How to ignore a man with whom it is unpleasant to communicate

Not every person with whomto communicate, causes a desire to maintain with him this communication. And it also happens that any contact with someone from our acquaintances brings us only pain, disappointment and resentment. Well, I like some "girlfriend" to shake our nerves, and that's it! And when nerves can not stand, ask her to remember about conscience - she takes offense, begins to be rude at every opportunity, and even gossip dissolves about what was and what was not! The hardest thing is to get rid of the annoying courtships of a man when he is unpleasant to you, but his persistence again and again tries to melt the ice of your dislike. How to ignore the guy in this case? How can one convince a man of the futility of all his attempts by his behavior? And how to learn to ignore the guy that you like, but he behaves with you is too disparaging? Different situations arise when a person becomes extremely unpleasant to us. We take offense, experience - and get a new portion of the negative at each meeting. Often we are trying to somehow influence this kind of our acquaintance, to find out the relationship with her. But there is nothing more effective in such a situation, except to ignore a person whose communication with us brings us so many unpleasant emotions. We have not opened any America now, have we? But think for yourself: how many of us know how to react to insults, gossip and insults correctly? After all, how do most of us? Each has its own way; but not each of them allows to avoid suffering, and some only further irritate the soul. Someone does not pay attention to the offender and lives on, as if nothing had happened, but there are very few. And someone is crying in the corner, experiencing every unjust word in his address. Someone withdraws into themselves, becomes very closed and noncontact, someone constantly feels irritated and transfers this irritation to others who are not guilty of anything. These are the most frequent reactions, and the list could be continued. But all this is wrong behavior. And as it is correct, you ask? This is what we would like to teach you!

How to behave correctly?

The most correct thing is to show the unpleasant person that you do not want to communicate with him any more. That is, just stop noticing all his antics, and even him. And here's how to do it:

Ignoring a person is a serious decision,so consider your step and try to understand if you really want to break off the relationship with the abuser forever. Do not resort to disregard for one day or for a week just to attract attention and cause feelings of guilt in the person who insulted you.
Before you stop the relationship, tryunderstand the motives of this person's behavior, see not only what he did, but also why he could do so. Did you do something that could provoke such behavior? Suddenly, you yourself have offended your acquaintance, and is it just trying to protect yourself?
Try to ask about the reason for this attitude toyou (if you find it possible, of course). Maybe everything is not as bad as you think, and you can settle the situation peacefully. In any case, you should first talk, try to discuss your problems, and not just throw a person out of your life without any warning.
Be direct. If you can not establish a relationship, firmly tell a friend that you no longer want to know her. It's not worth being angry, just tell me about your decision, keeping your politeness. Some people do not immediately realize that such a decision can be deliberate and final, and continue to try to communicate. Be consistent - stop receiving calls from them and do not read their messages. Do not be tempted to try to provoke you to an answer. Do not argue at meetings, if they can not be avoided (if this is your employee, then do not change because of the intriguing work!). If you stick very strongly, firmly and clearly say that you want to be left alone - now and forever!
You must understand what the consequences will be. This bore will be angry, because getting a rebuff for your machinations is not so pleasant. Prepare to withstand the siege. Inform common friends and acquaintances that you are going to ignore the offender. If they ask you questions, answer them. Do not try to convince them to stand on your side, let them make their own opinion on the situation. Just let them know the essence of the problem and your position.
Refrain from any contact withignored by you person. If it's a man, then ignoring it will be much easier. But if it's a woman, then it will be more difficult! She will first be angry with you, and then will intensively look for an opportunity to show how bad you are, since you decided to make an empty space out of it. If you do not pay attention to all her attempts, she will look for sympathy from other people. And the fact that she will talk about you now, maybe even much more painful and hurtful than that, because of what all the fuss and flared up. What can be done about this? If you have the courage - continue to ignore it. With people whose opinion is important to you, you have already discussed your position, and their sympathies will tend to you more quickly if you behave yourself worthy - unlike the scandalous person who pours you mud. And if she goes beyond all boundaries - threaten to bring her to justice for libel and insult. Sometimes it works!
When meeting, do not worry about embarrassment, without knowing,whether it is necessary to please the etiquette with an unpleasant person. Demonstratively turn away, of course, is not worth it, but you do not have to say hello. And if he addresses you, or you need to say something to him (for example, if it is necessary for work), then reduce communication to a minimum, as far as possible. And if you come across somewhere on the street or in a store, you can generally pretend that you just did not notice it. Change the pace of walking or go to the other side of the street is not worth it - it's stupid, agree. And it will look like you are afraid of him (or her). Just look as though through a person, as you look at people you do not know. You have not seen, and that's it! And if he wants to tell you something, pretending that nothing has happened - say that you are in a hurry and can not stay.
Do not forget to limit access to yourself and yourpersonal data and social networks. Configure privacy settings and block your pages so that only close friends and family members can see your information and your photos.

After you do all this, you can protect yourself from communicating with someone you do not want to see with your friends. Celebrate freedom and enjoy peace!

How to ignore a guy who treats you disparagingly

There are also situations where a person does notit provokes your dislike, and yet it's rather difficult to communicate with him. For example, this situation: you even quite like the guy, but his behavior is sometimes quite insulting to you. He seems to be saying that he feels a burning feeling for you, but nevertheless he gives you too little attention, and sometimes he keeps quite disdain. How correctly to ignore a man in such a situation, to be convinced of the sincerity of his feelings towards you?

Do not stay close to him when he startsbehave in this way. You do not deserve such treatment! True, do not stand aside from him demonstratively: this way you will only provoke a man to a conflict. It's just easy to tell him that you do not want to spend all your free time waiting for him to be able to choose several hours to communicate with you, or that you do not like how he talks or behaves with you, and so today you want to stay without him. (just do not lose sight of the fact that sometimes it behaves rudely or disparagingly to a man to make a desire to attract her attention).

In turn, do not pay any attention to it infor two or more days. Do not call him first, do not send sms messages, do not catch his eye. If he really loves you, he will be sure to get worried and try to find out where you've gone and whether you are all right.

When he wants to find out what happened,talk to him calmly, without tears and reproaches. Nothing is as capable of alienating a man as a woman's hysterics. Also, do not start to find out the relationship right away, as soon as it comes to you. If this happened in a fairly crowded place or when you are quite busy (for example, at work or at a break between pairs at the institute), then do not give in to temptation and do not start a conversation. The best time and place for such a conversation is when you are alone and do not rush anywhere.

Ask for help from your friends. Tell them that you want to stop communicating with your boyfriend for a while. They will help with advice and will try to protect you from situations where you can unintentionally meet a man whom you are trying to ignore. Only you have to trust precisely those friends you are sure of, because you want to get support from them, and not spread gossip about you, do you?

Be patient, do not rush a man, provokinghis scandals and disassembly. It is much more effective to let him really feel that you are very unhappy with his behavior. But first try to convey to him what you feel when he behaves with you in an inappropriate way. Imagine: guys never have an idea of what girls feel when they are neglected!

How to ignore a guy if you are in love with him

You fell in love with a man, but you are afraid that yourfeelings can hardly find a response to his heart? Well, throw it out of your head! Believe me, there are guys who are much better than the one you like now. And among them, for sure, is the one who now sneaks, looking at you. Therefore, you can begin to ignore this particular man in order to free your heart for true love. Moreover, the situation can develop in such a way that you need to cool your feelings towards a guy who either has to be your friend at the same time, or you are just visually familiar. If he is in the circle of your friends

Do not blame yourself for falling in love with your own friend or friend. This can happen to anyone. Just start to take the first steps to a little distance from it.
Do not respond to his treatment the same second as he called you or wrote a text message. For example, you can send a reply message only in two or three hours.
Never refer to it first, and if it is about something asks you, answer him in monosyllables.
If he asks you for something, tell him that you are busy. Do not allow yourself to communicate with him for a long time. This will only worsen the situation.
And best of all - make new friends, and preferably the opposite sex.

If you are just familiar

Try not to be there, where you can meet a guy whom you decided to ignore.
Do not smile at him. A smile can betray your feelings.
Do not ask about your friends and acquaintances about him.
Try not to think about the guy at all, since you decided to ignore him.

And if they ignore you? Everything in life happens. It may be that you yourself are causing something. Yes, there to say - each of us was in such a skin, when someone was sulking at us and pretending that not us in the world does not exist. Brr, I do not want to remember! And if it still happened again - how to choose an attitude towards a person ignoring you, so as to somehow influence his desire not to have business with you? It all depends on whether you want to correct the situation. If you do not value relationships with someone who has pouted at you, you can do the same and stop noticing it. And if you feel guilty and want to make peace, then it's worth adjusting your dispute so as not to aggravate the confrontation. Remember that it is far from always reasonable to continue to keep the brand and insist on your position! One of the best behaviors, if you want to avoid enmity, will be a direct and open dialogue. If a person is too offended and while maintaining a distance, start with a small - say when meeting "Hello!", Smile. But do not try to forcefully cross the established border. Show all your behavior that you are sorry for your break. You'll see, he's pulling back. On whatever side of the cracks that have arisen between you, remember - ignoring someone, very often you are also harming yourself. It is always better to try and find a common language! We advise you to read: