Here comes the first date with the one you likewith a guy is such an exciting, important event! You prepare for it carefully, think over every little thing, every detail of your outfit, make a rough list of questions, study articles about dating on the Internet. And everything seems to be going very well, but here's the problem: he promised to call back, but the phone is silent, as if bewitched. Why doesn't he call, what is the reason? Such questions are spinning in the heads of most girls whose boyfriends don't call after the first date. They wind themselves up, don't leave the phone, count the hours and minutes waiting for a call. "Maybe he didn't like me? But everything was so great! But then why didn't he call after the first date? He doesn't want to continue?!»

What are they thinking about?

First of all, it is worth saying that many mendo not take phone calls as seriously as women. They may simply not know what to talk about, feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. And in general, it may not occur to them that you are worried about the fact that he has started calling less often. Well, if we are talking about a call after the first date - everything is generally complicated and there can be many reasons. Sometimes financial problems interfere here: a call implies inviting a girl to a decent place, and there may not be money for this. So guys delay the moment, waiting for their next paycheck, so as not to lose face. But most often, sadly, guys do not call back because they simply did not like the girl. You can prove to yourself and others as long as you like that everything went great, the young man may have a different opinion on this matter. And this happens, alas, precisely after the first date. It does not matter whether the guy confessed his love to you on a date, admired you and swore fidelity - these are just words. And it is worth paying attention only to actions. Believe me, many men are capable of saying the word "I love you" to seven different women every day of the week. They simply do not have a moral barrier, responsibility for this beautiful word. "I love you, I adore you" - these are words. A call and a request for a meeting - an action. Do you feel the difference?

"Respectful" reasons

It's not very high, but there is still a chance that the man didn't call back for an important reason. This is just a spoonful of honey in a barrel of tar, but in life there are such cases:

• He lost his mobile phone and can not call you back;
• He accidentally erased your phone number and can not remember from memory;
• He thinks that he behaved incorrectly on a date and is afraid to scare you even more;
• His hands are swollen and do not hit the phone's buttons;
• He urgently left the city, out of the country, before he could warn;
• He is seriously ill and lies under a dropper, in a cast, etc .;
• He died

As you can see, there are quite a few reasons that canto console your wounded pride. However, any man who really likes a girl will overcome any of these points and find a way to contact her. Except, perhaps, the last one…

They have no time?

The eternal excuse of “no time” is also just thatis just a trick. A man can delay the time of the call for a day, for two. But if he has not called back within three days - forget about him. Do not try to justify the behavior of a guy who does not call you, do not invent reasons. If a man likes a woman, he will contact her from anywhere in the world, from space, from the other world! Even if in an hour he has a coronation or a meeting with aliens, he will find an opportunity to call the one he cares about. A backlog at work, a lot of clients, domestic problems - this is such a trifle when a person is truly in love. The fact that he does not call you because he is busy is a myth. Just forget about this person, he is not your prince.

Is it hard for him to take the first step?

Do you really think men are thattouching, naive creatures who are not able to take the first step towards your relationship? It does not matter how timid a man is by nature: if he really wants to communicate with you, he will get it. Men are hunters by nature. They are ready to move mountains for the sake of a beautiful lady. And over all the millennia of human history, this quality has not changed. Men are driven by a special passion, the desire to get their woman, to prove their leadership. They are able to want and achieve your favor by any means. Or not want. And this can happen after any date - not necessarily the first. For men, everything is simple: you don’t like a woman anymore - you stop calling her.

Why does the tortoise not fly? Because he does not want to!

Why doesn't he call after the date?He just doesn't want to. The guy may be interested in business, have a favorite hobby, or lack of time. If after the first date you suddenly don't become more relevant than other interests, he may not call back. Why should he waste his time if he doesn't see any point in your relationship? Just looking for sex? Do you need that? Maybe he was just bored with you, or maybe you don't meet his ideals. It's impossible to please everyone. Well, to hell with him - that means he's stopped interesting us, right? We are women, not sex machines. No matter how good-looking you are, no matter how wonderful your inner world is - you are not insured against the fact that you simply won't be liked. Almost every woman has experienced this at least once in her life - she just didn't arouse interest on the first date. It's not the end of the world. The world is full of other nice guys with whom you can make a pleasant acquaintance.

Dear little thing

There is a type of women who demand for themselvesonly the best. More precisely, not the best, but the expensive. Already on the first date, they do not expect anything except luxurious restaurants and expensive signs of attention. Firstly, not every man can afford it. Secondly, even very wealthy people do not like to be "promoted". If you consider such things obligatory, then do not rush with your demands too quickly, otherwise you will scare off a potential gentleman. Any man appreciates in a woman the attitude to himself, in sorrow and in joy, in wealth and poverty. Having barely felt that you are much more interested in his wallet than his inner world, he will change his mind about calling you and building a serious relationship. Perhaps you will not notice the problem right away, but if a man began to call rarely - think about it, is this the reason?

Miss Inaccessibility

Another common reason why he doesn'tcalls and doesn't write - your inflated opinion of yourself. Sometimes girls with a very attractive appearance put on a mask of complete inaccessibility on their face: "Who are you to be near me!" Such a position rarely leads to anything serious - do not be surprised why that beauty, at whom you looked with disdain all last night, did not call you. Even if deep down such a girl dreams of a guy, the expression on her face repels the opposite sex. You probably noticed that among beautiful women there are more lonely ones than among simpletons? Many more guys hang around ordinary sociable girls: they are constantly invited on dates, they are sought after. While unapproachable beauties with a face of "don't come near, or I'll kill you" are completely alone. And even if a man decided on a first date, this mask of superiority and indifference kills all his intentions to continue the acquaintance. Isn't it time to change your mask, and at the same time, your character?

Hurried up ...

Sometimes the first date ends the first timesex. Very often this sex becomes the last with this partner. What did you expect? After sex, a man's head turns on and he begins to think. Unfortunately or fortunately, but sex alone is clearly not enough for a relationship. Men are conquerors by nature. If they got everything they wanted on the first date, then why would they want to meet you again? There is a well-known saying: "Every woman deserves sex, but not every second one." So is it any wonder why he doesn't call after sex that happened on the very first evening? Such relationships rarely continue. Having formed a rough idea of ​​your moral principles, a man is unlikely to want to see you as his permanent girlfriend. After all, if you just made contact with him, can a guy be sure of your fidelity? Will you share a bed with another man during quarrels, his absence, etc.? There is no point in blaming the guy for being callous and inattentive – even if the sex was amazing, a man is more interested in finding a new object of passion than conquering something that does not require conquering. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule. Perhaps some successful marriages begin with such free dates. But still, this is a great rarity. A man must sincerely and devotedly love a woman before this meeting, so as not to be disappointed in her behavior.

Introduction to the Internet

It is very fashionable now to make acquaintances throughInternet. There are a great many social networks, dating sites, special chats on the RuNet. Many young people are generally perplexed as to how their parents, grandparents found each other without the Internet. What could be simpler: you find guys in your city, look at photos, study information about their interests. After a short conversation, you can meet at the nearest cafe, start a romantic acquaintance. However, such acquaintances are not often successful. How many people have you met who post unsuccessful photos in their profile, talk about the problems and shortcomings of their character? This happens extremely rarely, if at all. Some even turn to professional photographers, arrange expensive photo sessions for the sake of a dating site. Even if you sat online all day and night, communicating with your chosen one, if you felt like kindred spirits - it is not a fact that you will like each other when you meet. If you are even a little different from the image that you created for yourself on the site, then the guy may not call back - this happens often. You can spend hours listing acquaintances who met online and live happily ever after. There are exceptions to every rule, and it is far from certain that you will be lucky. By the way, in reality, such relationships rarely work out. The good old method of meeting "in real life" still works. At least you will both know each other's pros and cons, and that is worth a lot. And you will not have to guess why your chosen one has not called.

Should I call him first?

There are times when a girl, enchantedfirst date, can't stand it and calls first. What usually happens? The guy apologizes for not calling back, says he has a lot of things to do, and vows to contact her in a couple of days. After he remains silent again, the girl calls him back a couple more times, but the guy answers more and more reluctantly, he has more and more things to do, and then he doesn't pick up the phone at all. And the woman sits and wonders - why didn't he call? In a word, such an attempt is rarely successful.

What is the result?

Hurt pride, depression, resentment towards everythingwhite light. Although, you should only be offended by yourself. You shouldn't take the initiative away from men, you won't achieve anything with your annoying calls. Rarely does a man like clingy ladies. If he liked you, you would have met a long time ago regardless of his affairs. And so - we can only guess why he didn't call. You will only flatter his vanity, become a lower rank in the "man-woman" relationship. You don't even need to be conquered, you yourself are ready to run after him at the first call. So is it worth humiliating yourself and calling first? The answer is obvious: of course not! If it is so difficult for you to resist the temptation - delete all the contacts on your mobile. If he calls you back, you will have time to write down his phone number. It will even be nice - you will pick up the phone without suspecting that it is him. With your calm voice, you will show that you were not really expecting a call and save face. If you are unlucky and the man for some reason does not call, do not despair. Do not endlessly punish yourself, worry and fall into depression. You will definitely meet someone who will love you and be there for you. And then, you will have absolutely no time for empty worries about phone calls, because you will be busy with real relationships. We recommend reading:

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