Agree that each of us has had this in our livescases when we waited for a phone call from our beloved man all day and night. When our hearts sank in frantic anxiety and we jumped up from any ringing of the mobile phone, hoping to hear a familiar voice. But men are strange creatures, they seem to not understand that we are waiting for their phone calls and hoping for reciprocal feelings. Sometimes a guy does not call back after the first date, and this despite the fact that he looked at his companion with loving eyes all evening and tenderly held her hand. Sometimes a man stops calling and communicating in the midst of the honeymoon period, although nothing foreshadowed trouble. And it is not known which situation is harder: the first, when feelings have not had time to go too far, but it is very offensive to realize that you are simply being ignored. Or the second, when his silence cuts the heart like a knife, and you do not understand what your fault is. Why does a man not call, what is the reason? Probably, two hundred years ago, when phones did not exist yet, everything was much simpler. People either agreed to meet or not - everything is simple and clear, no empty hopes. Now, when there is an opportunity to contact each other by phone at any time, a man's long silence is perceived as a blow below the belt. After all, if he loved, would he make you suffer, sitting by the phone around the clock? And the mobile is silent, as if bewitched, and the same thought beats in the brain: well, call, well, call .... A man who does not call after the first date, and one who stopped dialing a woman's number in the midst of a relationship - the situations seem to be different, but the reasons are often the same. Let's try to analyze these situations separately and look at them from the outside. Perhaps in both cases you will find something that will clarify your particular case.

Why a man does not call after the first date

Our rich imagination colorfully paints a hundredreasons why a man has not dialed the right phone number for several days now, although quite a lot of time has passed since the date. But not every one of these brilliant ideas is even a little bit close to reality. So why doesn’t he call after a seemingly successful date? The reasons are fantastic, but they explain absolutely everything. You don’t want to think at all that he doesn’t call because he doesn’t like you. How can this be, if on the date he made it clear that he’s simply crazy about you! And you’re not a little girl anymore – you can smell a man in love a mile away. And so you come up with a hundred excuses for his silence on the phone. Here are the most unusual of them:

Force majeureFor example, someone close to you died oracquaintances, and he had to urgently leave the city, the region, the country. To a place where there are no telephone towers and the mobile phone does not pick up a signal. Of course, he thinks about you, worries, but circumstances are stronger than him. Is this possible? Why not. Someone dies all the time, so maybe your chosen one is just such a case? But if you really hooked him, if he really fell in love with you to the point of oblivion, then he will always find an opportunity to call and warn.

He became seriously ill. It doesn’t matter what happened to him –bronchitis or inflammation of the finger joints The main thing is that he can neither dial your phone number nor type a love text message. You convince yourself that this is a very serious version, that this happens all the time. But what prevents him from asking someone to contact you and explain the reason for his silence? And if you are completely honest with yourself, then it is very difficult to believe that illness can be an obstacle to a phone call.

He was killed. A very logical version, whicheliminates all chances for your boyfriend to pick up the damn phone and dial your number Crime in our country is not decreasing, and so the guy got caught in the crossfire. All that's left is to wipe away the unwanted tear and say goodbye to the failed love. Or forgive, because this reason is completely unbelievable, don't you think?

The reasons are unlikely, but still possible.Having gone over all the worthy reasons why he doesn't call in your head, you discard the versions related to global cataclysms and the loss of your loved one's memory. You turn on your brain and start thinking in a different direction: what could happen that could be so real that it could prevent him from dialing your phone number? So, the following versions:

He has absolutely no time Oh, this XXIcentury, just keep up with the frantic pace of life! Every day, there is simply not a minute of peace for your man. Judge for yourself: study-home-work, and then strict parents force you to do repairs in the apartment (he just told you something similar on a date). Friends were flooded again, and the neighbor girl's kitten climbed a tree. He helps everyone, saves everyone. In a word, a dream, not a guy. It's just a pity that he did not have enough time for one mere trifle - to call his beloved girl, without whom he cannot live .... What if maybe that's why he does not call?

He already has a girlfriend. Now that's true.The real version! Maybe he already has some Sveta or Natasha, and he has loved her for a long time (it is possible that both). And he went on a date with you because he had a huge fight with his passion, or maybe with both at once. In this case, both his tenderness and attention are easily explained. He was probably trying to prove to himself, and at the same time to his girlfriends, that no beauty can resist him. So you fell for the bait. If this version is true (sooner or later you will find out for sure), then you better cross yourself, sigh with relief and be glad that this deceiver did not call you. Why do you need such a Don Juan?

The reasons are more real, and therefore a littlesad Well, let's move on to more rational reasons, or rather, to those that most often turn out to be true. Perhaps something in your date was still wrong, otherwise why wouldn't he call back? We strain our brains and remember what could have pushed away the failed gentleman.

You managed to bring things to sex afterthe first date Well, everything went great! After a romantic meeting, you went to his place and indulged in unbridled passion to the fullest. You clearly managed to prove to him that it is you - super-sexual, uninhibited, inventive, tireless - in a word, every man's dream. After such crazy sex, he should be hanging on the phone day and night, begging you to give him another night of love. Well, or at least an hour. But he doesn't call, the bastard! Or maybe he still can't get over the physical and emotional sensations he received during sex with the incomparable you? What can I say... Any man is essentially a conqueror. Even if he has an intelligent appearance and thin-framed glasses on his nose. Rarely does any guy want to invite a girl on the next date after sex on the first date. And why? Judge for yourself: he has already received everything he needs, what is there to strive for? Maybe he would have been filled with you with all his heart if you had given him at least a little time - but no, you arranged a night of sex for him right after meeting him! And what do most men want from girls first and foremost? Give them sex, sex! And you just went to bed with him right away, without giving him time to appreciate your wonderful spiritual qualities and get to know you for real. So, you have no one to blame but yourself for the fact that he doesn't call anymore.

On the date they both got drunk as hell. MaybeYou were very nervous and completely forgot that alcohol is a tricky thing. It seems like you only had a couple of cocktails to get to know each other, but your head is already spinning. Oh, and it was fun! What did you mix up later? Cognac with sambuca, and then pour a bottle of champagne on top? It’s no wonder that the date went off with a bang – so much so that you were embarrassed to remember it the next day. Although, as they say, “if you’re not embarrassed after the party, it means the party was a failure.” It’s just a pity that it wasn’t a party at all, but a date with a guy you absolutely adore. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be sitting here with sadness in your heart and hypnotizing your phone with your gaze.

In a drunken stupor, anything is possible – and confessions inlove, and heart-rending stories about a difficult childhood and even a hasty proposal of marriage. If you believed his every word and can't wait for your romance to continue, you may still be hungover. Because any sober girl will understand that a dead drunk lady is unlikely to seriously interest a man. Even if he himself has abused much more than you that evening. If a woman drinks like a real sailor on the very first date, then the guy is unlikely to want to make her his girlfriend (what if he decided that you can't live a day without a drink?!). That's right, blame yourself! The most common reason, but hard to believe Now let's talk about the most common reason why a guy doesn't call after a date. All the previous versions are possible in one case out of a hundred, while the remaining 99% are due to a completely banal reason: you are simply not his type. And you behaved absolutely correctly, and looked your best, and he saw and appreciated your rich inner world. He just wasn’t hooked, that’s all. Some mechanism in your brain responsible for falling in love didn’t work. And this doesn’t mean that you’re a loser or bad for him in any way – such things happen all the time. Movie stars, photo models, royals are rejected – there’s nothing surprising about that. Perhaps the fact that he stopped showing you signs of attention and didn’t call you back after a date is a great blessing, not a sad thing. He’s just not your kind of person…

Why do men stop ringing in the midst of a novel

But what if your first date was a long time ago?behind, if for several weeks, months or even years you have been meeting regularly and are happy together? But one day he suddenly stops calling you and answering your mobile phone. And then he stopped liking your photos and writing messages on social networks, although he appears there quite often. Is this the end of the relationship, or is there some reasonable reason that explains this behavior? The reasons are banal, but they explain a lot

We women attach great importance tophone calls It is completely normal for us to chat with our girlfriends for 2-3 hours straight without a break, we can remember an important event and call someone at night to urgently share the news. Men, unlike us, do not attach much importance to phone calls. Where have you seen a guy who is ready to talk on the phone for several hours in a row? This is only possible if there is a woman on the other end of the line, already driving him crazy with her endless chatter. Waiting for a man to call, we simply do not understand that it may not even occur to him to hurry up to dial the cherished number and please us with his voice. “I don’t call - it means I have no time” - this is exactly what most men think, who do not attach much importance to some kind of phone conversations. Moreover, all people have such moments in life when they just do not want to talk on the phone. In general, with anyone. Although rare, such situations happen, and you in this situation can be completely innocent. If this is the case, then there is no point in worrying: you just need to calm down and stop waiting for his phone call, and he will immediately show up, as if nothing had happened.

Maybe you're rushing things too much.Yes, you are having a good time together, you have already had a few dates and everything went great. But if you started to tighten the screws, consider him your property and are wildly jealous, then expect trouble. Men are not very willing to say goodbye to their freedom, especially at the very beginning of a relationship. Of course, we, girls, after the first date can fantasize about what kind of children will appear in marriage with a newly-made gentleman, how we will live happily ever after and die on the same day. Guys do not suffer from such sentimentality.

What if he hasn't yet decided whether to callyou as your girlfriend, and you're already seriously thinking about wedding bells! If this is really the case, then it's not surprising that the guy doesn't call anymore. He just moved away from you at a decent distance to make it clear that he's not ready for such serious changes in his life. At least not so soon. We can only hope that he hasn't gone into the shadows forever, but just until you realize that there's no point in rushing things. The reasons are serious, but beyond your control Here we'll talk about the reasons why the guy decided to simply quietly withdraw from your relationship. Maybe he didn't have the strength to tell you to your face that it was time to break up, or maybe he wanted to give you a chance to leave him first. Well, he stopped calling for a week or two, you got offended and sent him a message that you no longer need him. And it's easier for you, and a weight off his shoulders... That's what he thinks, but you still shudder at every phone call and hope for a miracle. What makes men act this way?

Maybe he decided you were too good forhim Too smart, beautiful, educated. We can go on and on. If next to you he feels like an unsightly simpleton with a bunch of complexes, then maintaining a relationship on equal terms becomes increasingly difficult. Perhaps you were too smart on dates, and guys, as we know, do not approve of this. "We don't like being loaded down, we didn't hire ourselves out as loaders," - that's the whole story. And if you can calmly shine with your erudition, good manners and knowledge of the political situation on the world stage, then he may have a completely different view of what an ideal girl should be. A simpleton-giggler, adoringly looking into his mouth - for many, such behavior from a girl is enough to feel like a real macho. Perhaps the same gigglers are no dumber than you in terms of education and general erudition, but they were smart enough not to put their sharp minds in the foreground. Well, love, as they say, is evil and you have to find a way out. But think about it: why do you need such an insecure guy and a weakling who is not able to reach your level? Such relationships are very rarely successful. Wouldn't it be better to look for someone with whom it will be really interesting to go through life?

He's pushing his price Oh, that happens very often withyoung people. If a guy feels like a star from the sky, if he is sure that you cry by the phone day and night, waiting for his call, then he will maintain an icy silence. "The less we love a woman, the more she likes us." Sound familiar? Such guys can behave like real romantic heroes from a love movie, and then stop calling and disappear from sight for an indefinite period. Well, to tease you, bring you to the condition he needs and then take you "warm". But such thoughtful guys do not take into account that during this period you can have five new guys. Or even more. And you can forget about the unlucky "star" altogether. And believe me, this is the best option if you are "lucky" to stumble upon such a narcissistic type.

It doesn't matter when exactly the man doesn't call, afterthe first date or after the tenth – in any case, this is a very difficult situation for any woman. Do not despair until you find out the exact reasons for his long silence. There are many cases when men disappeared from sight for very important reasons, and when they appeared, they immediately contacted their beloved women. But if in your case the guy simply did not want to continue the relationship, then try to find positive aspects in this situation. Firstly, he may not be the prince on a white horse that you dreamed of since childhood. Then your hands are untied and you will find an opportunity to continue searching for your true happiness. Secondly, he even acted nobly, deciding not to fool your head and not to give you false hopes. Blow him a kiss, spit three times over your shoulder and forget about it. Your happiness is walking around somewhere nearby, wondering where you disappeared to. It is not right to make your true love suffer for too long, it is time to go and meet him. And if you are lucky enough to find him, then there will be no questions about why a man does not call: your other half will never upset you with a long wait. We recommend reading:

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