A wedding is one of the most important moments in life.This is a grand event that will forever remain in the memory, and every couple (and especially the bride) wants the whole celebration to be held at the highest level. Today, many couples turn to the services of wedding agencies, which organize the wedding, as they say, from A to Z. However, the services of professionals have an additional cost. So the newlyweds or their parents will have to spend money not only on outfits, a banquet and other components of the wedding celebration, but also on the services of organizers. And often this price is, to put it mildly, somewhat inflated. Therefore, many couples think about how to organize a wedding on their own and why, in the end, not take a chance? After all, our predecessors managed to do all this, organizing weddings on their own, when there were no agencies in sight! And why are we worse? However, before we begin to analyze the rules for preparing a wedding, let's look at the advantages and disadvantages of this option. So, the advantages:
- economy of the budget. And also full control by the bride and groom over the preparation;
- after that you will have experience in preparing weddings. Little it may be useful in the future.
Alas, these are all the pros. Now, the cons:
- you will need to spend a lot of your own time and energy;
- in view of the lack or in general lack of experience in the preparation of such events, a rather unpleasant situation can arise;
- force majeure circumstances are not excluded;
- will have to negotiate on their own;
- about the number of nerves spent and say nothing ...
If you are not afraid of difficulties and you are readystart organizing a wedding on your own, then keep in mind that it is almost impossible to prepare a celebration in a month. Therefore, try not to rush and give yourself at least three months for this pleasure, and better yet, six months. You need to start preparing by studying the wedding from the inside. Talk to other newlyweds, visit forums on this topic, find out who had what difficulties and how they solved them, and so on. Thanks to such live communication, you will be able to discover the smallest and at the same time important details of preparation. For example, no wedding agency knows that it is better to buy wedding rings in the afternoon, since then the fingers are already a little swollen. Thus, you will definitely not go wrong with the size. And now let's schedule the preparation of the wedding for six months. Why is that? If you want to get really good DJs, photographers, videography, a beautiful cafe, then keep in mind that they can have a very tight schedule, and no one will fit you in anywhere a month before the wedding. So, let's start counting.
Six months before the memorable date
Let everyone know about your intention, think it overa guest list, an idea for wedding decoration, prepare a holiday script. A lot of things and it's complicated? And who said that organizing a wedding on your own is easy? But how many memories and mostly pleasant ones. If you want to get married on your wedding day, then be sure to find out if there is a church holiday on which weddings are not held. In addition, you will still have enough time to change the script if you suddenly don't like it. And most importantly, the newlyweds will be able to convince their parents during this time that they want exactly the kind of wedding they want, and not the kind their parents had. And it is also advisable to sort out the guest list as early as possible. After all, if you do not want to gather all your seventh cousins for your wedding, your parents may be seriously offended. But in the time remaining until the wedding itself, all the grievances will pass, and the negative emotions will burn out.
For three months ...
It's time to submit applications to the registry office,buy rings and choose witnesses. Those who will be getting married also need to choose a church and discuss all the details of the ceremony with the priest. It's time to send out invitations and find out who can and who cannot attend the wedding. If you follow the rules of good manners, then having received an invitation to the wedding, the guests should notify you about this. And you, accordingly, will be able to adjust the guest list. Now the bride faces the most difficult and responsible task - choosing a wedding dress. If you do not have any special idea in mind yet, then start by looking through magazines and websites with wedding dresses. Do not delay visiting salons. If you do not sew the dress, but buy it, then be prepared for the fact that you will need to try it on several more times before the wedding to make sure that it sits beautifully on you. In addition, do not forget about accessories - a handbag, bolero, gloves, tiaras, veil and shoes. All of them should be in harmony with your dress. Another important point in wedding preparation is choosing a toastmaster. You should not take the first one you come across. Discuss the idea of your wedding with all the candidates and choose the one who will be “on the same wavelength” with you. Then discuss your scenario again and adjust it together. If you have a second wedding day planned, do not forget to plan it as well. Three months before the wedding, it is time to start preparing the newlyweds’ wedding dance. Objectively assess your skills, strength and complexity of the dance. It is best to start classes with a choreographer early and study according to an individual program. If you are planning to go on a honeymoon after the wedding, then start preparing all the documents now and agree on a vacation.
A month left ...
At this time, the bride has already decided onhair, makeup and manicure. You will need to schedule a rehearsal with the chosen stylist to check how everything you have chosen will suit the bride. In addition, you should visit a beauty salon several times to have facial cleansing procedures. At the same time, you can choose a suit and shoes for the groom. In the same month, you need to visit the chosen banquet hall: look around, think about how to decorate the hall for the wedding yourself (again, saving money), decide with the staff where and how the tables will be located, where the newlyweds will sit. Decorating the hall is not the most difficult task. If you approach the issue creatively and involve your girlfriends, everything will definitely turn out in the best possible way! There are a lot of decorating options: balloons, live and artificial bouquets of flowers, draperies made of paper or fabric. The main thing is to show your imagination. Do not forget about the decor of the wedding cortege. If you have the opportunity to use friends and relatives as wedding cabbies - great. And if not, then you will need to rent cars. This issue also needs to be resolved in advance. And be sure to think through the route of the wedding procession, so that there are no misunderstandings later.
For two weeks…
The bride needs to try on the dress again andchoose a bouquet, and the groom - a boutonniere. By the way, you can easily make them yourself or your closest friends (sisters, aunts). Don't forget to order a loaf of bread and a wedding cake. Double-check the guest list, call the toastmaster, DJ, photographer, and also work on the festive menu. It would be very good if you made a step-by-step plan of the wedding day for the groom and the bride separately, indicating the time and action. Then you will definitely not mix anything up or forget anything. And then the groom will not go straight to the registry office, but, looking at the plan, will see that he still has to pick up the bride (anything can happen in the pre-wedding bustle). Traditionally, grandiose bachelor and bachelorette parties are held before the wedding. Two weeks before the holiday, this is very appropriate. But on the eve of the celebration, it is better to arrange a day of rest for yourself. Go to your favorite cafe, spa, watch a movie, relax and get some sleep. Of course, you can't take into account all the little things, and in order for a wedding organized independently to be held at the highest level, you need to think through all the nuances, take into account all the little things, even the most insignificant at first glance. Listen to other people's advice, do not refuse help from friends and relatives. And best of all - appoint two or three trusted people who will also supervise you, so that you definitely do not forget anything.
P.S
Now let’s once again write everything down point by point – what and when, who and why.
- Prepare a plan for the preparation for the wedding, painting every week that remained until the celebration.
- Immediately after the bride said "yes", you can also set a date for the celebration. Do not forget to make a list of guests, find a place for a festival, a toastmaster, a photographer, a DJ, and so on.
- If there is a wedding, then decide in advance all the questions related to this ritual.
- For two or three months, apply to the registrar.
- Prepare invitations and send them out.
- Engage in the wedding cortege - order it and select the design.
- It's time for the bride to choose her dress, jewelry and other accessories.
- Buy wedding rings.
- Decide the question with the buddies for the bride and the best men for the groom.
- The bride is time for a cosmetologist, a make-up artist, a hairdresser.
- If you are going on a honeymoon, then visit the travel agency in advance.
- Do not forget about the preparation of wedding dance.
- At least 2 weeks before the wedding, order a wedding cake and loaf.
- The bride's maiden should already have a compiled redemption plan, prepare tasks for the groom, posters and other trifles.
- Make a wedding day plan for the groom and for the bride separately.
Here are all the main moments of the wedding.If they are taken into account, then your wedding will be held at the highest level even without the agency's intervention. The main thing is not to worry and pull yourself together. And everything will work out for you! Love and happiness to you! We recommend reading:
