The theme of marital infidelity is already filled with nausea. However, it does not become less relevant from this. Treason was, is and will be, and nowhere from this can not get away. You can say as much as you like that this is the essence of human nature, and try to teach the spouses to treat the infidelity of their half calmly. I must say that in our days there are many couples who do so. They tell each other about their adventures, consult and even look for one suitable partner for another. Such a husband and wife consider themselves to be free and advanced. Probably, so it also is. But nevertheless the bulk of families such "advancement" is not very welcoming. That is, explicit ties with other partners are not welcome. But if secretly - for a sweet soul! And, it's a sin to hide, not only married men, but also married women are capable of them. True, these women's treason - its own specificity. This is what we are going to talk about now.

Why change married women

Why a married woman decides to betray? Well, with men everything is clear. Then you and the instinct of sexual instinct, and the desire for novelty, and the desire for self-affirmation, and love, finally. And in general - men usually physical contact is not considered a betrayal. You think, you slept with someone! Returned home? He returned. So, it's all right, I belong to you, my dear wife, and my mistress is so, for the near and the variety. In short, the conscience of such hussars usually almost does not torment. They simply do not unite family relationships and relationships with other young ladies, as a person does not combine morning exercises with work. As for women, the situation with them is somewhat different. Sexual instinct here does not rage at the sight of every attractive male (nymphomaniacs and notorious whores in the calculation do not take), the novelty rather scares than attracts. About self-affirmation through treason and it is not. You will earn yourself such a reputation - you will not want the enemy! Well, love, of course, can be present. From the outbreak of feelings, no one is immune. So, every married woman who decides to betray, certainly first falls in love with someone, and then goes to bed with him? Not everyone. So why then do married ladies associate with another man, risking both marriage, and his good name, and even often health? Because husbands are different. One will find out - just arrange a scandal or give a divorce, another otmutuzit so that his own mother then does not know. The reasons that a married lady gets a lover, usually there are:

Bad relationship with her husband If the husband is rude to his wife,the situation in the family is constantly tense, there is nothing surprising in the fact that the woman will seek solace and affection on the side. She, without much hesitation, will become the mistress of someone who can appreciate, understand and give tenderness. Even if the wife, who is offended by her husband, still does not allow thoughts about treason, psychologically she is ready for it. And subconsciously looking for a relationship in which he will feel psychological comfort;

Lack of attention from her husband SuchThe lack of attention can arise due to the fact that a man is too enthusiastic about something, his car, sit-down with friends, other young ladies. In the end, he just can be cold to his wife because of years of habit. All this provokes a decrease in a woman's self-esteem, and she wants to prove to herself that something else is worthwhile. It should be noted that the decision to take the status of "mistress" in this case is a desperate step. But if there is a catastrophic lack of intimacy and attention on the part of the husband, the woman does it, it is worth appearing next to him capable of giving her all this to the man;

Revenge for the betrayal of her husband Frankly, this revengeusually gives the woman a little pleasure. In addition, usually also aggravates relations in the family. A man's own adultery is usually considered something of a physiological discharge or amusement. A wife's infidelity is an apocalypse. Actually, in this case it is. After the betrayal of the wife, the woman subconsciously begins to look for another life partner. It is almost impossible to overcome the pain caused by the betrayal of a loved one. Not every wife is capable of forgiving and accepting that her husband has given (or still gives) her caresses to another;

Sexual dissatisfaction She usuallyis expressed either in a rare, or in an over-fresh physical intimacy with her husband, who completely refuses to understand what his wife needs in bed. Three minutes of fast sex - and on the side. No prelude, no surprises and attempts to deliver his wife the maximum pleasure. And her efforts - romantic dinners, erotic lingerie and so on - do not give any result. The husband simply either does not notice anything, or considers it all as a blessed thing. And the woman has no choice but to look for a partner who will take into account all her needs;

The desire for a surge of emotion In many families aftera long period of marriage, men become mean to express emotions and are indifferent to the fact that the wife needs it. A husband can sincerely love his mate. But if he does not talk about it and does not want to hear anything about her emotional state, the woman begins to doubt that she feels some feelings. It closes in itself and perceives marriage no longer as a happy coexistence of two, but as a series of duties. As a result, the need for emotional realization is growing, which is expressed in the search for another man, the relationship with which will be full of unforgettable romantic moments;

Search for a new love There are a lot of idealistic women,almost all my life dreaming of unearthly love. Naturally, relations in marriage simply can not always be at the peak of sensual delight. And when this relationship goes into a resting phase, it seems to such women that love is gone, and indeed it was not real. They begin to look for their prince, who can be any ladies' man, who knows how to hang a lyrical noodle on the ears of a woman. Ladies willingly climb into the trap, sincerely believing: here it is, this unearthly feeling! Disappointment is usually not late. However, after a period of tears and remorse, the situation repeats.

A married woman can change because of excessivejealousy of her husband, so that his reproaches were not groundless, due to lack of respect on his part, with psychological pressure on her husband. And finally, because of her too much harassment! And such, oddly enough, occurs quite often. Well, it would seem, the lady is married, why should a strong sex pay attention to her? Nevertheless, draws, and if the young lady is also charming, even as she draws! And explicit signs of sympathy are expressed mainly by married men. What is the reason? Is not there a lot of pretty free girls from whom a good mistress will come out?

Why married men prefer married mistresses

Actually, the fact that a married manprefers love relationships on the side not with a free woman, but with a married woman, there is nothing surprising. Many of these eternal playboys and thoughts do not allow for a divorce from his wife. And the connection with the one who does not have a stamp in his passport is not known what will turn out. To lose still the lover of the head from passion, and will begin to work miracles, telling to the right and to the left, what a fiery love is between them. Rumors, of course, will reach the faithful, and then just hold on! In the best case, you lose half the hair on your head or find out that the frying pan is not only a cookware, but also a percussion weapon. At worst, you'll fly out of the house with things and a certificate of divorce in your teeth. The likelihood of a similar situation in connection with a lady who does not have a spouse is quite high. And this does not please. Another thing - a lady married. She is unlikely to talk to everyone about her adventures, because she herself is afraid of being publicized! Hence, he will try to do everything to make relations secret, which is already a significant plus. Another positive side of such a connection is that a married woman does not need to divorce her and marry her. No, it happens, and they demand, but still much less often than unmarried people. They only know how to whine - when do you leave your wife? And what - "when", if it was never going to? So you have to lie and get out. If the mistress has a family, then everything is honest. I'm a married man, you're a married woman, ah, how late we met, but there's nothing to be done, fate ... And a point. Mentally, romantically, sexually. Between us - sublime feelings. Another reason for the desire of ringed walkers to the left, that the mistress was married - her less than the free young lady, exacting. Well, I did not present a gift for the eighth of March or for birthday, but I did not even congratulate you at all, and all right! Even special excuses are not necessary - I did not want to raise suspicions of my husband, that's all. Here you see what a sensitive and delicate man I am! Often I do not call for the same reason. And suddenly your husband is near, what then? The cool thing about all this is that she often can not make calls about anything and without any reason. So, worry about every trill phone in the presence of his wife will not have to. The next reason that married ladies want more to contact a woman who is not free is material considerations. In this case, the relationship between a man and a mistress does not require excessive monetary costs. She does not need to pay for the purchase of new gear, she will not call for work and, sobbing, will not ask for money to repair a just-broken car. With such a woman, do not necessarily wander around expensive restaurants and pretend that you are a financial tycoon. She is not as ambitious as the young beauty, and even ambitious - there is a husband, let him with these ambitions and fumbles. And finally, every lover to run to the left, being married to a man, is afraid to catch some indecent illness before he cries in the liver. With a woman with a family, the risk of contracting such a disease is minimized. She will not change partners three times a week, will not go to bed with the first counter. Firstly, once, secondly, it is dangerous. After all, there is a husband all the same ... In general, why men prefer to enter into an amorous relationship with a married woman, we sorted out a little. And why do family ladies choose a married couple, not an idle man, as a lover? It would seem that these are superfluous problems. After all, find out about everything his wife, will rise to such tararam - mother do not worry! Husband will certainly be aware of all cases. Just hold on there! And then, the relationship with the married requires much more caution. He will not be called at an opportunity, you do not go to his house, you do not go to work. Each time I have to look for a place to meet, and this, too, does not add optimism. So what makes a spouse who has a wife choose a married lover?

Why married women give priority to married lovers

In the event that a married lady has a relationship toside with a single man, the relationship between them can not be very favorable for her. The mistress of the married little worries that he will begin to be jealous of her husband. In the case of a bachelor, this situation may well arise. Men do not really like to share their woman with someone, even if it's a legitimate spouse. And who knows that one day he will wander into the head of a lover who is not related to his family, to fall in love with his passion? Starts more rights to pump and arrange a trial with her husband! Relations with a married man of this form can hardly be accepted. Even if he will experience some feelings, it is unlikely to risk destroying his mistress's family. After all, for this, before you have to destroy your own. Another disadvantage of communication with a single man is the inability to constantly satisfy him sexually. A married lady has a family, a job, a lot of duties. Throw everything and come running at the first call of her lover, she simply can not. If this happens all the time, the bachelor has nothing to do but look for a partner who is always at hand. Or regularly change these partners. And that, and another to realize, being even married, is not very pleasant. And then, this situation is dangerous for health. Random sexual relations friend - this is not a ram sneezed! You'll pick up some more French disease and bring her to her husband. Well, when you meet a married man, everything is much easier. Most likely, he will not wander from partner to partner. Here time to meet with a woman with difficulty choose, so why create yourself yet and additional problems? Flashes of desire can be extinguished and with intimacy with his wife. Plus a married lover is that he is more responsible than a bachelor, refers to the way of communication. A married man will not have a spontaneous idea to meet from work, call outside of working hours, appoint a date in a crowded place. He will not insist on joint trips and will not blame when he is not congratulated on the anniversary. If, when going somewhere with her husband, suddenly to meet with a married man, he will always behave adequately circumstances. And you can expect everything from an idle lover. It will knock him into the head to show a close relationship with such a magnificent woman, and will undertake with all his might to make the secret obvious to all indiscriminately. You'll bury the problems on your head! And to part with a married man is easier. He will not make a big scandal or call every minute and wait in the street to find out the relationship. Even if for a married lover the break will be a very strong blow, he will try to survive it, not showing his desperation to anyone. If, of course, not a weakling and not a psychopath. Well, it's better to have nothing to do with such little girls. In short, the relationship of a married woman and a married man is like an equivalent tandem with common rules of conduct. Equivalent, but not quite. Because men are a pragmatic people, and therefore less than women, are at risk of falling in love with their passion without memory. With girls the same way. Strongly carried away by a married lover for a married lady - just sneeze, especially when she is married for more than a year. And then the behavior of a woman is drastically changing. She gives herself away, at the risk of losing her family. What, then, can be expected from a relationship with a married man? Most likely, he will disappear from her life. Well, even if it does not disappear, it will be frightened and try to reduce the meetings to a minimum. Because, as we have already said, usually divorce is not even planned by very ardent family lovers. No, there are examples of the fact that the connection of a married woman with a married man ended up with their marriage. However, there are very few examples of such. Yes, it happens that a great feeling flares between lovers. But it, as a rule, glows, as long as there is a need to hide. In addition, secret rare meetings bring romanticity to the relationship and do not allow people to know each other properly. It is only natural that they do not demonstrate their shortcomings, which begin to manifest themselves if the visits become too frequent. Whether this feeling will remain after that is unknown. Certainly, this can happen not only between a married person and a married man. However, in our case, a woman takes too many risks. Be a lover free to him, if because of her infidelity or for some other reason the family breaks up, you can leave. And what about the married in this case? Require a divorce? Probably will run away. Leave everything as is? It's sad. The emergence of such a situation to married ladies, who decided to contact a family lover, should be implied. And it's good to think before taking the first step. We advise you to read:

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