Have you ever wondered howmanipulate a man? Relationships between the sexes are a very complicated thing. Of course, many of us want everything to be real, without any deception or strange antics. However, in most cases this is not the case. The harsh realities of life are such that cunning sometimes comes in very handy. Well, we will tell you how to learn to use it correctly.

Manipulation useful and harmful

Quite often you can hear the following wordsfrom women: “What manipulation? I will never stoop to such things!” The lady who says them does not want to adapt to anyone and wants everything to be straightforward and simple. Unfortunately, this does not happen in relationships, and very often she is left alone with her problems in communicating with the opposite sex. For example, a man “gets loose” and starts drinking a lot, gaining weight, being lazy and being rude to her, and she does not know what to do. This usually happens to women who have read too many romantic fairy tales or who were raised by their parents in an environment detached from real life. Any romance is a bit of a game in which you need to be able to show both honesty and cunning. You can manipulate a man in a good way and in a bad way. The second option can be seen when a woman absolutely does not care what will happen to her partner. She uses him exclusively to satisfy her own needs: in order not to be alone, to solve her problems, to take revenge on the entire male race - the reason can be any. But she absolutely does not care about him and his desires, although this can be carefully hidden behind the guise of feminine seductiveness. Such a woman manipulates a man very cunningly. Often she pretends to be an unfortunate martyr who will die if the “prince” does not appear. Of course, any man wants to assert himself and feel like a strong and brave hero. He willingly swallows the bait and finds himself on the hook of the manipulator, who knows what to do with him next. It is because of this image of the villain that many women do not dare to use tricks in relationships with men. But everything can be different. Remember the beginning of any of your relationships. You do not approach a man you like and do not tell him directly: “I like you. Let's go on a date now. Then, if we like each other, we will start dating, have sex and, if everything goes well, we will get married in the future and have children.” Everything happens differently: you smile, shoot him with your eyes like in a famous movie, take seductive poses and use other various feminine tricks to inspire him to the feat of approaching you first. So why should you give up such things at more serious stages of a relationship? Thus, the difference between good cunning and bad manipulation becomes obvious. In the first case, you use it to lead a man to the right decision and behavior. In the second - you brazenly pump energy and resources out of him. Which of these options to choose and whether to do it at all - it's up to you to decide.

Simple algorithm

If you still prefer to usemanipulation in one form or another, then you need to learn how to do it correctly. Simply put, comprehend the basics of male psychology and understand the effective way of interacting with the stronger sex. After all, they are a very special people who are in great need of female energy. Receiving it, a man gives his partner exactly what she needs. Therefore, we offer you a simple instruction on how to manipulate men and achieve everything you want.

Understand what your partner wants.It is very important - to carefully learn his needs and help to satisfy them, especially when it comes to exclusively female functions - support, acceptance, forgiveness, care. At the same time, you should unobtrusively emphasize your own role in his little happiness. And sometimes allow him to be just a boy who wants to frolic and have fun.

Respect his worldview and values. There is nothing worse than a woman who despises her man and his inner world. Chances are great that your points of view are not alike in everything. And in this case, you should not always make bloody wars because of this. Gently, but persistently explain that you have the right to your point of view, and if you can not completely separate it, you certainly respect it.

Do not make serious mistakes. In what way is this expressed? For example, a woman absolutely knows exactly what behavior is infuriating her partner, and still continues to do so. No, of course, there are relations built on mutual anger, but do you really want this kind of development? Irritation tends to accumulate, and a man less and less wants to do something for a woman. So understand your partner, and do not once again provoke him to anger.

Support him.A little higher we wrote that the role of a man is to protect a woman, and her role is to support him and give him energy for protection. That is why our partners need our care and attention to them so much. They are manifested in goodwill and psychological attitude towards the loved one. A simple example of such support would be the words “I believe in you” or “you will succeed”. And if suddenly failure occurs, then encouragement and warmth will be very useful.

Watch the emotional intensity.As you know, we women worry much more and more often, and about any reason. And we are absolutely fine with it. If you deprive a woman of deep and intense feelings, she will not feel very good. And a man feels just as bad when he feels overwhelmed with emotions. He does not understand anything, gets tired quickly and begins to feel irritated. Do you think it will be easy to get anything out of him in this state? Therefore, when talking to your partner, reduce the emotional intensity a little - unless it is about your positive feelings for him (but even in this case, you should be careful and within reasonable limits).

Dress the way he likes.Men love with their eyes - that's a fact. And even loving with their hearts, they still pay great attention to our appearance. Surely you know his tastes in female beauty, so try to be attractive, but specifically for him. This does not mean that you should now change your appearance in accordance with his ideals. But you probably shouldn't abuse flared jeans if he likes skinny ones. Or, when choosing a new hair color, remember what he likes. It is important to remember that many things that seem nice to us, surprise and even disgust men (for example, ugg boots). But there are also those that can drive him crazy. The choice is yours, to make him happy or disgusted.

Remain independent. It is very important to understand this recommendation correctly. The emancipation of our society has reached such a global scale that many women have appeared who do not take seriously male courtship. They are fully proving themselves and others that they do not need support and concern from the stronger sex, because they all can themselves. But this is not true because of the characteristics of female nature. The reverse side of this process is manifested in the emergence of that category of women who are trapped in men and do not give them passage. It is very important to maintain self-sufficiency and be able to live, even if there is no one around or there are problems in the relationship. But this does not mean a total rejection of everything male in life.

What do men want?

In order to learn correctlyманипулировать, вы должны знать, на что вообще клюют мужчины. Все их “тонкие” места вытекают из особенностей мужской психологии, и именно на них необходимо опираться, используя хитрость. Что к ним относится? Самая главная мужская (и не только!) слабость — это секс. Конечно, все мы любим это дело, но из-за особенностей физиологии у парней оно является “уязвимым” местом. Когда возникает хоть малейший намек на секс, кровь отливает от головы мужчины и приливает к соответствующему месту. Способность думать резко снижается, а вот желание получить удовольствие, наоборот, нарастает. Именно такой механизм имеет место быть, пусть и в менее выраженном варианте, когда мужчина ощущает женскую сексуальность. Подобными приемами наверняка пользовалась каждая из нас, надевая короткую юбку, блузку с глубоким декольте или поддерживающий бюстгальтер на важное свидание. Женская слабость в некоторые моменты работает еще круче, чем секс. Так уж устроен мир, что женщина является сосудом для накопления ресурсов и энергии. Ее основная функция — хранить домашний очаг, создавая уют и тепло в семье. А мужчина должен ее защищать и давать поддержку, обеспечивая всем необходимым. Именно поэтому мужья нередко уходят от сильных и успешных жен к менее привлекательным, но более мягким и слабым женщинам. Особенно уязвимы для женской слабости чуткие и сочувствующие мужчины, которые по жизни проявляют желание заботиться и поддерживать. Говорите мужчине комплименты. Как говорится, доброе слово и кошке приятно. Точно так же как и мы, мужчины любят слушать комплименты в свой адрес, особенно те, которые касаются их мужественности, силы, настойчивости, целеустремленности, успешности и прочего. В этот момент реально чувствуется подъем самооценки, что вызывает положительные эмоции. Но очень важно не переборщить, иначе похвала будет похожа либо на насмешку, либо на лесть. В обоих последних случаях вероятность получить положительный результат стремится к нулю. Люди почти всегда чувствуют фальшь на подсознательном уровне, поэтому хвалите реально положительные черты. Благодарность — не самый простой аспект для манипулирования, особенно у женщин. Некоторые дамы предпочитают окружить мужчину заботой и любовью в надежде, что он останется с ними хотя бы из чувства благодарности. Но ими допускается ошибка: в попытках “привязать” мужчину они теряют чувство уважения к себе, и ему просто не хочется быть с такой женщиной. Кроме того, они часто делают для партнера те вещи, которые ему по сути не нужны или которые он воспринимает как должное. Соответственно, никакой благодарности тут не дождешься. Самая правильная стратегия — поддерживать и помогать мужчине в сложные моменты его жизни, а также уступать тогда, когда это не ожидается и стоит усилий. Чувство вины является любимой струной для игры многих женщин. Но, к их несчастью, мужчины зачастую не любят брать на себя вину лишний раз. Наоборот, они предпочитают “свалить” всю ответственность за проблемы на женщину и гордо удалиться. И тогда она “остается с носом”. Или они воспринимают любые упреки как “выпиливание мозгов” и перестают на них реагировать. Поэтому на чувстве вины надо играть с умом и изредка — лишь тогда, когда мужчина действительно опростоволосится. А вот на мужском стремлении быть номером первым можно “ездить” практически бесконечно. Этим эффектом мы обязаны гормону тестостерону и пресловутым принципам мужского воспитания, которые гласят, что настоящий самец — это всегда победитель. Именно поэтому мужчина всегда старается быть самым умным, сильным, заботливым, уверенным, добрым, богатым — перечислять можно до бесконечности. И все это — отличная почва для манипуляции! Вы в любой момент можете намекнуть (только тонко), что если он такой сильный, то пусть поможет вам перевезти тяжелый сервант к вашей маме. И все прочее в том же духе. И обязательно хвалите его за подобные поступки, показывая правомерность принадлежности к группе “самых-самых” мужчин. Наконец, нельзя забывать об основах дрессировки! Да-да, вы не ослышались — классическое рефлекторное обучение способно творить чудеса, причем не только с мужчинами. Приведем простой пример: каждый раз, когда муж собирается пойти погулять с друзьями, жена сладко потягивается, всем своим видом обещая секс, если тот останется. Нетрудно предположить, что выбирает мужчина. Постепенно в его мозгу закрепляется ассоциативная связь между желаемым типом поведения и наградой, и он привыкает действовать так на автомате. Но даже если вам нужен ситуативный эффект, вы всегда можете пообещать ему что-то приятное или нарисовать радужные перспективы будущего, если он поступит так, как нужно.

Technique

Now let's talk about some simple tricks,knowledge of which will help you learn how to manipulate men correctly. There are a great many of them, and we want to tell you about the most effective ones. But you can come up with your own within the framework of the general direction of thought given above.

• Request for help. For a woman, the habit of doing everything herself is very harmful. That's why we recommend that you ask a man for help, even when you can deal with the problem without him. But this is so great if the partner is given the opportunity to show his strength! The most harmless is the situation when you ask him to open cans or help you carry a heavy package with things. This technique can be extended to setting up a computer, replacing a light bulb, assembling furniture, communicating with officials, and much else.
• Thirty-three pleasures at once. Imagine a picture of a man returning home from work, and there he is waiting for a delicious dinner prepared by you and a woman wearing the most beautiful home clothes or a new set of silk underwear. You can add more amenities, for example, watching an interesting movie or even a duel in his favorite computer game. Or buy him a magazine about new technologies, which so rarely manages to read. Naturally, a man will grow fat after this, and you can ask him about something.
• Promise something special. Do you want your partner to finally do all the accumulated homework or take you to the theater? Promise him a night of enchanting sex for it! Or suggest him then go on a fishing trip with friends on the weekend, which he had long wanted. A man must very much desire a reward in order to fulfill your request.
• A woman of mystery.Keep silent when you really want to tell a man something - a little distance provokes him to conquer. Sometimes be busy with your own affairs for him, so that he does not think that you are completely immersed in your relationship. Find yourself an activity that will be only for you, and where he will be “off-limits”. This technique should be used with caution and without overdoing it, so that the man does not think that you are not interested in him at all.

To manipulate a manThat's right, you should always remember the fine line that separates good from evil. In other words, control a man, but only for the good of your relationship, and not just to gain your own benefit. Many women manipulate only because they don't know how to do it any other way. Let cunning serve only as a seasoning for the delicate dish of your relationship, and happiness in love will be guaranteed!

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