How to choose a husband

When we are very young, we think little aboutcreating some deep relationships with guys, and whether that young man will become a worthy partner in our life. We are satisfied with exciting dates with him and a pleasant time. Girls enthusiastically make more and more new acquaintances, not really bothering, at the same time, with the choice of a life partner. This is normal. After all, we are just entering adulthood, and so many new opportunities are opening up before us! However, the serenity of youth is not eternal. The time comes, and we begin to think about creating a family. And often, at the same time, we do not understand at all how to choose a husband from the existing number of guy acquaintances. However, how do we know how to choose him? It is still good if we listen to the advice of wise women, but is it so often? Usually girls dream of a prince, it seems to them that he is a worthy candidate for a life partner. And guys, who have an idea of how to court young ladies, skillfully adapt to this prince. In the end, we understand that the one next to us is not the one we need, when a child is already fussing in the crib, whose father has worn out all our nerves. And what to do? Get a divorce? Children need a complete family. Again, there is no normal family. There are scandals, arguments, mutual reproaches ... To endure? No strength. The situation is dire. Meanwhile, all this can be avoided if you approach marriage correctly, without focusing only on emotions. Let's try to determine how a girl can choose a guy for a family and at the same time not make a fatal mistake.

What are the guys?

What kind of guys are there? Very different.And each of them has its own set of pros and cons. Try to figure out here who is more suitable for a husband candidate. What to do? Before choosing between the guys, let's think about how we imagine our man. Usually it looks like this:

He is polite, polite, and considerate. Such a young man always opens the doors before us, gives his hand in transport, offers his jacket or sweater, if cool and certainly cares when we sit together at the table;

He is caring and always interested in our affairs, problems and causes of bad mood. He is able to cheer and buy aspirin and make hot tea if we have a cold;

He can and wants to protect us. This is expressed not only in protection from hooligans, but also that the young man is not afraid to put his parents before the fact of his marriage. And marry, regardless of their will;

He is romantic, he never tires of giving us flowers, he remembers all our significant dates and tries to cheer us up on such days;

He is reliable and at any time will come to the rescue andsympathizes. And no matter what happened to us, there really was a tragedy or just a broken nail. Because our spiritual comfort is extremely important for him;

It is simple in communication, despite the fact that it surpasses us in terms of education and social status. And do not bully our nose, even if it is a major leader or celebrity.

This approach to choosing a future husband, -quite a common phenomenon among girls. They think that the answer to the question of how to choose the right guy to live with in the future is quite simple. You just need to determine which of the young men you know best meets all the above requirements, and try to marry him. And then everything will be tip-top. Yeah. No way! Our guys are no slouches either and know perfectly well how to behave in order to conquer a girl. They will open doors for her and offer their hand in transport, they will shower the young lady with flowers and tirelessly tell her about their ardent love... Until the wedding. And how the young man will behave after it is unknown. It often happens that a gallant gentleman, having become a husband, changes dramatically. And it turns out that under the tinsel of feigned courtesy there was a selfish and rude boor. Or an infantile, incapable of independent decisions, inert weakling. Or a womanizer, chasing after every skirt. Or... There are so many of these "or"s that make family life a living hell? So what to do now? How to determine a guy's character before the wedding, so as not to shed bitter tears and regret the wasted years? Well, let's see what in the behavior of young people testifies to their true essence.

How to choose a husband?

So, how should a girl choose a guy to marry?and not make a mistake? Let's try to make a classification of those with whom marriage will not be easy, and determine the characteristics of their behavior at the courtship stage.

Macho. They are beautiful, seemingly courageous and strong guys who almost always make a strong impression on girls. They seem to be trying to please us, they are giving flowers and quite expensive trinkets, are showing concern and showing caution. If you remove the rose-colored glasses and take a sober look at this representative of the stronger sex, you can see that his behavior is too demonstrative. In fact, macho needs the admiration of others and expects enthusiastic feedback from them. He is just a narcissistic type with an overestimated self-esteem, capable of marrying only with a special, unquestioningly fulfilling all his whims. Macho needs a submissive slave, not his wife. No, if we agree to become the dumb shadow of this handsome, forward! In the same case, when such a role is not for us, we get rid of it as quickly as possible. Macho does not accept refusals and otshivat them after a dozen or two meetings have a great difficulty;

Gigolo. This type of young people is usually schooled, courteous, charming and able to charm a woman in the first minutes of dating. But - be careful! Alfonso convinced that girls who receive a sea of affection and attention, ready to give all for this in the world. And they decide on a serious relationship only from mercantile reasons. They seriously believe that when they marry a young lady, they sell themselves to her as a high-value product. And she supposedly must now pay all this life for this product, taking care of the material wealth of the family. At the same time, alfonso are very proud and do not tolerate not only reproaches themselves, but even hints on them. At the slightest suspicion of fault-finding on the part of the wife, these male individuals immediately try to prove to her that she is a jerk. How to determine the nature of a guy of this type? Behave like these people, as a rule, unobtrusively and fairly modestly. However, in our attempt to pay for them, they do not show any special resistance. If this is repeated again and again, one must be alert;

Mama's boy.Mama's boys are gallant, attentive, caring on the first date. Of course, such an attitude is charming, and you want to meet the guy again. However, let's be vigilant! If a young man shows almost no initiative in conversation and in actions, and during a conversation every now and then uses phrases like: "My mother said ... Mom decided ..." and so on, this is clearly a mama's boy. Marriage to him will turn into a marriage with his mother. And it's good if the mother-in-law turns out to be a wise and understanding woman and does not interfere in all the family's affairs. But most often it happens that she not only interferes, but also tries to lead and solve all the issues. Perhaps this situation suits someone - let her mother be responsible for everything, it's easier for us! But for someone (usually the majority of such girls) it is not. After all, our family is our world, and strangers, even the closest people, should feel like guests in it. Not at all by the owners. In a word, in this case, each young lady decides for herself whether to continue her relationship with the mama's boy or not;

A demanding bore. This type of men can be determined from the first days of dating. Demanding bores are extremely concerned about the little things in the behavior, and in the appearance of the girl. They will reproach her for the slightest delay, for some violations of the rules of etiquette and social norms, for every word that is incorrectly told, for a little crumpled blouse, and so on. In general, these are pedantic snivels, who are completely unable and unable to control their own emotions. A husband of this type is capable of falling into a rage because of a mug that turned out to be in the wrong place, because of an unwashed dish, because of a speck of dust on the floor ... In addition, he does not even think to protect his wife, whatever happens there. And she will have to endure all, to whom he treats with respect, regardless of whether these poor people like poor people or not. The true essence of the bore appears, of course, not at the first encounters with him, but after he decides that we will not get anywhere from him. However, if the guy on the first date is too meticulous about what other people simply do not pay attention to, you should look closely at him. Perhaps this is our bore and is.

Lovelace. At first glance, it's just a wonderful representative of the stronger sex. He is attentive, gallant, obedient and able to always support in difficult times. But ... A womanizer. He cares about any, more or less attractive person, and even being next to us, he just turns his neck, looking after a pretty girl. No, being a husband, he can completely keep us faithful and not jump on the beds of other women. But in the imagination such a spouse will always have a whole harem. In addition, he is extremely courteous acting with the opposite sex. This behavior provokes many ladies to flirt and inspires them with a hope for a serious relationship. And there is no guarantee that one day our faithful will not cede any of them and dive into someone else's bed. And not one. It is likely that at the same time he will remain a quiet and caring husband. But do we need this? No, if a girl agrees to share her man with a lot of other women, let herself be a ladies' man! And if not, she will have to seriously consider how to choose the right guy for marriage.

A married man. Strangely enough, but married men meet on our way quite often. Sometimes they report their family status at once. But most often they prefer to hide it, because they are not sure that the girl will not otoshet. At the same time, even if the young lady agrees to maintain relations, the women are not in a hurry to get divorced. They can promise the girl a golden mountain, but with a divorce they will pull as much as they can. It can last for years. Женатики will tell the girl of a fairy tale about the sick wife, about favorite children, about the duties before a family. Believe these tales can not be: if a man has a sense of responsibility for his family, he will not go to the left. With rare exceptions. A wife just wants a novelty. And he realizes his desires, little considering the feelings of other people. How to immediately identify a wife, and what are the guys already burdened with a family? Too busy. The time of visits they have all the time is limited, and the visits themselves happen once or twice a week. Usually zhenatiki, if the girl is not aware of their marital status, refer to overwork, frequent business trips, sick parents and so on.

Of course, this classification of guys,with whom it is undesirable to start a serious relationship is very conditional. How to choose a husband, each girl decides for herself. There are ladies who like to babysit a man, there are those who feel quite comfortable if he is busy with himself and does not bother them. There are even such young ladies who are quite satisfied with husbands-aggressors, who are constantly raising their hands. Therefore, how to choose between guys is a purely individual task. But still, most of us dream of a normal, high-quality, strong and long-term marriage. So why frivolously doom yourself to misfortune by choosing the wrong suitors for a husband? Such a mistake can be very expensive. Let's be more attentive and judicious. And our luck will not take long to come. We advise you to read: