So often we offend our family and friendsjust because the rain got your favorite shoes wet or your boss rejected your report! It would seem that everything is explainable: you wouldn’t yell at the rain, let alone your boss. So those closest to you suffer for sins they didn’t commit. And we suffer because we understand the absurdity of the situation. And we don’t know how to atone for our guilt before our loved one for a recent outburst of rage. The worst thing is when there is no way out of this situation. You are the executioner. Your loved one is the victim. But is it worth dragging out the quarrel, especially if it arose because of your lack of restraint? Or is it better to apologize and try to atone for your guilt? Now many readers will raise their eyebrows in surprise: what kind of atonement are we talking about? About the one that will show your loved one that you did not just mechanically apologize to him for the offense, but did it consciously and really feel your guilt. In fact, many of our apologies sound something like this: “I’m right, of course, but you’re dear to me, so I’m asking for your forgiveness.” However, before you atone for your guilt, you must accept it. See where you were wrong, how exactly you offended your loved one. After that, sincerely admit that you were wrong. Is it difficult to do this while looking him in the eye? Call him on the phone. Tell him about the feelings that made you lose your temper. Complain about the rain, about the boss. Is that done? Now think: what good can you do for your loved one? Maybe bake a fish pie? Or wash his car? Any expression of your feelings will be appropriate. Just don’t repeat the same action every time you quarrel. Otherwise, the man will develop a persistent allergy to fish pie, and a clean car will be associated not with joy, but with your angry look. But let’s hope that you don’t often let off steam on loved ones. This means that atonement for guilt will not become a habit. Otherwise, neither baking nor saving on a car wash will save you. And one more thing: do not expect forgiveness if you yourself, in response to the slightest offense of your loved one, sulked at him for several days in a row. Do you want instant absolution? Learn to forgive yourself. And most importantly: know how to restrain yourself. No matter how evil your boss is, this is not a reason to ruin your relationship with your loved one. Agree: it is easier to change jobs than to suffer from a divorce and build a new relationship. How to restrain yourself from rudeness? There is a simple and effective way. Before you say something unpleasant to a loved one, count to ten. Has the desire to be rude still gone? Maybe he really deserves a scolding today? By the way, we advise especially hot-tempered people to increase the holding time from ten to fifteen minutes. Live peacefully! We advise you to read:
