justifiedLet's face it:We all use excuses and pretexts from time to time. These are the “little, white, fluffy” lies that help us out when, for example, we just don’t want to talk to a friend on the phone right now or fulfill a promise we made to our mom yesterday. Or in the morning you are terrified of having to get up and drag yourself to work, and this is after a very successful party with friends yesterday! And some people simply don’t hear the alarm clock in the morning. Of course, there are such unique people who wake up even before the alarm rings, and they, fresh and cheerful from the very morning, joyfully greet a new day. But these are very rare species that are on the verge of extinction. Most of us have difficulty waking up in the morning, are always late for something and therefore constantly make excuses. Interestingly, someone succeeds brilliantly, and such a young lady always easily gets out of the water dry. Why? Because she knows how to make excuses correctly. Imagine, a good excuse can really help relieve you of the burden of guilt in the eyes of others. Therefore, it is worth learning to find a good excuse for yourself, and most importantly - learn to present it correctly.

How to present an excuse correctly

  • Address to the person before whom youYou are justified, with respect. Try to even make a compliment, if it is appropriate and the situation allows. Say, for example: "Knowing your generosity, I'm counting on indulgence." Or something of the sort - depending on the situation and the degree of proximity of your relationship.
  • Never grumble, do not chew sounds ("uh,"Mmm"). It does not give you credibility at all. On the contrary, it will immediately become clear that you are lying, and you will look very foolish. Speak confidently to convince the person to whom your justification is meant.
  • Stay straight, do not slouch. The dropped head and shoulders serve as a non-verbal cue for your guilt. Do not forget about another non-verbal signal: running eyes or a look directed away from the interlocutor, they say that you are dishonest. So look straight into the eyes of the person you are talking to. Hold on confidently, but speak with a slightly apologetic tone.
  • Try to follow the expression of your face. Smile or keep a neutral, calm expression - again, depending on the situation.
  • If you are asked any questions related to your excuse, answer quickly, without long pauses. Otherwise it will be clear that you're thinking about another pretext.
  • Try to find reasonable and convincingexcuses. If you give free rein to your imagination, you can get bogged down in a web of lies. And the justifications will look implausible. And do not forget later what you were talking about, otherwise you'll expose yourself.

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How to come up with a good excuse?

It's not often that we have reala valid reason that can serve as an excuse. Most often, you have to resort to the “little, white, fluffy” one. Sometimes, brilliant excuses come to mind right away: “I already went into the subway, but some guy who bought a cup of coffee from a machine accidentally splashed it on my blouse. So I had to go back to change.” Or: “An elderly woman fell in a frozen puddle covered with snow. It looks like she broke her leg, and I called an ambulance and waited for it to arrive.” In extreme cases, like this: “There was no way to get on the bus, so I took a taxi, and the taxi driver took me to the wrong address.” But more often, it is not so easy to find a plausible excuse. Banalities come to mind. When we need to ask for time off from work, we start to play on pity: we have to “bury” either a grandmother, or a dog, or a goldfish. Or we start to weave something completely absurd. Like a schoolboy who couldn't think of anything better to justify his truancy than to bring an explanatory note "from dad", written in the truant's own hand. In short, anyone who has made excuses knows how difficult it is to come up with a good excuse. Let's try to find some excuses together!exculpate

Different excuses for different people and situations

Didn't do your homework? That's too bad!Try not to do this! True, there are truly respectful situations that may seem disrespectful to an adult. For example, not every teacher will agree that your cat giving birth to kittens could be an excuse for not even remembering about your textbooks and notebooks yesterday. And how can a girl justify herself when nothing else comes to mind except for thoughts about a cute classmate who just sent her a Valentine card yesterday? And anyway, you can’t tell a respected teacher that you preferred playing on a PlayStation to studying such “interesting” formulas! Okay, let's think of something. Just don’t try to say something like “the dog ate my notebook with my essay”! This hasn’t worked for a long time! It’s better to give reasons related to some crisis situations in the family - for example, a brother or sister is in the hospital, you had to take the necessary things. Or your grandmother got sick, you had to help her clean up, go to the store for groceries and cook. Your aunt was held up at work, and you had to pick up your nephew from the nursery and look after him. In any case, the fact remains that in emergency situations your help to family members will always be perceived as a significant excuse. How to ask for time off from work. It is better to create an “arsenal” of valid reasons in advance, so that at the right moment you can justify yourself without much effort. Agree, with a headache after a friend’s birthday, it is difficult to come up with something weighty and plausible. Just keep in mind that at this age it is no longer worth burying your grandmother for the twentieth time, and you should not acquire ten brothers and sisters who are constantly sick. We have already mentioned some options for excuses for “big girls”, you can come up with something else in the same vein. The main thing is that your excuses are still distinguished by variety. A car is an important tool in forming excuses. A car can stall halfway, it can break down. It can be taken away by a tow truck, it can be stolen (it is, of course, desirable that none of this actually happens!). The latter - car theft - can serve as an ideal reason if you need to ask for time off from work right in the morning, without leaving home. If you woke up and "didn't find" the car under the windows, this not only means that you, naturally, cannot come to work now, but you will also have to spend the whole day at the police station (well, of course!). And then it turns out that our valiant guardians of the law will find your car by 5 p.m., and tomorrow you will be able to safely drive it to work. If you violated traffic rules. By the way, about the car. If you are stopped for some violation, there is a simple but very effective remedy for any woman: burst into tears! Yes, just start crying like a child; a policeman's male heart will not stand it, and there is a very high probability that you will be let go without a fine, only sternly wagging a finger. Just don't even think about making sexual innuendos to the policeman if you don't want to cry or can't. Better yet, offer money.

Last warning

At the end of this slightly frivolous article I would like toI would like to say quite seriously: remember that you cannot make constant excuses your way of life. Rather than making endless excuses, it is better to learn to be punctual. Of course, anything can happen, and sometimes it is impossible to do without some excuses. Just keep in mind that some people know us very well and see right through us. Therefore, sometimes it is better to tell them the truth. We recommend reading:

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