How to choose a husband

Being very young, we do not think much aboutcreating some deep relationship with the guys, and over whether that other young man will become a worthy companion of our lives. We have enough exciting meetings with him and a pleasant pastime. Girls enthusiastically get more and more new acquaintances, not really bothering, at the same time, the choice of a life partner. This is normal. After all, we are just stepping into adulthood, and so many new opportunities open before us! However, the serenity of youth is not eternal. Time comes and we start thinking about creating a family. And quite often, at the same time, absolutely do not understand how to choose a husband from the number of familiar guys. However, how do we know how to choose it? Well, still, if we listen to the advice of wise women, but does it often happen? Usually girls dream of a prince, they think that he is a worthy candidate for life companions. And guys who have an idea of how to cuddle young people, skillfully under this prince are adjusted. In the end, we understand that the next is not the one who is needed, when a child is already in the crib, whose father exhausted us all nerves. Also what here to do? Divorce? Children need a full family. Again, there is no normal family. There are scandals, arguments, mutual reproaches ... To endure? Tired. The situation is awful. Meanwhile, all this can be avoided if we approach the marriage correctly, not focusing only on emotions. Let's try to determine how a girl to choose a guy for the family and at the same time to prevent a fatal mistake.

What are the guys?

What are the guys? Variety. And each of them has its own set of pros and cons. Try, figure it out here, who is more suitable for a candidate for husbands. How to be? Before making a choice between guys, let's think about how we imagine our man. Usually it looks like this:

He is polite, polite, and considerate. Such a young man always opens the doors before us, gives his hand in transport, offers his jacket or sweater, if cool and certainly cares when we sit together at the table;

He is caring and always interested in our affairs, problems and causes of bad mood. He is able to cheer and buy aspirin and make hot tea if we have a cold;

He can and wants to protect us. This is expressed not only in protection from hooligans, but also that the young man is not afraid to put his parents before the fact of his marriage. And marry, regardless of their will;

He is romantic, he never tires of giving us flowers, he remembers all our significant dates and tries to cheer us up on such days;

He is reliable and at any time will come to the rescue andsympathizes. And no matter what happened to us, there really was a tragedy or just a broken nail. Because our spiritual comfort is extremely important for him;

It is simple in communication, despite the fact that it surpasses us in terms of education and social status. And do not bully our nose, even if it is a major leader or celebrity.

This approach to the choice of a future husband - quitecommon among girls phenomenon. They think that the answer to the question of how to choose the right guy for life with him in the future is quite simple. We just need to determine which of the familiar young people best meets all the above requirements, and try to marry it for him. And all of us will then have a type-top. Aha. It was not there! Our guys, too, are not bastards and they know perfectly well how to behave in order to conquer a girl. They will open the doors in front of her and give a hand in transport, they will begin to fill the young lady with flowers and tirelessly tell her about their ardent love ... Until the wedding. And how the young man will lead after it, it is not known. Often happens, that the gallant chevalier, becoming the husband, cardinally changes. And it turns out that under the tinsel of admission courtesy hiding selfish and rude dork. Or infantile, incapable of independent decisions, inert gossip. Or a womanizer dragging behind every skirt. Or ... Is it not enough these "or" that make family life a living hell? And how now to be? How to determine the nature of the guy before the wedding, so that you do not pour the burning tears and not regret the ruined years? Well, let's see what the young people's behavior testifies to their true essence.

How to choose a husband?

So, as a girl choose a guy for marriage andnot to be mistaken in this case? Let's try to make a certain classification of those with whom the marriage is not sweet, and determine the peculiarities of their behavior at the stage of courtship.

Macho. They are beautiful, seemingly courageous and strong guys who almost always make a strong impression on girls. They seem to be trying to please us, they are giving flowers and quite expensive trinkets, are showing concern and showing caution. If you remove the rose-colored glasses and take a sober look at this representative of the stronger sex, you can see that his behavior is too demonstrative. In fact, macho needs the admiration of others and expects enthusiastic feedback from them. He is just a narcissistic type with an overestimated self-esteem, capable of marrying only with a special, unquestioningly fulfilling all his whims. Macho needs a submissive slave, not his wife. No, if we agree to become the dumb shadow of this handsome, forward! In the same case, when such a role is not for us, we get rid of it as quickly as possible. Macho does not accept refusals and otshivat them after a dozen or two meetings have a great difficulty;

Gigolo. This type of young people is usually schooled, courteous, charming and able to charm a woman in the first minutes of dating. But - be careful! Alfonso convinced that girls who receive a sea of affection and attention, ready to give all for this in the world. And they decide on a serious relationship only from mercantile reasons. They seriously believe that when they marry a young lady, they sell themselves to her as a high-value product. And she supposedly must now pay all this life for this product, taking care of the material wealth of the family. At the same time, alfonso are very proud and do not tolerate not only reproaches themselves, but even hints on them. At the slightest suspicion of fault-finding on the part of the wife, these male individuals immediately try to prove to her that she is a jerk. How to determine the nature of a guy of this type? Behave like these people, as a rule, unobtrusively and fairly modestly. However, in our attempt to pay for them, they do not show any special resistance. If this is repeated again and again, one must be alert;

Sissy. Mama's sons on the first date are gallant, attentive, caring. Of course, this attitude is fascinating, and with the guy I want to meet again. However, we will be vigilant! If a young person hardly shows initiative in conversation and in actions, and during the conversation he often uses phrases like: "My mother said ... Mom decided ..." and so on, this is clearly a mama's son. Marriage with him will turn into a marriage with his mother. And it's good if my mother-in-law turns out to be a wise and understanding woman and will not get into all the affairs of the family. But most often it happens that she not only climbs, but also tries to manage and solve all the issues. Perhaps, someone like this is the situation, - let Mom take care of everything, it's easier for us! And someone (these girls are usually the majority) and no. After all, our family - this is our world, and outsiders, even if they are even the closest people, should feel like guests in it. By no means masters. In a word, in this case, each young lady herself decides whether to continue her relationship with her mama's son or not;

A demanding bore. This type of men can be determined from the first days of dating. Demanding bores are extremely concerned about the little things in the behavior, and in the appearance of the girl. They will reproach her for the slightest delay, for some violations of the rules of etiquette and social norms, for every word that is incorrectly told, for a little crumpled blouse, and so on. In general, these are pedantic snivels, who are completely unable and unable to control their own emotions. A husband of this type is capable of falling into a rage because of a mug that turned out to be in the wrong place, because of an unwashed dish, because of a speck of dust on the floor ... In addition, he does not even think to protect his wife, whatever happens there. And she will have to endure all, to whom he treats with respect, regardless of whether these poor people like poor people or not. The true essence of the bore appears, of course, not at the first encounters with him, but after he decides that we will not get anywhere from him. However, if the guy on the first date is too meticulous about what other people simply do not pay attention to, you should look closely at him. Perhaps this is our bore and is.

Lovelace. At first glance, it's just a wonderful representative of the stronger sex. He is attentive, gallant, obedient and able to always support in difficult times. But ... A womanizer. He cares about any, more or less attractive person, and even being next to us, he just turns his neck, looking after a pretty girl. No, being a husband, he can completely keep us faithful and not jump on the beds of other women. But in the imagination such a spouse will always have a whole harem. In addition, he is extremely courteous acting with the opposite sex. This behavior provokes many ladies to flirt and inspires them with a hope for a serious relationship. And there is no guarantee that one day our faithful will not cede any of them and dive into someone else's bed. And not one. It is likely that at the same time he will remain a quiet and caring husband. But do we need this? No, if a girl agrees to share her man with a lot of other women, let herself be a ladies' man! And if not, she will have to seriously consider how to choose the right guy for marriage.

A married man. Strangely enough, but married men meet on our way quite often. Sometimes they report their family status at once. But most often they prefer to hide it, because they are not sure that the girl will not otoshet. At the same time, even if the young lady agrees to maintain relations, the women are not in a hurry to get divorced. They can promise the girl a golden mountain, but with a divorce they will pull as much as they can. It can last for years. Женатики will tell the girl of a fairy tale about the sick wife, about favorite children, about the duties before a family. Believe these tales can not be: if a man has a sense of responsibility for his family, he will not go to the left. With rare exceptions. A wife just wants a novelty. And he realizes his desires, little considering the feelings of other people. How to immediately identify a wife, and what are the guys already burdened with a family? Too busy. The time of visits they have all the time is limited, and the visits themselves happen once or twice a week. Usually zhenatiki, if the girl is not aware of their marital status, refer to overwork, frequent business trips, sick parents and so on.

Of course, this classification of guys with whomIt is undesirable to start a serious relationship, it is very arbitrary. How to choose a husband, each girl decides for herself. There are people who like to nurse a man, there are those who feel quite comfortable if he is busy with himself and does not bother them. There are even such young ladies, who are quite satisfied with husbands-aggressors, now and then dismissing their hands. Therefore, how to make a choice between guys - the task is purely individual. But still most of us dream of a normal, quality, strong and long-lasting marriage. So why should it be thoughtlessly dooming ourselves to misfortune by incorrectly choosing their candidate husband's suitors? Such a mistake can be very expensive. Let's be more careful and judicious. And our luck will not take long. We advise you to read: