How often did you meet people who arethe slightest thing start to blush? One has only to make a step towards them, to talk to them or just to look at how they are immediately filled with crimson paint and begin to hesitate, hiding their eyes in excitement. And if you yourself treat such people, then what do you feel at such moments? Embarrassment, shame, awkwardness? How to avoid this unpleasant problem, what to do, how not to blush when talking to people?
Is skin redness a problem or a fiction?
Back in the 19th century, there was no such problem -scarlet cheeks were considered the standard of beauty. Girls specially abundantly used blush to at least a little closer to the ideal and effectively blush. Remember at least the famous film-tale "Morozko". The wicked stepmother rubbed her daughter's beard with beets and said: "No, not a princess ...." The Queen! ". The expression "red maiden" means the beauty and attractiveness of women. Thinking about this, many will smile and find the problem of a sudden reddening of a person far-fetched. But not those who immediately begin to hesitate and become covered with a dense treacherous blush for any reason. After all, often these people blush not only cheeks, but also the forehead, nose, chest, shoulders and even eyes. And they are not in a position to control this process. Imagine that you are going to meet a nice guy, and as soon as you meet his gaze, you become red like a cancer. The guy, shrugging his shoulders, will pass on. And then let a couple of jokes on this matter. Or the situation when someone at work stole a purse, and when the question "who did this?", You immediately pour paint, although nothing is to blame. What will be the reaction of others? And what do you do, how to work after that? Sudden redness of the face deprives many people of self-confidence, lowers self-esteem. They are forced to refuse promotion, because burning cheeks and ears prevent working with clients. How will the colleagues react to a lawyer who, with each question, will hesitate and blush? And what about the manager blushing when signing the contract?
Causes of sudden redness of the face
The fact that people blush is a feature of theirnervous system. Someone constantly turns pale, someone sweats, and you - blush. There is no pathology in this. Do you know that Gaius Julius Caesar valued the ability to blush? When the founder of the Roman Empire chose the future warriors, he suddenly threw an iron stick behind them. Those who blushed were good for his army, and those who paled - were banished away. After all, it was the soldiers who could blush, were considered the most desperate, the most selfless fighters. Our ancestors were confident that such people are courageous, quick reaction and subtle mind. Because of what the ancient wisdom "Coward - pale, brave - red" has come down to our days. Unfortunately, many ladies with crimson cheeks, forced to feel embarrassed by their thick blush, do not quite reassure this fact. They are ashamed of themselves and are trying to find a solution to the problem, they dream of stopping blushing once and for all. Alas, no tonal tool will help hide such a bright blush. In order to understand the causes of redness, let's figure out why a person literally flushes when there are no visible reasons for this. First of all, we note that reddening of the skin is an absolutely natural physiological reaction. And why a man blushes when no one expects such a reaction from him, the question is not too complicated. Here the big role is played by embarrassment and shame, which people, unsure of themselves, experience. Fear of being misunderstood, offended, or just a laughing stock in other people's eyes makes them not just embarrassed, but live in tension and constantly expect trouble from society. Do you know that a person blushes only in the presence of other people? Try to blush alone, when there is no one in the room, and nobody looks at you, and you will realize that nothing happened. One of the options for dealing with treacherous paint on your face is to imagine that the room or street is completely empty and you have no one to blush. This method is good for public speaking and monologues. If you need to contact someone, you will fail. Therefore, the best way to avoid unwanted redness of the face is to increase self-esteem. As soon as you begin to believe in yourself and your own strength, your embarrassment and fear of society will disappear. Believe, and your friends are living people with their shortcomings, and often very serious. Perhaps, in comparison with their problems, your reason to be embarrassed is a mere trifle. Learn to love yourself and appreciate what is given to you by nature. Even the fact that you are blushing makes you unlike others.
Exaggerating the problem of sudden redness
Usually a person who is prone to suddenredness, there are two problems. The first is that at the slightest occasion he blushes, regardless of the circumstances. The second is his reaction to how he looks and on the opinions of others around him. And the second problem is much more dangerous than the first one. People are burdened by the fact that from any view or word their face becomes scarlet. They avoid contact with friends and colleagues, begin to literally hide from them. And it certainly provides a response: who wants to communicate with those who are constantly embarrassed and runs away. As a result, a person begins social phobia - a fear of communication. Strange as it may seem, social phobia is more likely to be experienced by those who are most eager to communicate with other people. It is public people who are often concerned with the question: how to stop blushing in front of the public, before important clients, or simply when communicating with acquaintances? And if you relate yourself to this category, then be objective before the facts. However you are ashamed of your reaction to the actions of others, you can not be sure that someone condemns you for red cheeks. It is possible that this problem is generally conceived and few people around notice that you are again blushing. Try to conduct a "sociological survey" among your friends: how often they see reddening on your face and what they feel at the same time. If you expect an answer that they are disliked and will mock your shortcoming, the answers of friends will surprise you. Often the rosy cheeks on the face of the girl are considered to be a sweet and touching addition to the exterior. What if the others do not care about your redness, but do you suffer and do not know what to do, tormented by non-existent problems? Some girls only think that they are blushing, and excitement and shyness already make them hide their eyes and strongly embarrassed. Carry a small mirror with you to see if you are really blushing, not just "blazing" just inside?
A way to cope with the problem of redness of the skin
Of course, you can accept that you are constantlyblush. Just accept this your feature as an immutable fact. Someone has a small height, others have excess weight or, conversely, leanness. Well, you just blush for any reason. If you learn to live with it, then such a problem will not cause too much inconvenience. In the end, you can laugh at the comments of others and laugh at yourself. And if you do this first, then others will lose all desire to release taunts in your address. But there are people who are striving for perfection. For them, it is unacceptable to think that forever scarlet cheeks will interfere with their studies, career, personal life. Unwanted redness of the face can be foreseen. Of course, this is very difficult and requires practice, but if successful, the result will be visible to you and others. Before you blush, you feel growing embarrassment and heat inside. As soon as you realize that you are blushing, you feel uncomfortable and you are burning even more. Vicious circle? No, this chain can be broken. And here's what you need to do to stop the reddening of the skin: the best way is not to be silent at the first signs of its appearance. Speak out loud, address to the interlocutor. Whatever you say, your brain will be distracted by the increased flow of blood to your face. Having said a couple of phrases, you can not only stop the redness of the skin, but also prevent the interlocutor from understanding you correctly. In advance, come up with a couple of jokes that will remove your tension and bring to nothing the impression of crimson cheeks. For example, you can act like this:
- Oh, something I blushed! I will not be weaned.
- No, you!
- Indeed? And inside I'm all burned!
Such a sweet dialogue will help the interlocutor notPay attention to your redness, even if it appeared. And if there is no negative reaction, then there will be less cause for concern. Perhaps, next time you will get less nervous and you can not blush. If you are not too good with imagination, then you can offer several usual phrases that can save the situation. The main thing is to break the vicious circle in your own words: redness, embarrassment, even more blush. And do it better in a jocular manner to defuse the situation.
- I blushed in order not to seem perfect;
- Yes, my cheeks burned. I just wanted to get your attention;
- Well, I constantly blush when I want to seem innocent;
- God, I read your thoughts and could not resist, even my cheeks were flushed;
- I always get excited and blush when I think about you;
- The blush on my face is a reaction to what you said is stupid;
- I blushed, because I always feel embarrassed when I'm praised;
- Oh, this syndrome excellent pupil - constantly blush when I worry.
As you can see, there are lots of ways to "talk" yourembarrassment and blush forever you do not have to. Tense your imagination and come up with your excuses, close to your situation. If no methods help you cope with embarrassment and reddening of the skin, then one thing remains: to love yourself the way you are. After all, your scarlet cheeks speak of sincerity and mild character. And such qualities are very much appreciated by the opposite sex. Ask a loved one that he thought about your complexion when you first met. Tell us how much you are concerned about this problem, that you will do everything to find a way, how to learn not to blush. Quite possibly, you will be surprised to learn that it was your red cheeks that drew his attention and made them unlike other girls. After all, you are a woman, and unlike men, it is much easier for you to cover up your feelings with a sweet embarrassment and a flushed face. So boldly raise your head and blush to health, because this is a feature that makes you unique! We advise you to read: