The first sex for a girl is an exciting event,which can leave the most vivid memory. Someone is looking forward to it with impatience and excitement, someone is afraid, and someone generally tries to delay this moment as long as possible. For one girl, the first sex in her life becomes a victory over her own fears, while another only has negative memories in her memory. What does it depend on how parting with virginity will happen? And why does not everything always go smoothly? Most often, this happens because the young couple does not yet have enough experience, and the boy or girl - and often both - do not know at all how to behave correctly: how to reduce the risk of pain, where to start and what to do next, and, most importantly, how not to lose your head from excitement and remain calm. But it is precisely on all this that the success of the first sex depends, especially for a girl. The young lovers themselves do not know this, and most often there is no one to ask. It is unlikely that anyone will despair of talking about the upcoming sex with their parents or with someone older, and friends and girlfriends vied with each other to advise completely opposite things. So it turns out that there is no knowledge on the question of interest, and there is no one to ask. A vicious circle!

What you need to know about sex?

We decided to help you.Having collected the most frequently asked questions from young people about their first time having sex, we tried to answer them in as much detail as possible, building our conversation with you on the “question – answer” principle. You can trust us: we will treat you with due attention and respect, we will not lecture you, but simply share our knowledge.

Can there be sex without love?

For some people, sexual feelings are associated withlove and close relationships. Others believe that sexual intercourse should only happen in marriage. For others, love and sex are completely different things. And the first sex in general often happens out of pure curiosity and the desire of a young virgin to quickly feel like an adult. What is important here is that you feel good, do not regret what you are doing, and observe all safety measures. Observing safety means considering not only physical health risks, such as possible pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. It also means the risk of emotional discomfort (regret from an ill-considered act, which can stay with you for many years, or even for life).

When is it worth thinking about the first sex?

There is no age limit,when a person can be considered ready for sex. It is important whether you are ready for sex. It also depends on what you mean by the word "sex". After all, there are many ways to give and receive sexual pleasure without intercourse. You can give each other a sensual massage, kiss, hug, caress and bring each other to orgasm without touching your genitals. For some people, such actions can bring even more pleasure than the sexual act itself. In the lives of young girls, it often happens that their environment begins to put pressure on them. Friends and girlfriends begin to laugh at their virginity and literally push them to take an important step. You involuntarily have the thought that you just have to go and try what it is, even if you yourself do not really want to. It is not always easy, but you still have to resist this pressure. You should not do what you do not like and should only do what you yourself really want to do. And here’s a secret: not all your friends who say they’ve “had it” have actually had sex. Thinking through all the implications of having sex can help you make the right decision. There are many reasons why people don’t want to have sex. Some people have strong religious or cultural beliefs that prevent them from getting tempted. You, for example, may feel that you’re not emotionally ready for it yet, and forcing yourself to overcome your doubts will mean that you’ll feel regret after the fact. Others may simply decide to wait. Whatever your decision, you should do what’s right for you. It should be an informed decision, not one based on fear or pressure from anyone, even your boyfriend.

How do you know if you are ready for sex?

If you are not sure that you are ready for sex, then,Most likely, you are not ready. Rather, you feel pressure from your friends. We have already warned you - if someone tells you that they have already experienced sex, this does not mean that you should do the same just because "the time has come". And are you sure that they are telling the truth? We are ready to repeat again and again: never do anything that will create discomfort for you and your partner! Are you "comfortable" in your relationship with your partner? Do you trust each other enough? Are you sure that your boyfriend will do everything in his power to protect you from unpleasant feelings and from further mental anguish? When deciding on an important step, do not forget that the first sex happens only once in a lifetime. Unfortunately, many girls lose their virginity to a man they will never date again, or maybe have never dated before. How stupid it is when this happens to a random person somewhere at a party, because afterwards there is usually nothing left but awkwardness and regret! And pain - because a stranger will not care at all about your well-being, he only cares about his own pleasure! And the disappointed girl is left with nothing but annoyance, and she starts telling you that the first time is painful!

How to do it correctly? What should be the pose?

It is very important that the first sex for a girlbegan with sexual arousal from foreplay. During foreplay, kissing, stroking, caressing erogenous zones (stomach, breasts, earlobe, clitoris, etc.), rubbing and touching each other play a major role. Sexual arousal will “give away” itself with certain physiological signs. The girl will start to secrete lubricant from the vagina, and there will be a feeling of moisture between the legs. The nipples on the chest will swell and become firm to the touch. And the young man will have an erection - his penis will become larger and harder. It is important that the stimulation lasts as long as possible, because if the girl is not sexually aroused enough, her vagina will not be lubricated well enough, and it will be much more difficult for the guy to insert his penis there. And this means that pain may occur. When the couple is ready (this also means that the guy has already put on a condom), it will be easier if one of them uses their hand to guide the guy's penis into the vagina. Then, when the penis is already inside, you need to take a position so that nothing prevents the penis from making frictions (movements entering and exiting the vagina), which will ultimately lead to an orgasm for one or both partners. There are a number of different positions that are suitable for the first sexual intercourse. Most often, this is the classic position, when the girl lies on her back, and the guy is on top (this position is sometimes called the "missionary"). In addition, the girl and the guy can change places, and the girl will be on top, as if sitting on her partner (the "cowgirl" position). You can also lie on your side, the guy behind, and the girl in front, pressing her buttocks against your partner. These positions are most suitable if sex happened for the first time in your life. They allow you to control the depth of penetration and the force of friction of the penis, and this is very important in order to reduce possible unpleasant sensations to a minimum.

Is it true that the first time it hurts?

Many virgins are afraid that the first sexwill be accompanied by pain. Minor pain may indeed be felt by the girl, but this pain is so minor that it cannot even be called pain. A little blood may also appear. All this happens because during the first sexual intercourse in the life of a young woman, the integrity of the hymen is violated. The hymen is a small fold of thin skin that is located across the vagina close to the entrance. This skin is so thin and so easy to damage that it often happens in everyday life, and the girl does not even notice it. For example, during sports or when riding a bicycle. So do not be afraid, there will be no severe pain, rather mild discomfort, and even then not always. A lot depends on the prelude to sex, we have already told you about this.

What precautions should be taken?

If you and your loved one consider yourselves mature,to think about sex, you need to be mature enough to discuss the possibility of using a condom. Just because it’s your first time doesn’t mean you don’t have a risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease or getting pregnant. A condom will protect you from these troubles almost 100%. Therefore, it is very important that your first sex is with someone you trust. You won’t be embarrassed to discuss with them whether you know how to use a condom and will also be able to make sure that you have one. Understand other methods of contraception as well – it could be a special cream or pills. Don’t be embarrassed to ask at the pharmacy to recommend the most suitable contraceptive for you. After all, you’re not planning on becoming parents at this age, are you?

Can I get pregnant the first time?

Yes!The ability to conceive does not depend at all on whether it is your first or tenth time having sex. It does not depend on whether you did it lying down or standing up, in the bath or in bed. The ability to conceive depends only on whether your egg, which matures in the ovaries of the uterus, is ready for fertilization. When ovulation occurs (that is, the egg matures and begins moving from the ovary to the uterus through the fallopian tubes), all it needs to fertilize is to meet a sperm. And if the first sexual intercourse occurs at this time, the girl has every chance of becoming a future mother. Therefore, use contraceptives, unless it is your wedding night or you have decided to have a baby.

Whether there will be an orgasm during the first sex?

Girls can't always have an orgasmthe time of first sex. It can be hindered by fear, constraint, a sense of shame. But in general, everything is different for everyone. Some couples say that they both were at the peak of pleasure, some say that neither of them experienced an orgasm. It is very individual, just do not try to expect too much from your first experience - like any other experience, it requires some time so that you can get to know your partner's body better, and your own body too. In any case, you will be very pleased - especially if you love your boyfriend.

What feelings will I have after sex?

After your first sexual experience you maybe overwhelmed by many different feelings. If it was not planned or you did it under pressure, then you may feel disappointed or regretful. We have already talked about this. Your expectations can also affect your feelings after sex. Your mood will also be affected by whether you were able to use contraception properly. But if you approached the issue of preparing for your first sex responsibly, then you will have only the best impressions! And also, you will immediately feel that your relationship has reached a new level and acquired a special intimacy and closeness. You have probably noticed that everyone’s stories about their first sex are different. Some are happy with their first experience, while others claim that they did not experience anything special. This is the best case scenario. In the worst case, they say that “it was terrible!” How your story with first sex will end depends only on you. Listen to our advice, and we wish you that everything will work out just great! We recommend reading:

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