How often have you met people whoblush at the slightest provocation? You only have to take a step towards them, talk to them or just look at them, and they immediately turn crimson and become embarrassed, hiding their eyes in excitement. And if you yourself are one of these people, what do you feel at such moments? Embarrassment, shame, awkwardness? How can you avoid this unpleasant problem, what can you do, how can you not blush when talking to people?
Is skin redness a problem or a fiction?
Back in the 19th century, this problem did not exist -Red cheeks were considered the standard of beauty. Girls deliberately used a lot of blush to get a little closer to the ideal and blush effectively. Just remember the famous fairy tale film "Morozko". The evil stepmother rubbed her own daughter's cheeks with beets and said: "No, not a princess... A queen!" It is not without reason that the expression "red maiden" means the beauty and attractiveness of the female sex. Thinking about this, many will smile and consider the problem of sudden blushing of the face far-fetched. But not those who immediately begin to feel embarrassed and are covered with a thick, treacherous blush for any reason. After all, often these people blush not only their cheeks, but also their forehead, nose, chest, shoulders and even eyes. And they are not able to control this process. Imagine that you are walking towards a cute guy, and as soon as you meet his gaze, you turn red as a lobster. The guy will shrug and move on. Or he will even make a few jokes about it. Or a situation when someone's wallet was stolen at work, and when asked "who did it?", you immediately blush, although you are not guilty of anything. What will be the reaction of others? And what should you do, how should you work after this? Sudden blushing of the face deprives many people of self-confidence, lowers self-esteem. They are forced to refuse promotion, because burning cheeks and ears interfere with working with clients. How will colleagues treat a lawyer who is embarrassed and blushes at every question? And what should a manager do who blushes when signing a contract?
Causes of sudden redness of the face
The fact that people blush is a characteristic of theirnervous system. Some people constantly turn pale, some sweat, and you blush. There is no pathology in this. Did you know that the ability to blush was highly valued by Gaius Julius Caesar? When the founder of the Roman Empire was choosing future warriors, he would suddenly throw an iron rod behind their backs. Those who blushed were suitable for his army, and those who turned pale were expelled. After all, it was the warriors who could blush who were considered the most desperate, the most selfless fighters. Our ancestors were sure that it was precisely such people who were characterized by courage, quick reactions and a subtle mind. Because of this, the ancient wisdom “A coward turns pale, a brave man blushes” has survived to this day. Unfortunately, many ladies with crimson cheeks, forced to be embarrassed by their deep blush, are not at all reassured by this fact. They are ashamed of themselves and try to find a solution to the problem, dreaming of stopping blushing once and for all. Alas, no foundation will help hide such a bright blush. In order to understand the reasons for blushing, let's figure out why a person literally blushes when there are no visible reasons for this. First of all, note that blushing of the skin is an absolutely natural physiological reaction. And why a person blushes when no one expects such a reaction from him is not a very difficult question. Embarrassment and shame that people who are insecure about themselves experience play a big role here. The fear of being misunderstood, insulted, or simply a laughing stock in the eyes of others makes them not just shy, but live in tension and constantly expect trouble from society. Did you know that a person blushes only in the presence of other people? Try blushing alone, when there is no one in the room and no one is looking at you, and you will understand that nothing worked. One way to combat the telltale blush on your face is to imagine that the room or street is completely empty and you have no one to blush in front of. This method is good for public speeches and monologues. If you need to contact your interlocutor, you will fail. Therefore, the best way to avoid unwanted blushing is to increase your self-esteem. As soon as you begin to believe in yourself and your own strength, your embarrassment and fear of society will disappear. Believe me, your friends are real people with their own shortcomings, often quite serious ones. Perhaps, compared to their problems, your reason for embarrassment is a mere trifle. Learn to love yourself and appreciate what nature has given you. Even the fact that you blush makes you different from others.
Exaggerating the problem of sudden redness
Usually, a person who is exposed to suddenblushing, there are two problems. The first is that at the slightest reason he blushes, regardless of the circumstances. The second is his reaction to how he looks and the opinion of others about him. Moreover, it is the second problem that is much more dangerous than the first. People are burdened by the fact that from any look or word their face turns scarlet. They avoid communicating with friends and colleagues, literally begin to hide from them. And this certainly gives a response: who wants to communicate with those who are constantly embarrassed and run away. As a result, a person develops social phobia - fear of communication. Oddly enough, but social phobia is more often suffered by those who most of all crave communication with other people. It is public figures who are often concerned about the question: how to stop blushing in public, in front of important clients or simply when communicating with acquaintances? And if you consider yourself to be in this category, then be objective in front of the facts. No matter how ashamed you are of your reaction to the actions of others, you cannot be sure that someone is judging you for your red cheeks. It is quite possible that this problem is completely imaginary and few people around you notice that you have blushed again. Try to conduct a “sociological survey” among your friends: how often do they see redness on your face and what do they feel about it. If you expect the answer that they feel hostility and will mock your shortcoming, your friends’ answers will surprise you. Often, rosy cheeks on a girl’s face are considered a cute and touching addition to her appearance. What if others do not care about your redness, and you suffer and do not know what to do, tormented by non-existent problems? Some girls only think that they have blushed, and excitement and shyness already make them hide their eyes and feel very embarrassed. Carry a small mirror with you to make sure you are actually blushing and not just "glowing" on the inside?
A way to cope with the problem of redness of the skin
Of course, you can come to terms with the fact that youblush constantly. Just accept this feature of yours as an unchangeable fact. Someone is short, others are overweight or, on the contrary, thin. Well, you just blush for any reason. If you learn to live with it, then this problem will not cause too much inconvenience. In the end, you can joke off the comments of others and laugh at yourself. And if you do this first, then others will lose all desire to make barbs at you. But there are people who strive for perfection. For them, the thought that eternally red cheeks will interfere with their studies, career, personal life is unacceptable. Unwanted blushing of the face can be predicted. Of course, this is very difficult and requires practice, but if successful, the result will be noticeable to both you and others. Before blushing, you feel increasing embarrassment and heat inside. As soon as you realize that you have blushed, you feel awkward and glow even more. A vicious circle? No, this chain can be broken. And here's what you need to do to stop the skin from blushing: the best way is not to remain silent at the first signs of its appearance. Speak out loud, address your interlocutor. Whatever you say, your brain will be distracted from increasing the blood flow to your face. Saying a few phrases will not only stop the skin from blushing, but also prevent your interlocutor from misunderstanding you. Think of a couple of jokes in advance that will relieve your tension and negate the impression of crimson cheeks. For example, you can do this:
- Oh, something I blushed! I will not be weaned.
- No, you!
- Indeed? And inside I'm all burned!
Such a nice dialogue will help the interlocutor notpay attention to your blushing, even if it has appeared. And if there is no negative reaction, then there will be fewer reasons to worry. Perhaps next time you will be less nervous and you will not blush. If you are not very imaginative, then you can offer a few common phrases that can save the situation. The main thing is to break the vicious circle with your own words: blushing, embarrassment, even more blush. And it is better to do this in a humorous manner to defuse the situation.
- I blushed in order not to seem perfect;
- Yes, my cheeks burned. I just wanted to get your attention;
- Well, I constantly blush when I want to seem innocent;
- God, I read your thoughts and could not resist, even my cheeks were flushed;
- I always get excited and blush when I think about you;
- The blush on my face is a reaction to what you said is stupid;
- I blushed, because I always feel embarrassed when I'm praised;
- Oh, this syndrome excellent pupil - constantly blush when I worry.
As you can see, there are many ways to "start a conversation"you won’t have to blush and embarrass yourself forever. Use your imagination and come up with your own excuses that are close to your situation. If no methods help you cope with embarrassment and blushing, then there’s only one thing left: love yourself for who you are. After all, your scarlet cheeks indicate sincerity and a gentle nature. And such qualities are highly valued by the opposite sex. Ask a loved one what he thought about your complexion when you first met. Tell him how much this problem worries you, that you will do everything to find a way to learn not to blush. You may be surprised to learn that it was your red cheeks that attracted his attention and made you different from other girls. After all, you are a woman, and unlike men, it is much easier for you to cover up your feelings with cute embarrassment and a flaming blush on your face. So, feel free to raise your head and blush to your heart’s content, because this is a feature that makes you unique! We recommend reading: