At the beginning of life, each newborn recognizesthe authority of only one person. To his mother. Still would! She will feed and change clothes, and she will lay her bed. Where is there the rest of the family to this fragile woman. Take, for example, the one hundred-kilogram muzhik with a newspaper in his hands. Apparently, he is the weakest in the family. As soon as he came, he immediately sat down in an armchair. Even the food was brought to him there. Apparently, the father is completely weakened after work. But the woman did not eat at all. So it's very strong, if you do not need food. In this case I will ask for more breast milk. This is how almost every new citizen of our country discusses this. Lives to himself serenely, drinking milk, demanding dry diapers and to know does not know what is the world crisis or the Oedipus complex. And if with the first term he still has to sooner or later get acquainted, then the Oedipus complex is often completely unexplored in modern society. Although, as the statisticians argue, almost 80% of the world's population is subject to this psychological deviation. Do not believe me? But in vain. In order to make sure of this, it's enough to rummage in your own subconscious, well, even in books on psychology and history. The fact is that the well-known Freud in his theory relies on the famous ancient Greek tragedy "Oedipus the Tsar".
"Oedipus the King"
Myth tells that once Laiu - the king of Thebes- the oracles guessed that he would die at the hands of his own son. And the fact that the offspring in addition to the throne will also infringe upon his wife (his mother). Heard so frightened the ruler that he ordered to throw the newborn Oedipus to be eaten by the beasts. However, fate decreed otherwise, and the boy was picked up by compassionate shepherds. They raised him, not knowing who was in front of them. Therefore, for the adult Oedipus, his title and the names of his parents remained unknown. In principle, he did not try to find out about his pedigree. However, the royal blood took its toll, and the young man decided to subdue Thebes. The idea of a daring warrior was a success, and he in the heat of battle kills his father (the first part of the prophecy has come true). Then everything flowed according to the scenario. Oedipus falls in love with his own mother and marries her. In fairness, it should be noted that the couple lived together for a long 20 years. And only then the hero will know with whom he has divided the matrimonial bed, and who, through his fault, is now in the grave. Oedipus blinds himself, and the inconsolable mother ends his life by suicide. This is such a sad story. You probably now ask, and here are the psychological complexes? But we will now talk about this in more detail.
The essence of the psychological complex
So what is the Oedipus complex, and how exactly does ithas hit a large part of the country's population? Everything is very simple. This psychological deviation occurs in both women and men. More precisely, he affects girls and boys between the ages of 2 and 5, and is expressed in the irresistible sexual attraction of the child to the parent of the opposite sex. That is, the girls introduce the cult of adoring the father, and the sons experience tender feelings towards the mother. At the same time, the same-sex parent is perceived "with hostility." The daughter begins to be jealous of the father to the mother, and the boys experience aggression towards their own father (hello to you, Lai, from the depths of generations). It is clear that for any murder, unlike the already mentioned Oedipus, children are not capable, but the complex itself can take root in a fragile subconscious and affect the rest of a person's life. Here you and the infantile girls, and slender rows of non-independent men, called mama's sons. And all because the Oedipus complex was not only not uprooted, but also encouraged by parents. Dad obediently wore his beloved daughter in his arms and laughed at her innocent statements that she would marry only for him. Moms (often lacking the necessary attention from male peers) spoiled favorite sons, giving them the last. As for sex differences, the Oedipus complex in girls and boys differs little among themselves. Is it just that girls more carefully conceal jealous feelings towards their mother. In the adult age, the echoes of the old attraction are expressed in the fact that the girl begins to look for her husband, similar to her father, and for men, the main ideal is her own mother. No wonder many wives in some ways resemble their mother-in-law, and girls who grew up without a father, subconsciously look for partners of men much older than their years.
What influences the appearance of the Oedipus complex
You probably believe that the Oedipus complexappears mainly among girls and boys from disadvantaged families? And here not. Such behavior, according to psychologists, does not depend on the financial well-being of the family, on the age of the parents, or on the social status of women and men married. There is no such regularity that would determine the degree of probability of the appearance of a children's complex in this or that cell of society. That's only in complete families of Oedipus complex proceeds in children more harmoniously. And the thing is that boys and girls have an example before their eyes. For sons, this is the father, whereas the girls try to look like their own mother. And it is right. It's another matter, when in families where boys grow, too authoritarian fathers. In this case, future men develop an inferiority complex. They mistakenly believe that they can not become like their father and simply cease to develop and achieve some results from life. And this is fundamentally wrong. In this case, men have to "persuade" for a long time that they are the best. Lessons can be dragged on for years, but never yield the results you need. And the role of the inspirer is not the mother, and the second half of the men affected by the dictates of the father. In this case, it is best to turn to a psychologist for professional help in time. But the Oedipus complex itself should not be treated. Experts believe that this behavior in children is entirely normal. Therefore, if you notice a child's excessive love for one of the parents, do not be scared. Just try to show your beloved that all are equal in the family, and do not give jealousy to one of the adults to go over all the permissible boundaries. We advise you to read: