Open relationships, sex without obligations.Today, this concept is becoming more and more fashionable and widespread. What kind of relationship is this? What do they mean? Initially, this concept had the main meaning - freedom. That's where the name comes from. People loved each other, but at the same time remained free. They did not control each other. They trusted. Note that there is nothing about cheating or free sex here. Lovers remained faithful to each other, although they did not seal the union with marriage and did not have children. Usually, such relationships developed among students who still have a lot of studying to do. What kind of family is this, if a guy barely scrapes together change for a glass of compote in the cafeteria, and in order to take his beloved to the cinema, he saves for weeks. But that was before. What now? Today, the phrase "free relationship" hides a lot of different destinies and feelings that should not be called that. Young men ... What do I mean young men! Men who do not want to start a family and take on obligations, draw girls in love into the false captivity of such relationships, hoping for greater favor, without giving anything in return. Do their girlfriends want such love? Unlikely. Most likely, the young woman secretly dreams that the man, seeing how wonderful and thrifty she is, will fall in love and marry, forgetting about his priorities. The man, however, takes advantage of the established position, not even thinking about changing his status. After all, for them, the key word in the phrase "free relationship" is sex without obligations. Moreover, often not with one girl, but with several. So what? He did not promise anything to anyone. Everything is honest. But is it honest? No. Moreover, in such relationships, not only the man lies, but also the woman. Now the male half of the audience will angrily exclaim: "And what is the man's fault? He is honest and pure!" Of course, male solidarity is a great thing, but answer me this question: how many words make up "free relationship"? Two. So, for a man the key word is "free", and he forgets the concept of "relationship" in principle. So let's figure it out: can throwing between several women be called a relationship? Hardly. As for women, they see in the phrase "free relationship" just a relationship. Let it be deceitful and lopsided, similar to a one-sided game, but a relationship. And your girlfriends will have something to brag about. Lie a little. Let them envy. In fact, there is nothing to envy. Psychologists say that people with complexes, who are not confident in themselves and their partner's feelings, are inclined to free relationships. They seem to insure themselves against love failures in advance, declaring: "Well, that's why they are free, these relationships! What did you expect?" And what do they themselves want? Oddly enough, love, family and understanding.
The woman is the initiator
But not everything is so categorical.Not all women want to get married. Some initiate these notorious no-strings-attached relationships. And they do it sincerely. Such women do not hold a grudge against future betrayals or love triangles. They are simply tired of being wives. And they usually enter into free relationships within a year after a divorce. You could say that this is how they heal their emotional wounds and prove to themselves with the help of an affair that “there is still gunpowder in the powder flasks.” Be that as it may, they do not use men for their own purposes. They just want to play by their own rules once in their lives:
- No dirty socks;
- Male fumes from the morning;
- Huge pans with food (how much does a woman need?);
- Enough mask and depilation behind the closed door in the bathroom;
- Long live the living flowers in the vase without reason;
- Yes, pleasant gifts will come with us only because we are women, and not because someone came yesterday at 3 am with lipstick on the collar;
In fact, this list can go on and on.endlessly. But it fits into one short phrase for a woman. Free relationships. Do they develop into marriage? It depends on how long the woman was married before, the reason for the divorce and who is currently with her. But experience shows that today more and more women value personal freedom more than a stamp in the passport and are in no hurry to tie themselves down with any obligations. Very often, not only a divorced woman, but also a married man is looking for free relationships. Such a union usually drags on for many years. Especially if the female half already has children. Then the woman can afford not to have a stamp in the passport and share the man with another. The main thing here, oddly enough, is the absence of strong feelings on either side. If one of them falls in love, a gradual violation of the contract begins, and the relationship ceases to be free. And then it ceases to be at all. After all, as we remember, only one side loved. Another supporter of free relationships are divorced men. Those who have learned to cook, keep order, wash and even preserve food perfectly throughout their lives. Now let's remember situations from life: who usually gets such wealth? That's right, real sluts. Those who, in a few years, will spoil the husband's blood so much, and instill such hatred for marriage that the man then only sees free relationships. As a rule, it is impossible to drag such a treasure to the registry office. But you can persuade him to cohabit. Therefore, dear ladies, do not be afraid if your suitor's knees shake at the sight of wedding cars. Be tolerant, and you will be rewarded. Finally, let's figure out: what is the difference between open and free relationships? Ideally - nothing. But in practice, it depends on who is entering into them. Because you can say one thing, but build a completely different relationship. We advise you to read: