They say that the weaker sex with its quirksmanages to eat away the brains of the stronger half of the human race. Yeah, yeah... As if we can't stand all these different male complexes, from which there is simply no escape. As soon as you meet a guy, at least one of these complexes will certainly be discovered in him. Well, what can you do! Even the bravest Achilles had a vulnerable heel. What can we say about ordinary men, who sometimes have more than one weak spot! Everything would be fine - people are imperfect and tend to succumb to some fears and doubts. But how often this or that male complex causes a lot of inconvenience and even suffering to the fair sex! The worst thing about this is that many women take men's complexes for granted and even try to adapt to them. But in vain. Because you don't need to adapt, but to help your loved one get rid of such an internal flaw. Otherwise, it can easily turn into a serious psychological problem, which only specialists will be able to deal with. Now we will discuss how this can be done. Of course, we all have some individual weaknesses, which are often integral personality traits. However, there are a number of psychological complexes that are predominantly characteristic of the strong half of humanity. Moreover, even the most worthy men have them, sometimes forcing them to seriously worry about the fact that such worries, in principle, are not worth it. Because these are just quirks that should be treated accordingly. Well, who in a man can develop such an attitude, if not a woman?! Yes, but how can you develop it if you have no idea what this or that male complex is? Naturally, it is difficult to discuss all of them, but we will now consider the most basic ones.

Fear of very attractive women

This male complex, it must be said, is weakhalf of the human race causes some bewilderment. Well, it would seem, what are they afraid of beautiful ladies? After all, they, on the contrary, should cause the desire of the overwhelming majority of the stronger half to immediately acquire such a wife! Not so. It is this "overwhelming majority" that is afraid not only of acquiring a beautiful wife - even of meeting an overly spectacular young lady. And if someone does decide, then he stops being afraid of his other half only when she looks a little more impressive than a monkey. No, of course, we know from many sources that written beauties are incredibly lucky in life, and they all marry tall handsome men. Nothing of the sort. Those who are really lucky are few and far between. Most often, next to the "tall handsome men" you can see an ordinary gray mouse or just a nice woman as a wife. And why is that? Because many men, even very worthy ones, think that if she were a beauty, almost the entire male race would hunt her. And among the hunters there will always be those who shoot better and look more impressive. In other words, beauties, they say, make unfaithful wives, and women with rather modest external data do not pose a threat in terms of cheating. In fact, this is complete nonsense. Often the opposite happens: a beautiful wife knows her worth and does not intend to say "yes" to everyone who desires her. And some unpleasant-looking young ladies, in order to raise their self-esteem, are ready to say this "yes" to almost everyone. Only when one of the men manages to deserve the attention of a beauty, he willingly talks about it. And even comes up with all sorts of piquant things. And if the victory was over an ugly woman, then who of them will brag about it? That is why it is often much easier for ugly women who cheat on each other to save their good name than for very attractive women who are not at all inclined to cheat. But many representatives of the stronger sex with a complex of fear of beauty think differently, and you can’t argue with male logic. So what should a spectacular young woman do if her beloved turns out to be one of these representatives and does not hint at the registry office? Marry a more courageous, but completely unloved man? Alas, this happens quite often. Although you can do otherwise and help your loved one get rid of his complex. You just need to regularly, but tactfully praise some of his external merits - hands, hair, voice, and so on, - all the time hinting at the man’s exclusivity. True, you need to do this carefully, otherwise he will become arrogant and rush to some other beauty.

Fear of becoming henpecked

This male complex is intensively cultivatedsociety and has its roots in the childhood of our faithful. The fear of becoming a henpecked husband is expressed in the fear of a woman limiting a man's independence. Its appearance and development are influenced by both maternal upbringing and the influence of peers. Boys usually do not approve if one of their friends is too loyal to girls, obeys their wishes, carries out orders, and so on. Real guys, they say, should not allow control from the female sex at all! Otherwise, they are not “real guys”, but weaklings. In fact, peers themselves are not the main reason for the appearance of a henpecked husband complex. Well, so what, in childhood, boys tried with all their might to show their superiority over girls! So what? Many of them, growing up and falling in love, knock childish nonsense out of their heads, change and become gallant gentlemen and excellent husbands. A similar male complex usually develops in those whom the mother considered a small child even when they grew taller than her. She believed that her son was not yet capable of taking responsibility for his actions. Naturally, the idle son rebelled against the attack on his independence or against what seemed to him to be symptoms of such an attack. As a result, having already become quite an adult and having married, this man transferred the previous model of behavior with women to his wife, trying with all his might to prove his independence to her. This may look quite bearable. For example, the husband simply snaps when his wife tells him: “Go swim!”, “Go eat!”, or asks how his day went and when he will be home. Or it may result in rather aggressive attacks on his part and a complete unwillingness to obey the call to the bathroom or kitchen and to report his movements and plans. Like, leave me alone, I am not your property and I will do what I want and when I want. What should we do if we have been unlucky enough to marry such a chronic offender? Well, first we need to figure out whether he really suffers from a complex of fear of henpeckedness. Perhaps we are trying to put the man under our thumb? If so, then we need to change our own behavior. And if not, then we need to give him a sense of security and remove from communication with our dear and beloved husband all elements that he considers an encroachment on his freedom. And do not ask where he has been, what he has been doing, do not order him to go to the table, but simply say: “I missed you so much and did not even have dinner without you. Are you hungry? No? Well, then maybe you will sit with me!”

Fear of not taking place in life

This male complex appears in ourrepresentatives of the stronger sex at about twenty-five years old. Many of them today for some reason believe that at such an age, which has not yet eaten much porridge, it is already necessary to fully fledged, have a lot of money and make a cool career. Look, Seryoga has all this, but I have not yet succeeded. No, such an aspiration in itself can only be welcomed. But the fact is that if nothing supernatural happens in the life of a young man over the years, the complex begins to progress. And often leads to depression even for quite successful people. Today's world is changing rapidly. And those who yesterday were poor as a church mouse can fly to the crest of a wave in just a few months. Of course, this depresses a lot of average men. They say, we studied together and worked together, but look how he rose, and we are still in the same place! Why is his wife vacationing in the Seychelles, and ours can't buy decent fur coats? And off we go... The wealth of others grows, grows exponentially, and the fear of failure in life. In principle, this is a very difficult case. Because ambition is affected, and for men this is an extremely strong blow. And the consequences can be disastrous. Someone tries to forget in drunkenness and drugs, and someone throws himself out of the window. Such representatives of the stronger sex really need the support of loved ones. In no case should they be humiliated, reproached for their small income, ridiculed for inexpensive gifts and given as an example a neighbor who gave his wife a diamond the size of a nut. Otherwise, there will be trouble. It is better to simply try to measure your requests with the budget today. After all, tomorrow everything can change. And the one who was just about at the bottom will start prancing on a luxurious steed.

Fear of being a bad lover

Men's complexes in bed, in principle,include many things. Here is the fear of not satisfying a woman experienced in intimate matters, and the fear of impotence, and anxiety about the imperfect size of your penis. A bad lover complex can develop even if you don’t know how to kiss. Sex is a very important part of a man’s life. And he, of course, attaches a lot of importance to it. The recent sexual revolution has led to the fact that we are constantly shown on movie and TV screens what the genitals of ideal lovers should be like and how they should caress their women. Well, many men are not capable of this, not capable! And it’s not really necessary to have sex for several hours in a row! You can get sick ... And there is no need to talk about the ideal penis size. They are only suitable for porn stars. Normal women do well without them. But our loved ones do not want to take all this on faith. And they bother with their sexual pseudo-imperfection, thus creating another inferiority complex in themselves. What should a woman do in this case? Yes, just always let your chosen one know that he is unique, and sex with him is simply amazing. And delicately teach him something if he really is not very skillful in bed. And at the same time, never reproach him if the sexual act suddenly does not work out. A man is not a sex robot. Anything can happen in life. We recommend reading:

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