Having stepped on the same rake a couple of times, wewe try to either put them away somewhere far away, or carefully avoid them, so as not to get another bump. This concerns almost all aspects of life. Except for the love aspect. Here it is sometimes quite difficult to determine what rakes we constantly run into and how to deal with them. In general, no one is immune from bad luck in love, and almost everyone has encountered it at least once in their life. This is normal. But when someone is constantly haunted by failures in relationships - this is already abnormal. It is even worse when one person has such failures that are like each other, like two peas in a pod. Now we will talk about why one is very often unlucky in love and what can be done about it.
Relationship Failures Scenario
Our life is like a movie in which we are alwayswe play some role. Love relationships are no exception. For those who constantly ask themselves the question: “Why am I unlucky in love?”, they most likely develop according to the same scenario. Only the scenery and the appearance of the main characters change. But the failures remain the same. Conclusion: in order to change the situation for the better, you need to rewrite the script. A huge number of women have been abandoned by men at least once. It must be said that many of them were able to rethink their role in the relationship and were able to be quite happy in the future. However, there are also representatives of the weaker sex who repeat their mistakes almost until old age. This mainly concerns women who always blame themselves for the collapse of the relationship, considering their own appearance, ineptitude, short-sightedness, and so on as the reasons. Such a feeling of guilt usually appears for the first time in a young girl who has been abandoned by a guy. She is not yet sure of her attractiveness and is convinced that she is not loved because of her angularity, pimples, small breasts, and the like. If the young lady does not change her opinion of herself later, it will give rise to all sorts of complexes. And a persistent fear of failure in relationships will appear, significantly limiting the woman's choice of a life partner. Setting herself up for failure in advance, she will avoid meeting those she likes. Well, and those who like the girl herself will sooner or later feel this fear and leave her. In a word, the underlying fear of failure in a relationship will almost always lead to this failure. How can the issue of bad luck in love be solved in this case? It is necessary to change the plot of relationships with men and destroy the fear of failure. To do this, you should become more active, make more and more new acquaintances, make dates, go to meetings, and so on. This will allow you to develop self-confidence and the fact that relationships with the stronger sex can be managed. It would be a good idea to talk to former partners and find out the reasons for breaking up with them. It is quite possible (and this is often the case) that the reason for the breakup was not at all what we assumed. Who knows why people break up? Departure, busyness, illness, some domestic or professional problems... And here we have got it into our heads that, supposedly, we are unworthy of love! And therefore we will always be abandoned. But no one has ever abandoned us! And no one will ever abandon us! The fear of failure in love will go away - and the failures themselves will go away. Well, okay, we will say. Let's say the relationship has acquired a different character and has become more reliable and positive. But what if men leave - they don't leave, but for some reason constantly cheat?
Problems in the relationship. Treason
Nowadays there are a lot of debates about men's rightspolygamy and how to treat it. The spears are broken with a deafening crash, the truth still hasn't come to light, but that doesn't make it any easier for us. What difference does it make whether the men there are polygamous or not, if most of us will never be able to get used to their infidelity? Vague hints that men need variety are of little comfort - there are many couples where the husband can do without it. But here you try, try for everyone's happiness, and then suddenly find out that he has someone else. And this "someone" may be far from perfect and generally inferior to you in many ways. Why?! Why are beautiful women unlucky in love in this case? Are women really divided into those who are cheated on and those with whom they are cheated on? Yes. Indeed. Probably, many are familiar with the situation when a spectacular, well-groomed smart woman constantly faces the fact that her partners, regardless of their appearance and status, run to the left. Why? What is happening? Here's what is happening. If we initially see other women as a potential threat to our happiness, then they will become this threat. And it does not matter at all whether the representatives of the weaker sex, different from us, want this or not. In other words, when we want to win a man's heart and believe that it may belong to another woman, we subconsciously let these women in. It is clear that in this case we are not talking about daughters, mothers or sisters. So it turns out that when we perceive other females as our aggressive rivals, there will certainly be rivals among them. And a man will not pass by one of them one day. What to do with this? Tell yourself: "Yes, I am not the only woman in the world. But I am unique!!! There has never been, is not, and never will be such a thing. Therefore, I have no equal in my uniqueness! ". And try to take this as seriously as possible: take care of yourself as a child, do not allow anyone to offend or upset you. It is necessary to fill your own world, first of all, with yourself and your aspirations. And then in the soul of a man who has come into this world there will be no room for anyone else. Frankly speaking, male infidelity has little to do directly with bad luck in love, since people cheat while loving. But many of us are convinced - if a man has gone left, it means that love has passed. So that such a conviction does not arise, you should become confident in your own exclusivity. One man did not appreciate you? Let's find another! And then let him break his neck, trying to bite his own elbow!
Errors in the relationship. Reliability
There is a category of women that menare constantly used for their own purposes. Some of them need temporary shelter, some need financial assistance, some are looking for a shoulder to cry on or a career to make, and so on... In a word, everyone is looking for only benefits in a relationship with the poor thing. And she is ready to do anything for her chosen one. Even if she understands perfectly well that she is only being used. It is difficult to clearly determine the reason for such submissiveness. Feelings, trust, inability to fight back against meanness, habit, and a thirst for self-sacrifice all play a role here. Many ladies of this kind believe that a man can be corrected with her all-forgiving and boundless love and achieve reciprocity from him. In reality, such behavior is usually characteristic of women who have never said goodbye to the idealism of children's fairy tales, where the heroes are clearly divided into good and bad, good and bad. It seems to them that real love relationships are similar to the relationships from "The Scarlet Flower". And a monster, if you truly love him, will one day turn into a fairy-tale prince. In reality, a monster remains a monster, no matter how many "scarlet flowers" you bring him. And the poor things still carry them in armfuls, suffering, swallowing tears and hoping for the best. What to do in this case? Realize that fairy tales and reality are not the same thing. And there are no princes, but there are those who are able to give happiness, and those who will never give it. And determine for yourself which of the men belongs to which category. Of course, if appearance is of primary importance, there is no need to complain about bad luck in love. There will always be a handsome man or just a guy with a pleasant appearance who is only looking for someone to use. But if you really want happiness and reciprocity, then you will have to reconsider your demands. And learn to say "no" to those whose intentions are either clear or doubtful. After all, true femininity is not an eternal readiness for self-sacrifice. This is softness, tenderness, sensuality, requiring care and understanding. There is another reason for bad luck in relationships, similar to the one described above - patience. Let's talk about it too.
Bad luck in love because of patience
It would seem that of all people, it is the young ladies withAngelic characters have no reason to complain about eternal bad luck in love. Yeah. No way. They are the ones who complain about such bad luck more often than others. The reason is that overly patient women are always attracted to men with difficult characters. In general, these are rude, selfish boors, for whom a woman is only a means to satisfy their needs. They do not consider it necessary to strain themselves when communicating with her, they are rude, quarrel, find fault and even raise their hands. Angelic types can endure all this. And, as a rule, they endure. Because they tend to pity their partners who are offended by the whole world, embittered. And besides, they also consider this to be their cross to bear. Deep down, such women always cherish the hope that forgiveness can warm a man and eventually set him on the right path. Well, let's say, can a vicious homeless dog, if given love and care, become affectionate and submissive? A dog - yes. A man - hardly. He cannot be trained and will always bite. Therefore, women with the idea of limitless tolerance should understand: it is impossible to turn a person who hates everyone into a kind and spiritual creature. He simply enjoys the fact that someone suffers. And he will always create an environment for someone's suffering. There can be only one way out of this situation: switching attention to your own person, your needs and your aspirations. Trying to remake an adult, by all means creating comfortable circumstances for his existence is a thankless task. It is better to engage in self-improvement and get a real chance for personal happiness. Another answer to the question of why there is no luck in love may be the increased initiative of a woman in relationships with men. As soon as such a representative of the weaker sex pays attention to someone, she immediately starts actively courting him: she makes a date with the object of her passion, calls him and even showers him with gifts. Usually, men are frightened by such behavior of a woman, since it does not allow them to understand their feelings for her. And in general, it is perceived as excessive obsession, which arouses suspicion. After all, if a lady is so annoying, then something is wrong with her. Such women are like passionate hunters trying to catch an animal. In this case, the animals are men who feel trapped. Of course, they are trying to get out of the trap! What kind of reciprocity can we talk about then? For it to appear, a woman needs to become more restrained in her actions. Do not scare men. They do not like it. We recommend reading:
