When one of our friends is sad, wewe have a completely understandable desire to cheer her up; but sometimes it can be quite difficult to do it correctly, so as not to inadvertently offend her and not to spoil her mood even more. Much depends on the degree of your friendly closeness and the reason for her sadness. For example, if you yourself spoiled her mood (maybe you had a fight, and only then you realized that you were wrong), then you will have to make more efforts to cheer up your friend. Of course, there may be other reasons, and there can be many of them. A recent divorce that your friend had to go through, news of a serious illness or the death of a loved one ... Of course, when your best friend is upset, it can be very painful for you. Regardless of the reason, if you show patience and understanding, you can quickly find a way to cheer up the girl. We are also ready to offer several ways in which you can help your friend go through difficult times, feeling the warmth of your shoulder. Moreover, we will consider different situations.

How to cheer up a girlfriend when she's upset about something

Let's say you feel that your beloved friend is sad, but you don't see an obvious reason. Or maybe you just don't know about it. What can you do in this situation?

• Ask her what is the reason for her changemood Just try to ask the question in such a way that she feels your concern; with insincere words or a patronizing tone, you will upset her even more. Listen to the answer without interrupting, even if you yourself at that moment become the object of her criticism (if it was you who hurt her with some action or careless words). Do not give in to the temptation to parry her attacks or take the defensive. Regardless of the reason for her sadness, it is very important to become a good listener. In this way, you will show your friend your special attitude towards her, your desire to understand and help.
• Offer your girlfriend your support Let your friend know that she can count on you, even if she is not yet ready to ask you for it.
• Give her a chance to be inside her"shells" if she doesn't want to talk about what happened yet Stop asking her questions and just try to distract her from sad thoughts. You can't get into a person's soul if he doesn't want to let you in.
• Show that you sympathize with her condition.It doesn’t matter how you do it – with words or actions – the main thing is that your friend sees your empathy. The trouble is that one of the most natural reactions to people’s loved ones in a bad mood is to pretend to be emotionally deaf or even try to protect yourself by taking up a defensive position. Don’t give in to this temptation. Your friend’s anger or dissatisfaction may not be directed at you at all. Instead, tell her, “I know you’ve had a hard day, and you seem very tired. Is there anything I can do for you?” Or, “I sense that you’re angry. Tell me what’s going on?”
• If a girl wants to tell you about somethingshe is upset, then listen to her carefully This is the best thing you can do for your friend at first, when she is upset about something. Let her pour out her soul, take some of the weight off her. Do not try to give advice right away. If you are not sure, do not hesitate to ask your friend whether she just wants to talk, or if she wants to know your opinion.
• Do something for your friend that she will appreciateloves This will be good not only for the obvious reason - because it will help to reduce the sadness of your beloved friend - but also will help to show your sympathy and love for her, if your friend does not want to talk about what is depressing her. And sometimes it can help to find out what happened.
• Give her something of yourself, share somethingmeaningful It doesn’t have to be something material; it could be taking time out of your busy schedule to meet and talk to the upset girl, or changing your weekend plans so you drop everything and drive to your friend’s house to take her out for a movie or a coffee. When you sacrifice something for her that you wouldn’t otherwise do, it tells your friend that you’re willing to help her. It will help her feel less alone.
• Offer to do something for your friendan urgent important matter that she doesn’t have the energy or mood to do right now. Of course, you can’t solve all of her problems for her, but you can help her with one issue on her list. You can run to the store for your friend, wash the dishes for her, or pay her bills. Often, what worries a person – lack of time for household chores or difficulties at work – is an additional source of tension for them. If you know what exactly is depressing your friend, offer to help her. By helping her, you can significantly improve her mood. Even if she refuses your help, the very fact that you care about her will support her spirit.
• Take some time to distract yourselfgirlfriend from gloomy thoughts Invite her to go for a walk. Sometimes a simple walk in the park can lift your spirits. Chat about something pleasant for you, for example, indulge in memories of those funny adventures that you had a chance to experience together. Sit in a cafe, trying delicious cakes. Who else but you know that we, girls, are able to get into a good mood just by the sight of sweets! Perhaps this is the easiest and most pleasant way to lift a girl's spirits.
• Call upon all your humor to help you. Trymake fun of yourself, if it is appropriate during the conversation. Such jokes can not only amuse both of you, but also make you more accessible in the eyes of your interlocutor. It will be easier for her to confide in you if she wants to talk. So make fun of yourself - what wouldn't you do for your beloved friend! You can also watch a good comedy together. Watching the funny adventures of the characters, the girl will be distracted from her own sad thoughts. Watching a comedy evening on TV will also be very appropriate. In general, try to make your friend start smiling. Our brain is used to associating certain actions with the corresponding emotions, and if you smile, the brain will give the command: "Be happy!" You can improve your mood simply by smiling, even to yourself. Use humor, jokes, anecdotes, but just make sure that your choice is correct. If you start joking too early and out of place, you risk seeming insensitive. However, if you know your friend well, you will always be able to make her laugh.
• Listen to music together No other kindart is not able to influence our subconscious as much as music. Just do not turn on sad songs or songs that can cause sad emotions: your mood will "follow" the music. A sad song will make your friend feel even worse, while a cheerful one will make her forget about her worries at least for a while.
• Involve your friend in playing with your pet,yours or hers Animals usually sense the mood of their owners, and if a friend is sad, then her pet has probably huddled in a corner. Wake up your pet, involve it in the game - and your friend, of course, too. Kiss and cuddle the animal - the smallest sign of love from a cute little creature can turn your cloudy day into the warmest and sunniest.
• Make a small gift for your friend thathas not so much practical as emotional value Create a mix of the girl's favorite songs, for example, and burn them to a disc. Bring her her favorite flowers. Buy her a disc with her favorite movie. You can think of many such cute little things that you can use to please your beloved friend.

How to cheer the girl on the phone

Sometimes talking on the phone is all that mattersis required to cheer up a girl. Of course, if she is in a really bad mood, she may not want to pick up the phone. Then remember the above recommendations and fly to her home. And if she answered the phone but did not show any particular desire to talk, then after a few minutes of your "speech" (necessarily in optimistic tones!) she will cheer up and even thank you for your persistence.

• Talk to your friend with a smile in your voiceSmile when you talk to her because it will reflect in your tone and it will help to improve her mood. Smiling will radiate your kindness, which will show that you want to take care of her. It is always nice to know that someone cares about you!
• You can ask her about the reason for her bad mood;but don't feel rejected if she doesn't want to talk about it Usually girls want to express their feelings and experiences, especially if what hurt her soul happened recently. But if your friend is secretive, then you shouldn't invade her personal space, trying to get her to open up.
• If a friend, on the contrary, gets too immersed inexperiencing troubles, gently change the conversation to some cheerful topic. Distract her attention from her worries and make her laugh. Make up some funny story that supposedly happened to you, or tell about a funny prank of your child or pet. This will help you amuse her.
• Again, suggest that she get out of the house andgo somewhere together The best thing would be to spend time in some fun way - eating ice cream at a nearby cafe or dancing with friends at someone's party.

How to cheer up a girl with low self-esteem

No matter what your reason isIf your friend or acquaintance feels insecure in life, often being in a bad mood because of it, it is in your power to teach her to be happy. Show her that every girl deserves to be appreciated. Give her a boost to increase her self-esteem, supporting her motivation, and she will stop being sad and frowning. Here is what you can do for her:

• Start your day with an unexpected surpriseGreet her with a cheerful and friendly message on her mobile. Send her a smiley or some cute picture by email. Bring her colorful balloons. There are many ideas!
• Talk to her alone usingOptimistic, energetic tones If this is your co-worker or classmate, then praise her for a job well done or for her attractive appearance. Ask how things are going and give her the opportunity to express her concerns. Help her feel more confident, this will definitely improve her mood.
• If this is your close friend, help her.identify your best and strongest sides Make a big collage together, pasting pictures that represent her best qualities. Add your own contribution to this collage, indicating those character traits that your friend does not notice in herself. Illustrate all her good deeds, all that she does for other people. Hang this collage in her room - it is guaranteed to lift her spirits. And her self-esteem at the same time!

Every girl's life has its ups and downsfalls. Whether it's because of major life changes, or personal tragedy, or just minor upsets, there are times when she needs support, companionship, and friendly warmth. All you have to do at that moment is let her know that you'll do whatever it takes to lift her spirits. And then someone will come to your aid if your spirits hit rock bottom! We recommend reading:

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