“Humor is the unexpected, suddenly turning intoin understanding”. Have you ever had moments in your life when, while watching another comedy show on TV, you didn’t smile even once? And not because the jokes weren’t funny – the whole room and your family were just rolling with laughter! You just didn’t understand: what’s funny here? Surely at such a moment you felt awkward and asked yourself: how to develop a sense of humor?
With a joke on life
Of course, you can shrug your shoulders indifferently andsay: so what, people live without a sense of humor! However, understanding humor and making jokes yourself is an indispensable quality for any woman. Having a sense of humor, you can earn authority in any company, your team at work will adore you, and life will simply become easier. By starting a conversation with an original joke, you can easily meet an interesting guy - men really appreciate this quality in women. There is a saying that having a sense of humor helps to survive the absence of everything else. This statement has a certain meaning: the joy of communicating with a witty person allows you not to notice many of his other shortcomings. After all, the one who jokes and makes people laugh, bestows a sea of positivity on others. Cheerful laughter is a guarantee that people will want to get closer to you. Well, besides the attitude of others, what else is laughter useful for?
- Scientists have proved that laughter stimulates certain parts of the brain and helps the development of endorphins - pleasure hormones;
- Develops the immune system: after laughter in the human saliva contains an increased amount of substances that fight harmful microbes;
- Useful for the heart: when a person laughs, the lungs process much more air, enriching the heart with oxygen;
- It is proved that laughter is a wonderful painkiller. After a long fun, the person has a painful barrier.
Therefore, the ability to joke and live jokingly is a great way to become happier in many ways.
Humor is an innate quality?
Many people are convinced that a sense of humor isis an innate quality. Either a person has it or he doesn’t, and it’s impossible to develop it in yourself. In fact, this is absolutely not true. How many babies have you seen who can make a witty joke? They can’t talk or walk, let alone make a meaningful joke. In fact, absolutely everyone can develop a sense of humor, regardless of their age and character. Whether you are a young schoolgirl or a middle-aged lady, a quiet wallflower or a cheeky person, you can always learn to joke. The main thing is to put in a little effort and believe in yourself. Developing a sense of humor is not that difficult. The main thing is to constantly practice it. First of all, try to joke about yourself, find something positive in negative moments. If you are sick, then tell yourself: “Great, I won’t go to work for a whole week, I’ll rewatch all the TV series!” Optimism will help you develop a sense of humor, so evaluate all the advantages of the situation. Joke in the presence of friends and acquaintances, do not be afraid to seem stupid. Even if at first it will not be very funny, with time everything will be fine. Do not try to joke in front of someone who does not understand jokes in principle: most likely, your words will be taken for stupidity or a mistake and will be immediately called out. In order for the joke to be successful, the listeners must be prepared for it. If everyone is in a bad mood and they are not in the mood for humor, your wit will be perceived negatively. Read more books, expand your horizons. Did you know that, for example, all residents of the "Comedy Club" have a higher education? Well, now let's move directly to the methods that will allow you to develop a sense of humor.
Games and exercises for developing a sense of humor
- Exercise on the imagination
Take a piece of paper and choose any letteralphabet. Make a sentence in which each word will begin with this letter (pronouns, conjunctions and prepositions - including). Moreover, the text should be meaningful, and not just an empty set of words. Read what you got. The result of the opus will certainly make you smile! Perhaps the first time you try this exercise will take a lot of time. But it will help expand the scope of your imagination.
- The ambiguity of words
Play with the content of words.Each of them has its own meaning, but in different situations it can acquire a completely different coloring. For example: “When I’m with you, I don’t want to think about work or career.” “Petrov, stop messing around. The quarry won’t dig itself!” As you can see, when talking about “career,” the characters meant completely different things. One of them meant promotion, the other meant digging a huge hole. Another example: “We have a serious patient today.” “Why did you lift him?” Words containing ambiguity are encountered at every step. Try to notice them and practice making jokes.
- Playing on contrasts
Use contrasts to make a joke.For example, if you meet a dirty person, say: "Oh, you're as sterile as a drugstore." If you meet a tipsy person: "I see you lead a healthy lifestyle." A person cannot sing: "You're Joseph Kobzon!" Show irony, but do it in such a way as not to offend the person you're joking about. Smile more and put only positive energy into your words. Otherwise, instead of a funny joke, you'll end up with sarcasm, and it rarely brings pleasure to anyone.
- Use the aphorisms
One of the wonderful ways to develop your sensehumor - play with quotes, aphorisms, catchphrases. For example, everyone knows the expression "Moscow does not believe in tears." In a conversation with a friend about her fiancé's mother, you can appropriately insert: "The mother-in-law does not believe in tears." This will relieve tension and show your wit. Or the expression "How much is opium for the people." When going with a group to the Bolshoi Theater, you can ask: "How much is opera for the people?" This will certainly amuse your friends and strengthen your humor skills. The main thing is not to stop, you need to constantly look for examples for jokes. After all, as you know, improvisation is a good preparation.
- Consonant Words
You can come up with a good joke using words,close in sound. For example: "If your wife has broken all the dishes, it's better not to break them." The words "break" and "break" are consonant, but have completely different meanings. You can play on this and amuse the audience. There are a great many examples of consonant words, for example: meadow - onion, pass - betray, vice - threshold, etc. It is clear that it will be difficult to come up with a decent joke right away. But, having a few pairs of consonant words in stock, you can practice and compose something unexpected. At least your joke will be new and will pleasantly surprise those around you.
- The lack of direct logic
Sometimes a comic effect can be achieved byit is illogical to answer a certain question. For example, as in the joke: "Honey, your face is whiter than the pillow! What happened?" "It's just time to wash the pillowcase, honey." As we can see, the question concerned the woman's well-being; it would be more logical to answer something about her health. And such an unusual answer reveals an excellent sense of humor in a person. Or: "Is it true that you managed to make a millionaire out of your husband?" "Of course, he used to be a billionaire! Instead of talking about the development of her husband's personality, the woman said that she ruined him. The reverse logic method is the most difficult technique. But if you manage to master it, then no one will doubt your ability to joke anymore. Once you understand how to develop a sense of humor and start joking, do not overdo it. Do not cross the line when you can turn from a joker into a clown. If this happens, your efforts will be in vain: instead of gaining a reputation as an interesting person, you will achieve that you will be avoided and disliked. Wit, no matter how original they are, should be appropriate and said at the right time. In order to say a joke on time, train your reaction. If you make a joke late, you will hit the nail on the head. Another important detail - your voice should be pleasant and emotional. You can say a lot of funny things in a boring monotone voice, but hardly anyone will laugh! Believe in yourself, joke and laugh. And then, watching humorous shows with friends, you will be able to throw out jokes in response to comedians' wit.
