How to understand that a man is in love, and not just having fun

The relationship between people has so manythe subtle nuances that we often find it hard to understand each other - so much we are all arranged differently. Sometimes it is difficult to understand whether our partner loves us or not, especially at the very beginning of the relationship. Guys usually try not to show their feelings, and without that we sometimes do not understand how to understand that a man is in love, and not just pleasantly spending his time. But their actions often speak louder than words, about their true feelings, especially when men really fall in love. Sometimes, when a man and a woman are somewhere in the middle of their relationship (when there is love, but it is not yet clear whether genuine feelings will emerge that unite people for life), a woman simply does not know whether to move forward, or, to be can finish the relationship at this stage, as the prospects for their development are not special ... Such thoughts arise either because of the uncertainty that the guy fell in love with you for real, or because of the negative past experience that makes you distrustful to your beloved man. You also wondered how to find out how sincere your partner's feelings are? Then read carefully! Our article will help to understand whether your man really fell in love with the heart, or you are just another girl whom he, having entertained, said the cherished for you "love you", not putting into words the warmth of his soul. And maybe, you still do not have a boyfriend, and you are the same girl who is desperately looking for a person who really loves, but does not play in fervent feelings? We also help you understand the male psychology and teach you how to understand that a man is in love, even if he does not talk about it.

Solving the secrets of male behavior

Our dear reader, if the guyreally loves you, then, of course, his feelings will be clearly reflected in his behavior. But the words ... If he says "love you" too easily, then you should watch him closely. Perhaps he is just such a playboy who quickly "falls in love" and as quickly changes you, without thinking about what is breaking his next heart. Therefore let's agree: we get patience and we start to observe its behavior, not paying special attention to beautiful words! One of the most obvious signs of a man's love is the style of his clothes. If the feelings of the guy are serious, he will start taking care of you: he will quickly change his usual clothes, which is rather simple than beautiful, more stylish and fashionable. So watch your lover: did some changes in his clothes appear after you started dating? Did he have any new things? Or, perhaps, he put in order those things that he used to wear so casually? Does he appear before you unshaven, in rumpled clothes and unclean shoes? Or has he never allowed himself this? Observe and draw appropriate conclusions! The second sign of the love of a man will also give it away. Do you often catch his eye on him, especially when he thinks that you are not looking at him? If a man loves you, then he will always be tempted to sneak a glance at you. He will admire you when he is sure that you are not watching him, and if you do catch his eye, he will look away and even be embarrassed. Do you feel that he is looking at you? This is a good sign, he really loves and constantly admires and admires you. And how much he is ready to support you in difficult times? If you fall into the trap of any emotional, physical, financial or any other plan problems, does he simply watch from the outside, how do you suffer, or offer you his help? If so, this is a good sign. So he feels real feelings for you. Another way to find out if he likes you is to analyze your level of communication. If he likes to talk with you, like spending time together, then this is a good indication that he is really reaching out to you. Guys like to chat with people they really like, especially if it's a man of the opposite sex. And if he loves you, he will always want to discuss with you some exciting event or news. He will want to share with you some stories that happened to him when you were not around. At the same time, his speech will be very emotional and, possibly, even confused. And if he talks smoothly and too carefully, think: maybe he not only told you this? Perhaps he already rehearsed this story on many listeners? Communicating with a loved one, the guy will not carefully select beautiful words; on the contrary, feeling relaxed, he will use the same words and jargon that he uses among friends. Except, of course, obscene phrases! And if he speaks like a learned one, using only an exemplary literary language with all his grammatical rules, then be on your guard: he is obviously plotting something, scowling you! Again, how does he react to your mood? Is he happy when you are happy? Or is he inflamed with anger each time he notices that you are angry or just not in the mood? If the latter is true, then this is a bad sign - it is unlikely that he has deep feelings for you. Do not forget: if a guy loves you, then he will do everything possible to make you feel happy. Another vivid sign that a guy really loves can be the extent to which he likes to appear with you before his friends or colleagues. Definitely, if a man does not like a girl, he will not "enter" her into his social circle. He would prefer to meet her away from the eyes of his friends and relatives. The reason for this can be the fact that he has someone whom he really loves, and he does not want another woman to find out that her man is having fun with others. Or simply does not plan a serious and long-term relationship. If a man does not want to appear with you before his acquaintances, then he most likely simply uses you to enjoy the time once or twice. And if during an unexpected meeting he presents you to his friends as an employee or just a friend, then be careful: there is no love on his part! Sometimes guys are guided only by their sexual instincts, establishing relations with girls only to satisfy their sexual hunger, then parting with them without any regret. And if the relationship with you is the man most interested in sex, then do not be fooled, because he hardly loves you. Sex is not love, and love is not just sex! A man who has true feelings for a woman will always reckon with your emotions and feelings; besides, he will never insist on sex at the very beginning of the relationship and will patiently wait until you are ready for it yourself. I would like to caution you against the widespread female mistake in interpreting the actions of a man and explain: if a man spends a lot of money on you, this is not at all an indicator of his love. Do you know that a man, if he has money, likes to spend it in order to impress the people around him with the impression of a successful and rich man? And if he wants to spend it on the girl who is with him at the moment, then this has nothing to do with his love for her. And there was never any connection between money and real romantic relationships! So a man's gifts do not always mean that he loves a gifted woman, and if he buys expensive gifts, it does not always follow from him that he is ready to be with you all his life. He just has the money that he can spend, and he spends it. That's all! We are all just people, and we do not know how to read the thoughts of those around us. But we can calculate these thoughts by following the actions of a person. To know if your man loves you, just watch him, remembering our advice. Try to do everything possible to get to know his friends better, and listen to what he will tell them about you. Do not rush to go to sex, because it does not tie him to you. Observe how he behaves towards you in different life situations. And then you can understand when he speaks aloud "I love you" even a hundred times a day, but thinks at the same time: "I'm not sure that this girl is suitable for me." And if this is so, then why not, without deceiving yourself and not basking in empty hopes, not to seek true love elsewhere?

How to find evidence of a man's love?

Till now we talked more about the fact that somethe actions of men can reveal their coldness towards you. And if he likes? How to understand that a man is in love? After all, there are situations when a man does not dare to say about his love, and a girl because of inexperience can not understand what his feelings are, and is afraid to take a step towards it, so as not to seem funny if she is mistaken. To clarify the situation and disperse your doubts, we simply list the signs of what a man likes:

He always appears on time, if you appointhe meets And if he breaks the time, he will not be late, but on the contrary he will come sooner and will be looking forward to you. This is a good sign that it says that he is ready to be near you. Do not you ever have to wait for him to appear? Undoubtedly, he cherishes the time spent next to you.

Another simple thing that says,how much he appreciates the minutes spent in your society - he disconnects his mobile phone or ignores incoming calls when you are around. So, he does not want to be distracted and does not want to lose precious time with you. This is a very true sign of love for you!

Whenever you look at him, his gazechained to you And all his attention belongs only to you. No matter how beautiful the girls are around, nobody is interested in him, except for you. And he only notices you. Is it possible then to doubt his feelings? Of course not!

He may not say that he loves you (we are alreadywe know that men do not always talk about strong feelings), but if he does say that, you will immediately feel that he speaks sincerely. You just can not help feeling it!

He sees his future next to you, buildsjoint plans and says "we will", "we will have" and the like. After all, if he really loves, he will certainly want to spend his whole life next to you. He will talk about what opportunities are open to you both, and, most likely, will talk about marriage. All this should convince the real feelings of your man.

If he remembers the date when you first timemet and remember all the important dates of your life - for example, when you have a birthday - then this is a sign that he truly loves you. But do not take it to heart if he can not remember all the important dates - for men this a normal phenomenon! Guys are not only not often able to keep in their heads the dates of all significant events, but also sincerely wonder how we manage to do it. So do not torment yourself with vain doubts if your loved one has missed the approach of some important event, or better just remind him in advance.

If he does for you simple things that,maybe he would not do it for someone else - he opens the doors before you, gives up his chair and the like - it can also say that he is not indifferent to you. When a man is in love, he wants to please the object of his adoration in everything, and treats his woman like a real queen. Trying to take care of you even in such trifles, he thereby expresses his special attitude towards you; so do not let these little things go unnoticed.

If a guy loves, then he will always take careabout you Just good friends, too, care about each other, but the lover will surround you with something not care, but rather even hyper-care. It will remind you that you need to do some important work, ask if you have lunch and whether you have missed a snack, offer your jacket, even if it's not cold outside, and run to make hot tea with raspberry jam, if you just once coughed. Agree, friends do not care so much!

He's trying to spend the whole weekend with youIt says a lot! At all at us life proceeds on the intense schedule, and free time which we can spend for ourselves, remains very little. And the weekend is just the time when we can completely relax and do only what we like most. And when a man enjoys spending all weekend with you, it means that he is interested in something more than just twisting around and chatting about nothing. When we love someone, we want to be with him all the time. After all, you spend all weekend together, not just because you accidentally ran into the street and decided to go on together, but because you both wanted to meet to spend time with each other. So it turns out: if a man with pleasure plans to spend the next weekend with you, then this is clearly more than just a friendly affection.

Another indicator: if a man loves you, he will speak frankly about himself and about his past life, and he will tell not only about what will present him in a favorable light, but also about what still causes him regret: about wrong deeds or in vain told somebody's words. Extreme frankness and sincerity should show you that the feelings of a man directed at you are deep and reverent.

Men are not so finely organizedemotionally, like us, and even experiencing strong feelings, they can not always express them in words. But we all know the proverb, which was already mentioned at the beginning of the article: actions speak louder than the most beautiful words. And indeed it is! Therefore, man's actions are the best way to determine if he truly loves you. Do not believe the words, but believe what and how your beloved does, and then all doubts will fall away and you will no longer interfere with enjoying happiness! We advise you to read: