What does a confident woman look like? Straight shoulders, slightly proud posture, confident step with a soft gait, smooth, rather hard and piercing look .... Looking at her on the street, you hear the melody of Elvis Presley, and, it seems, she is perfect. Men see off such people. She loves sports, active leisure, and always knows what she wants. This is where the very thing lies. It is very important to want and still know what you want. And you want to become self-confident, successful and modern woman. Close your eyes, right now, and imagine yourself as you would like to be! Who do you see: Angelina Jolie, Angela Merkel, Uma Thurman, Nicole Kidman? You can, of course, become a copy of one of them, your idols. You can even decide on a desperate step and go to a plastic surgeon, but you need to understand that you will just turn out to be a clone. Men who will be there, behind the exterior will not see your soul, and this is so important. And the owner of "star" external data must have a peculiar nature. Let's try to imagine again, only now itself. We must see ourselves and the qualities that we lack in life, raising our self-esteem. Which one do you want to become? So imagine yourself: confident, strong and at the same time sensual, capable of resolute actions, but ready to compromise.
How to develop confidence and improve self-esteem
Psychologists say that uncertainty canoriginate in a person even in early childhood, and can appear in a fairly conscious age, usually from ridiculous phrases, minor offenses and the like. You can go deep into the reading of Freud, Ebbinghaus, Aristotle, you can use the professional help of a psychologist, or you can just send everyone to hell and become self-reliant yourself. How to raise self-esteem? Let's tell, we will teach, we will force! The first weapon of a confident person is a smile! Yes, yes, the most common smile is a powerful weapon, the correct possession of which opens up new horizons. This does not mean that you need to run to the nearest dental clinic and create an ideal smile. Look at the half-year-old kids, they only have two teeth, as a rule, but how much charm! .. The secret is simple - just a sincere smile. Conclusion: smiling is always insincere, even if you only have two teeth! The same psychologists after some experiments have concluded that the woman on whom she wears sexy underwear is confident in herself no matter what is worn from above. So, you need to buy the most daring, sexy, frank underwear, and definitely a set. If you have a stunning bra from French lace and shorts to Cheburashka, it's not surprising that the sensations will be, like Cheburashka's in lace, with the corresponding self-esteem. Could she be different ?! In general, there are several rules that absolutely all women should follow:
- Do not put on a "bag" with a hole for the head
If we put on top of a free cut, then the bottom is justmust be tight. If the blouse is tightly attached to the body, then below we can afford the flare. A slightly bared shoulder is welcome, because we have amazing underwear and nothing terrible will happen if its fragment is visible, but the smallest. If you can not teach yourself how to combine things in modern trends, you should not drop your hands and fill the cupboard with formless things of classic black color. Look in the mirror. What color are your eyes? Choose tops, dresses and blouses of all shades of this color and be sure, it will suit you. Pay attention to the appearance of celebrities outside the red carpet. Or how the main characters are dressed in romantic films, the figure of which is similar to yours, and then just find similar clothes in stores. Quite often, owners of magnificent forms do not allow themselves to retreat from the classics because of far-fetched reasons, and it is easier to say - because of low self-esteem. Yes, it is far-fetched! Whoopi Goldberg has, in your opinion, an ideal figure? But the absence of "magazine" forms did not prevent her from becoming a terrific actress with unlimited charm and millions of fans! Anfisa Chekhova is also far from 90x60x90, but there is no man who passes by it will not turn back. Stunning, sexy, self-confident and at the same time nice, can it not be noticed? You can list such stories indefinitely, but if, while reading these lines, you are absorbing a third giant sandwich, then this is a problem.
- Eat right, nice, tasty
"You are what you eat!"- a very accurate description of the inner world of man. Have you at least seen a slender, beautiful woman, carefully pushing a huge hamburger in her, smearing delicate, delicate fingers in the fat layers of mayonnaise, while dropping fragments of lettuce from her mouth? No, and hardly ever see! Food is the philosophy of the soul! If you throw in the "soul" in the morning fatty sausages with ketchup, why would you sing? But toast with cheese and a cup of natural aromatic coffee is what you need. Add a lettuce leaf and a slice of cucumber .... Do you feel the difference? That's how her soul feels. Love meatballs? Nobody forces them to refuse. Baked in the oven cutlets no worse than fried in a frying pan, but much more useful! Try different recipes, and get rid of direct pests: mayonnaise, buns, cheeses, butter, fatty cream, sour cream ... and so on. Do you like chocolate? We pass to the bitter. You can start with 55%, it's a little more sweet, and then increase the percentage. In general, we exclude from the diet sweet soda water. It provokes thirst, but does not quench it - it has long been a secret for anybody. So, we raise the self-esteem, we lower calories! If you can not cope with the feeling of hunger and can not cope with yourself in any way, we start with a simple one. Before each meal, we drink a full glass of water, immediately notice how the appetite will be reduced. We accustom ourselves to this every day. For pure water your body will be immensely grateful. According to statistics, about 78% of people on the planet suffer from dehydration! And it's not the inhabitants of Africa, but we are with you. How much ordinary water do you drink per day? A glass or two, or even none at all, at a rate of two liters per day. A person is 70-80% of water. Tea, coffee, juices do not replace water! We drink a lot of good clean water! Take the rule of the house with a knife and fork. Set the mirror in front of you and look "from the side", how beautiful you look during a meal. Do not like it, we fix mistakes, we like it, we improve the technique!
- We speak beautifully
Remember the wisdom: "Louder than all barking mongrels. Silence and endurance are a sign of the breed. " We always say calmly. There are small and simple secrets of oratory, how beautiful and coherent to speak. Imagine that you are the news anchor, and read this article anew, but loudly, with an expression; you can look at yourself in the mirror at this moment or even write down the reading on the recorder. The third time you will like the sound of your voice. Train, and you will not notice how to start talking the same way in everyday life. And, of course, we read classics! Vocabulary should allow you to clearly formulate thoughts. No word-parasites, and all the more foul language! Want to be heard - shout, want to be heard - speak more quietly! The interlocutor will intuitively listen to a soft sound. At the same time, we do not forget that silence is gold, and a phrase successfully inserted in a conversation can send fortune to your side. Once Faina Ranevskaya, having met a young, talented novice actress, complimented her, saying that she looks good. The actress said in response that she would like to respond with the same compliment, but, alas, that would be untrue. Do you know how Ranevskaya reacted? The phrase: "And you can not believe how I did it!" And brilliantly avoided an embarrassing situation with the help of a well-sounded phrase!
- Caring for yourself
It's not even a rule - it's the law! As Coco Chanel once said: "The girl's hands are her business card, her neck is her passport, her breast is a passport." And do not say that the manicure is now expensive, but on beauticians you can go broke. You can do everything yourself and not worse than in beauty salons. Transparent varnish will give a healthy shine to neat clean nails. Three tablets of aspirin with a tablespoon of water - it's a simple and inexpensive way to get rid of red small rashes on your face, and you just need to mix the ingredients, apply to your face and wash it off after 10 minutes. Nothing complicated, right? Desire is a thousand possibilities, reluctance is a thousand reasons. What should always be a separate item of expenditure in the budget is a hairdresser. Hair should always be laid. After a good haircut, a good master even hastily gathered hair in the tail will look stylish. Another iron rule: the hair should be only on the head! On the body can be an exceptionally fragrant balm for the body. And if the window is winter, it does not give us the right to ignore this rule. And it does not matter that no one can see it. It is important that you see it yourself. Here, for example, you are all this, ignoring this rule, running across the road on the heels, and stumbling, turn the leg. A crowd gathers around, they call an ambulance. A carriage arrives with a red cross on its sides and a man of your dreams comes out of it in a white coat. He grabs you in his arms, carries him to the couch ... he asks something, and while you hold your breath and hear not a single word of it, look into the depths of his blue, bottomless eyes, he rolls your pants, and there ... oh horror! You say it is unlikely? Little, but still probably. We must always be ready for any turn of fate! Until you love yourself, no one will do it. Love yourself for who you are. If you do not like the reflection in the mirror because of extra pounds, it does not matter, we choose a gym near the house. Expensive? So we do the exercises ourselves at home. Laziness? So, turn on your favorite song and dance! Yes! We're dancing! And this should be an energetic dance. The excuse "I do not know how" is also inappropriate here. Not in the Stone Age we live. We write down for the lessons of modern dance, we surprise our family, and at the same time we increase self-esteem! In general, the opinion of others should always be seen "through your fingers", especially if you want to raise self-esteem. Once Faina Ranevskaya (we hope that she was 200% sure of herself, there is no doubt?) Said: "I do not care what you think of me. I do not think about you at all. " So let's not reinvent the wheel, everything has been invented before us. Take the rule every morning over a cup of coffee to read a couple of wise sayings of great people and follow their advice. We know exactly what we want! To be successful, and therefore self-confident! Let's say you do not have a problem with your head, you can not cope with it. So, we go from the opposite, and if we can not change the situation, then we change our attitude to it. This will help you become a confident person with high self-esteem. Now let's close our eyes again and imagine ourselves, such as we can become now, reading these lines - a self-confident person. Look at yourself. Beautiful, glowing in the sun hair, which develops the wind, confident, coquettish look from under the lush eyelashes. Graceful fingers with impeccable nails can hold a handbag with ease, which is combined with a light stylish dress that conceals stunning sexy underwear. Elegant easy gait and always - a sincere smile. Yes, this is a new you, the one that managed to raise self-esteem! Remember that really strong, confident people always have a big heart full of love. Do not be afraid of change, love everything around. Feel free to change something in your life, especially if your heart and soul want it! Every time you leave your house, believe that today a miracle will happen in your life, let it be a small, but still a miracle. Wait ... why would not he become big? We advise you to read: