notice. And how it turns out with another woman, it is unknown. Love in love, but one must look at such things realistically. If a man is able to think rationally, then it will come out. He does not dare to part with a little boring, but to the smallest familiar family life for the sake of a dubious future with his mistress. Mistress is for the soul and body. That is for the outlet. It's a pleasure to spend time with her. And because this time is limited, it is more pleasant than doubling. And why should you be ready in this case, a lady who fell head over heels in love with a married man?
In a word, a romance with a married man promises a lot of trouble. Can the occurrence of such troubles be minimized and how?
When and how you can decide on an affair with a married man
In general, with married men in general to communicateit is undesirable. But sometimes it happens that we learn about the family status of the gentleman after the relationship with him has crossed the friendly stage. If you reason with reason, then the connection should be immediately broken. However, this is not always the case. There are many reasons for this. Then you and feelings, and common interests, and even some inexorable circumstances ... If it so happened that the novel was the least painful, the girl should preferably take herself in hand and adjust their attitude to the lover. First of all, you need to throw out the idea of his divorce. Just throw it away, that's all. This will make it easier to treat the lack of attention on the part of the beloved and easier to survive the separation from him, if it becomes inevitable. Well, and in the second turn to try to live a full life - to be independent, carried away by something woman, not refusing from acquaintances and flirting with other men. Of course, not everyone can behave in this way. But if we do not have a pretty strong character, are impatient and unable to control their emotions, it is better to bypass the tenth road in general! Otherwise, the suffering will be prepared for us. In theory, a relationship with a family person can be supported if it is right to approach them. That is, initially perceive a gentleman, as a convenient, providing some kind of services to a friend. Let him be, for example, a friend helping to solve domestic issues, a sexual partner, a sponsor, a "patron saint," by anyone, but not an object for a marriage. As there will be further, destiny will decide. In the meantime, we are setting ourselves up for the usefulness of men. But only. Quite frankly, this is a somewhat cynical approach to communication with someone's husband. But if such a connection is impossible to exclude, then it is the only way to protect yourself from pain and disappointment. After all, give only the will to emotions - and write is gone! Drown in tears and unpromising dreams, which in most cases will not come true. Yes, to control oneself when in love is very difficult. But let's look at the situation from a different angle. What does a woman need from a man? Reliable support and protection. And what reliable support can come from a ringed man who devotes the lion's share of strength and time to his wife and children? He will not rush at the first call, he will not rush to solve the problems of his mistress, forgetting about his own, will not call every minute if she is in trouble, will not spend all the money for her needs. In the first place there will always be a family. And it is unlikely that something will be done to her to the detriment. In general, women who associate with married men fall into two categories. The first belongs to those who dream of marrying a lover. They can persistently and patiently develop such relationships, intending to give them the status of serious ones. Ladies of the second category to create with not free chevalier family do not aspire at all. In some cases, they decide to have a child from him, but they do not pretend to be the wife. These young ladies, as a rule, specifically look for good family men, considering them more interesting, informative and reliable. Quite strongly, they are only able to become attached to self-sufficient, something realized men, to whom, in the opinion of individuals of this type, bachelors do not belong. Focused on communication exclusively with married ladies are ready for all the inconveniences of such relationships. They are not very upset if the boyfriend does not call for a long time, or when he meets all the time he looks at his watch in time to get home by the due time. But those who live with the idea to marry a lover, it is difficult. Not only should you carefully weigh every word and every act, so as not to offend your loved one or scare your perseverance. It is also necessary to adjust to his rules of life - to call only at a certain time, to forgive unfulfilled promises, to suffer short-term infrequent meetings. In addition, there is always the danger of steep confrontations with a noble gentleman. And this is also not very happy. Of course, there is a chance that a married man will once appreciate such patience, understand that losing such a devoted and loving woman of death is like, divorces and will hand over herself to the mistress with all the giblets. But the chance is so small. If we, while taking this fact into account, are still willing to wait for years, sometimes despairing and falling into depression, we give freedom to the development of relations. But remember at the same time that time inexorably leaves its imprint on the appearance of a woman. It is possible that in five years' time a loved one will want someone younger and fresher. And with what then will we stay? With a broken heart and unrealized hopes. And it's good if we can recover from the blow and find a person for life. And if not? So is not it better to try to pull yourself together and give up doubtful relationships? After all, the family is not a bump on the road, you can not easily cross it. Men's nature is arranged in such a way that no matter how devoted their husbands are to a wife, they all have an interest in other women. Undoubtedly, this interest can grow into something more, and if a man has seriously fallen in love and enchanted the young lady, lead, in the end, to a stunning novel. Therefore, to assert that a married man turns a mistress only for entertainment purposes, it is impossible. Often in such acts there are feelings. To answer them in return or not is an individual matter. In the end, we choose our own way. And only us on it to go. We advise you to read: