Unfortunately, many problems in relationshipsarise because there is a significant contrast between what each sex thinks the opposite sex wants from them and what the opposite sex actually wants. In particular, women, as more emotional creatures, often feel resentment and anger towards men. How can you not be offended: you try and try for him, but he is still dissatisfied! It’s just complete hopelessness! And a man, as it turns out, does not particularly pay attention to our efforts, because what is important to him is not at all what we think. Therefore, he cannot appreciate our efforts, and therefore it seems to him that our image is far from ideal. So what do men want from women, what do they want to find in each of us? Let's figure out the male vision of the ideal woman.

What men want from women

Now we will try to reveal to you what they thinkmen for one reason or another. In addition, we will tell you how to act correctly in each case to give a man exactly what he wants, and this will help you create a wonderful relationship.

Honest and open communication is the highestpriority for men They want a woman not to be disingenuous or use vague hints, but to speak directly and frankly. They want a woman not to beat around the bush, but to confidently ask if she needs something. They want a woman to respect the truth and not distort the facts. And men also dream of seeing a woman by their side who would treat them without excessive criticism and who would be able to take care of preserving not only her own, but also their personal dignity during communication. Unfortunately, more often than not, women act exactly the opposite. It seems to us that men like it when we keep silent about our needs and do not ask for anything. We are afraid to show that we need something, we are afraid to show our feelings. It is better to scold once again than to praise or tell how much he means to us. Of course, a man can use our weakness to get the upper hand over us... And how we can criticize every word and action of a man, believing that only we know how everything should really be! But it is precisely this kind of behavior that turns men off the most. Advice for women: any person likes to be spoken to simply, frankly and without any criticism. But men want this especially strongly. One of the best ways to attract a man and build a good relationship with him is to learn to calmly tell him about your needs and respect his personality. And never, under any circumstances, infringe on his male pride!

Men always want to deal with a self-sufficient womanand a self-confident woman Any man wants a woman to choose him among others only for his personal qualities, and not be guided by an attempt to escape from need and despair with his help. Any male partner, no less than we, women, wants to be loved and desired. It is very important for a man that a woman herself is an active and independent person, with her own interests, friends and social circle. We, women, think that a man should like it when we completely dissolve in him. All our affairs and thoughts are only about him and only for his sake ... And at the same time, a man does not value the minutes spent together at all - he would rather go to the TV or to his friends. And if you try to impose your company on him, he will look for a reason to run away from us as far as possible. Yes, but not so. A man is quite capable of appreciating the time spent with a woman. But at the same time, he wants to see in his other half not a reflection of himself, but a full-fledged person, an interesting person. And he won't want to run away from you if he knows for sure that you need him and that you value and respect him as an interesting person. Advice for women: men want the same thing as women: to have a reliable and interesting partner next to them. And if you want to build a strong and vibrant relationship, then try to live a full life, develop your inner world and treat your partner with warmth and respect.

Men always want relationships without manipulation.They do not tolerate manipulation of any kind. They do not want to guess their partner’s thoughts or try to interpret any signals. They do not want to be forced to move faster in the development of the relationship if they are not ready for it yet. They do not want to be misled and get something from them by deception. Men do not want to play games whose rules they do not know. Women think that men themselves do not want much, therefore, the needs of others are incomprehensible to them. And the only way to get what they want from them and satisfy their needs is to influence the man through manipulation. As it often seems to us, the man does not understand that the relationship needs to develop, and we just want to push him to the next step! Advice for women: people do not tolerate manipulation of any kind, and men are incredibly angry when they are tried to be controlled. If you want to build a good foundation for your relationship, learn to be tolerant of the desires and needs of your partner.

Men always want emotional stability andpersonal responsibility in a woman Guys want to have a woman by their side who can laugh at herself and treat life with humor. They don’t like hysterical women, they like women who are capable of showing courage and spiritual strength. This doesn’t mean that a woman should be masculine; she can be fragile and defenseless, but she should be emotionally stable. Men appreciate a woman who is responsible for her personal development and emotional experiences. It seems to us that men, when communicating with us, only think about how to have a good time. It also seems to us that men are only interested in our external data, and in any case, they will give preference to a young girl with a model appearance. But this is far from all that men want from a woman. Of course, they will always turn their heads after a beautiful girl, but when choosing a partner, they will give preference to a woman who is emotionally mature, kind, loving and capable of support. Advice for women: Emotional maturity does not mean a lack of emotions. This means being able to manage your emotions. If you want to make a man like you, learn to control yourself and manage your feelings and their expression.

Men always want to see fidelity and loyalty in a womanDevotion This is an absolute must for a normal relationship, and this is perhaps the most important thing a man wants from the woman he loves. Relationships grow stronger when a guy is confident that his beloved will not flirt with everyone in a row, but will give all her attention to him alone. He will appreciate a woman who is able to fully commit to building a relationship with him. Many define such a commitment as loyalty and the desire to work on the relationship, even when not everything is going well. Women think that all men only want sex, and they are only interested in developing relationships until intimacy occurs. Like, what else should you want if you have already achieved the main goal? It seems to us that you can’t trust men, they are always ready to cheat; so why should we remain faithful? Many of us are sure - when even the slightest discord occurs in a relationship, men run away from us without looking back. Advice for women: betrayal will never be justified. Good news for those women who have resigned themselves to the myth that all men cheat: infidelity and deception are as unpleasant for men as they are for us women. Do not consider all men to be thoughtless males; they are capable of appreciating good relationships and will protect them from unnecessary shocks. They, too, have an idea of ​​how to build a great relationship, and they, too, understand that loyalty is the main ingredient in such a relationship.

Men always want to see next to them aa woman who understands how much he needs praise and encouragement. Many women treat a man in a way that as if they consciously try to infringe on his ego as much as possible, making him feel inadequate. The guys would prefer that they be praised as much as possible, recognize that they are doing everything correctly and flawlessly, and that they are constantly told that they are wonderful guys who simply can not be disliked and not appreciated. And we are confident that men do not need us, nor in our praise. It seems to us that men do not care about things that are incredibly important for us, and we start to saw them, instead of encouraging them each step towards solving our problems. And where there is no recognition, there are easier offenses are born. Advice for women: do not be afraid to spoil and dilute your boyfriend with praise. Do not think that he will eventually take a nose and begin to believe that you are not worthy of it. This is not true. Unfortunately, very rare women who understand the importance of recognizing the merit for every man. Therefore, he will especially appreciate you for what you see and encourage his dignity, achievements and successes. Yes, he just dust particles will blow off for this! Most men most want recognition and gratitude from women. If you learn to turn a blind eye to insignificant shortcomings, see good and praise more often, then you will master one of the most powerful tools for building lasting relationships.

Now you know what men want from us,women, and it will be easier for you to understand your partner and find a common language with him. But in order to really get a good feel for men's preferences, we will try to make a list of the traits that men look for in their girlfriends. We will generalize some of what has been said above, consider new facts, build a coherent list - and we will know what we need to focus on!

10 features that men want to see in their women

We would like to point out right away that this list is based on many years of research by a group of female psychologists from America. So, what do men really look for in women?

She has her own life - and that makes herinteresting Dear girls, it means that you have to look after yourself, have some interests and find time to communicate with friends. Do not miss the opportunity to embark on a journey or go for adventure, take from life the opportunity to experience the joy - from eating your favorite dessert to walking in the park on a sunny day. A woman who lives a full life and enjoys every day, will not poison the existence of others, and a man understands this perfectly.

She never takes the first step to the beginningThis issue has always been subject to heated discussion, and a real consensus has not yet been reached. But watching men say that they do not like it too much when a woman starts to take initiative and chases a guy. Men are simply not programmed by nature to behave like prey. They prefer to hunt themselves.

She is sexy, without being vulgar anddismissed This means that at the beginning of courtship for her a woman should refrain from any statements and comments that are openly sexual. But this man will be very pleased if a woman flirts with him through seemingly non-sexual fleeting touches. You can, for example, put a hand on his shoulder or even on his knee - but not for long. And you can touch your knee with your knee; this game will have a guy to taste.

She does not hurry up with sex. Yes, sexythe revolution has long thundered over the world, yes, a man always seeks to move more quickly to sex. But if he intends to build a serious relationship, he will never rush his chosen one. Many women do not understand how sex changes the dynamics of relations. And if we go to it too early, it will significantly impoverish those relationships that could develop outside the bedroom. Therefore, psychologists advise you to wait at least one month before you have sexual intercourse with a new person. A man will appreciate your legibility and in the future will be confident in your decency.

She always takes care of the man And at alldo not necessarily do some grandiose things: for example, daily wash and starch his shirts or every day to prepare dinner, as in a restaurant. The bottom line is that you have to be careful even in small things that will allow him to understand what you think about him, without forgetting his individual needs. He will do the same for you, believe me! Well, he cleaned in the winter from the ice windshield of your car! And, every morning and without any reminders. Would he do it if he did not spare your tender hands?

It should be the best mastermind of its ownboyfriend Remember the folk saying? The man, of course, is the head, and the woman is the neck, which supports this head and turns in the right direction. Help him with advice, laugh at his jokes, help him show his best. Of course, he will try to do the same for you.

She never exerts pressure on a man.it is very important, we have already talked about this. Men are disgusted with any kind of pressure. This also applies to the development of relationships. Guys do not like it when a woman tries to keep a hand on the pulse of a relationship. They do not like to analyze, at what stage are the feelings, they like to just enjoy them.

She does not fall into bad stories, because a decenta woman will never commit evil deeds. You should not disturb married men or those who already have girlfriends, should not deceive anyone, should not let themselves be humiliated. If you respect yourself, then the man will respect you.

She must share his views on life. Thoughthey say that opposites are attracted, but any person will think twice before approaching those who are capable of unacceptable words and deeds.

She knows that love is the greatest.the term in a happy marriage formula Some women are guided by selfish motives, building their relationship with a man, and are not at all interested in him as a person. But love includes a unique feeling of spiritual comfort and a feeling that someone else's happiness is as important to you as your own. The desire to love and be loved is the basic need of man, and men understand this no less than us women!

We told you how to understand what he wantsa man from a woman he could love all his life. And it doesn’t matter whether you are at the beginning of a relationship or have been married for a long time; it is never too late to correct mistakes, if there are any. We, women, are naturally endowed with a special wisdom that helps us smooth out sharp corners in relationships with men. By the way, this is another quality for which men value us. And how to predict where these “corners” may arise, we now know! We recommend reading:

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