For centuries, the psychology of relationshipsmen and women were viewed through the prism of sexism, when it was assumed that men were obviously superior to women and had dominance over them. Modern society is moving steadily toward the goal of establishing complete equality between the stronger and weaker sexes; but the more we equalize our rights, the more we lose awareness of the important differences between us. The desire for equality between people of different sexes has narrowed the possibilities for understanding what really constitutes male and female essence. But the world becomes boring if everything around is the same…

Physiological differences between the sexes

Of course, it's good when everyone is equal.But we are still different! When we talk about equality, we mean that everyone has the right to the same opportunities and protection under the law. But this equality does not change the fact that men and women are very different from each other physiologically and psychologically. None of us would dare to argue with this. Physical differences are obvious, and most of them can be seen and even measured. Weight, body shape, anatomical differences, unlike, for example, political views, are material and therefore visible to the naked eye. Such physical differences between men and women have historically provided us with functional advantages and had survival value. Men usually have a stronger upper body, easily built muscle mass, thicker skin than we do, which is why guys almost never get bruises (at least much less often than we do) and they have a lower threshold for recognizing limb injuries. Men are mainly adapted for physical confrontation and the use of force. Their joints are well suited for throwing objects. The male skull is almost always much thicker and stronger than the female one. As you can see, the statement that our gentlemen are almost all "thick-skinned" and "hard-headed" is not far-fetched! And such features of the body structure were due to the need for constant clashes and struggle with numerous opponents. And women have four times more brain cells that support the connection between the right and left hemispheres. This is a relatively recent discovery, which easily explains why men "rely" mainly on the left hemisphere, which is why they are characterized by such an algorithm of actions when one task is solved at a time. Beautiful ladies have much freer access to both parts of the brain, and, therefore, can use their right hemisphere much more effectively. That's why it's easier for us to focus on several problems at once, and we prefer to solve problems with several simultaneous actions. If you still remember yourself as a teenager, you probably remember how boring we found boys' conversations. The guys expressed their thoughts too confusingly, in our opinion, and preferred to play football rather than participate in a conversation with four or five girls who were discussing three problems at once! Psychological differences between men and women are less obvious, so they can sometimes be difficult to describe. However, these differences can have a profound impact on the formation of relationships between people of different genders, and this applies to all types of relationships - friendship, business cooperation, marriage, raising children and much more.

Psychological differences between men and women

Most often, the root causes of problemsrelationships arise precisely because partners do not always realize the difference in each other's psychology. But if there was an understanding that we carry within ourselves two completely different perceptions of the surrounding reality, then we would be able to understand each other. So, what are the main psychological differences between us?

Communication skills through body language(non-verbal means of communication) are much better developed in us than in our guys. Our brains, as a rule, have greater capabilities than men's for analyzing information received through the organs of hearing and sight. We can read "between the lines", paying much more attention to words, facial expressions, intonation of voice, gestures and other sources of information that interests us.

The big problem is the difference in approachproblem solving Usually men are more independent in this matter than we are. They even prefer to solve their problems alone, without voicing them to anyone. If a problem arises, the guy immediately starts solving it. With us, everything is different. We will simply find ourselves in a dire situation if we lose the opportunity to share problems with our loved ones or girlfriends, even if they are obviously not able to provide a solution to the issues that have arisen before us. This is the most common reason that provokes many conflicts. For example, a wife tells her husband about a situation that causes her difficulty, and she does this only for the purpose of exchanging information and with the desire to receive emotional support. But the main purpose of a man is to provide a solution to problems! Naturally, he immediately gives an unambiguous answer: it must be done this way and that way. But the wife sees several solutions, and she wonders why her partner is so categorical. And off we go. That's why we love to lock ourselves in the kitchen or bathroom with a friend, sister, mother or daughter and chat away from men's ears about everything we've had to go through during the past day. A woman will always understand a woman!

The Importance of Attractiveness for Representativesdifferent sexes and their attitudes towards sex are also strikingly different. The area of ​​the brain responsible for sexual desire is much larger in men, and as a result, men, firstly, think about sex much more often than we do, and secondly, a woman’s appearance is very important to guys. If we mainly value personal qualities in a person, then they primarily evaluate appearance. This is the reason why a guy easily gets attached to a girl just because she looks very sexy. It is only later, when they become older and have had their share of bumps and bruises, having gone through a series of unsuccessful relationships, that men begin to pay attention to the personal qualities of their partner. But even then they continue to idolize physical female beauty; they are capable of sacrificing a lot and turning a blind eye to character flaws, just to get along with the most attractive women.

Male aggression versus female diplomacy Weby nature itself "are set up" in such a way as to try to avoid possible conflicts. Guys, on the other hand, are quite aggressive in general. Scientific experiments have shown that men are faster than women at recognizing angry faces, which has helped them spot opponents faster since ancient times. A typical woman will try to avoid conflicts and will do everything in her power to maintain peace, while a typical man is unlikely to back down if someone threatens or challenges him.

Another confrontation:logical thinking versus emotional thinking Guys are able to abstract themselves from emotions and make decisions independently of them, while the weaker sex generally takes into account other factors that are related to emotions and which the stronger sex does not notice.

Different approaches to solving problems I would likeLet's look a little more closely at the differences in how men and women approach problem solving, as it is in these situations that disagreements and conflicts most often arise. While both can find a fairly effective solution to a problem, the process itself is often very different. For most women, exchanging opinions and discussing an emerging difficulty provides an opportunity to explore the problem, while simultaneously deepening and strengthening the relationship with a partner. We are usually more concerned with how exactly the problem is solved. It is when a woman encounters a difficulty that she can either feel less isolated by discussing the problem with her partner, or misunderstood and lonely if no one wants to listen to her. That is, for her, the process of solving the problem can strengthen or weaken the connection with her partner. Men approach solving difficulties in a completely different manner than we do. For most of them, solving a problem provides an opportunity to demonstrate their competence, importance, strength and determination. How the problem is solved is of no importance to them; the main thing is that it is solved effectively and with the best possible result. Therefore, men have a tendency to dominate in a problematic situation. They try to "take power into their own hands" when it is necessary to find a way out of a critical situation. At the same time, they are not guided by feelings and emotions at all - for them there is only a task, and its solution becomes a means of proving his masculinity.

Understanding the difference between the sexes facilitates mutual understanding

The lack of understanding that exists between usdifferences inevitably lead to misunderstandings. Our inability to accept and appreciate these differences can become a source of bitter disappointment, frustration, stress and, ultimately, relationship collapse for the rest of our lives. Such misunderstandings can destroy even the most successful and happy relationships. At the same time, it cannot be said unequivocally that harmonious relationships between a man and a woman are fundamentally impossible. Problems arise when representatives of one sex expect people of the opposite sex to think, feel or act the same way as they do. Although, of course, it cannot be said that men and women live in completely different realities. Rather, it is our ignorance of each other’s psychological characteristics that leads to friction between us. So it turns out: despite great success in the general desire for gender equality, modern society has not made relationships between men and women easier. We hoped that we would live with each other in harmony and mutual understanding, but these expectations turned out to be unrealistic. Ultimately, it only gets worse: we constantly offend our partners and get offended ourselves, we fail to find common ground and bring each other nothing but disappointment. The task that lies before us is to learn to accept our disagreements, which arise precisely because of the difference in our perception of the world, and to compromise whenever possible. It is necessary to understand that each person has the right to live their life to the fullest, and we must avoid trying to change others to satisfy our own needs. If we want to be happy, then we must remember once and for all: the psychology of a happy relationship between a man and a woman is based on the desire of partners to give their loved one the opportunity to be themselves, and not to become a source of suffering and disappointment in the lives of the people we love. We recommend reading:

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