You started to think about the issue, moving in togetheror not with your boyfriend. But are you afraid that living together will destroy the romanticism of your relationship? This is not entirely true. Living side by side can, of course, turn into hell, but it can also take your relationship to a new, higher level. Such a decision is a demonstration of the maturity of your thoughts and feelings, readiness for the next stage in love, the desire for constancy. In the end, living together with a young man for even two months will help determine whether you need to think about marriage, or whether it is better to break up before it is too late. The main thing in this matter is not to force things, but to move in together only when you feel that you are ready for it. Only under this condition will living together bring pleasure, and not bring disappointment and the pain of the first mistakes. After all, it often happens that a young couple deeply in love rushes to move into a shared home as soon as possible, and after one or two weeks there is not a trace left of their relationship. And the girl, wide-eyed with horror, tells her friends how much her chosen one has upset her. Therefore, you should move in with your loved one under one roof only after your relationship has acquired a certain constancy and become stable. And in order to make sure that you are ready to live together, you can take a small test for sociability and the ability to compromise.

A simple check of your readiness

First you need to make a list,answer the questions honestly, and if at least five points match, start looking for a place to live together; but don't rush too much. It may also happen that you and your chosen one have perfect compatibility. In this case, all ten points will match - then cast aside all doubts and move in together without thinking twice! So, here are the main points of the relationship, indicating that you are both ready to live together and are not in vain thinking about a possible marriage.

A young man saw you without makeup, sick,unwashed or in the morning after a corporate party, but did not cool down, did not run away and, waking up, kisses you and hugs you? This is very good, because this behavior speaks of true love, which is alive even when you do not have a hair and makeup. After all, do not forget that people do not always have the opportunity to look at all one hundred percent, they are prone to catch a cold or suffer from indigestion. And in such cases, the care of a loved one is very important - his attention and love are treated better than any medications.

He wants to spend all his free time with you. Yes, and you really want it. Excellent, because this is evidence that your relationship develops in harmony and not only in sexual, but also in spiritual terms. You can make a cautious conclusion: living together will only strengthen your feelings, and the romance of them will not disappear anywhere.

You have already discussed the life together and distributedtheir duties around the house. If this conversation has not happened yet, it needs to be arranged to check whether your views on the roles of husband and wife coincide. It is better to give the conversation a playful tone. If there are serious differences, you should try to find a compromise even before the start of cohabitation.

You like to go out together to visit, to restaurants,for some events, but you are never bored and alone with each other. Unfortunately, many young couples can not boast of this. Often, left alone, they do not know what to talk about at all. In this case, starting a joint life is meaningless - it seems that in this case only sex binds. A strong marriage on this not build.

You know all the shortcomings (well, or more of thempart) of your beloved man and look at them favorably. After all, a person with whom one has to live together must be perceived as he is, and not try to completely remake or place high hopes on the fact that he will change in the future. Otherwise, joint life will turn into a continuous series of military operations.

You dream of a family relationship with youra young man and want to cook him delicious dinners, wash dishes, wash and iron shirts. And this does not frighten you at all. If you try not to think about it, hoping that everything will be arranged somehow by itself, then you are not ready for a life together.

You discussed with him all aspects of the financial issueand how much each of you will give to the family budget, and came to an agreement. You can safely come together, because everyday problems you almost do not fear. In any case, all disagreements on these points can be resolved in the process of living together.

Your beloved man has already made an offer andinvites you to take a walk in the registry office, but you do not plan to hurry and act differently: in order to test your feelings, you propose to live without a record in your passport. Well, this is a reasonable and well-considered decision. However, do not postpone the marriage for a long time, because your man may like this appearance of freedom, and next time he will not rush to offer to go to the registry office.

You have a living space where you can livejust the two of you, or both of you earn enough to afford to rent an apartment. If you don’t have separate housing and you have to live with someone’s parents or relatives, you should think carefully about whether you are ready to tolerate the presence of your mom, dad, grandma, sister, brother, and so on. If not, then it’s better not to move in together for now. At first, even the two of you will find reasons for misunderstandings and disagreements, so there is absolutely no point in living next to “additional sources of irritation.”

The most basic sign of readiness for collaborationlife is your happy "Yes!!!" in response to his proposal to live under the same roof. It means that you want it with all your heart and therefore are completely unable to control your feelings. Well, move in with sincere hope and faith that happy days await you. It is quite possible that these feelings will really help you in such a difficult matter, and soon you will enter into a legal marriage.

Useful tips for those who start a joint life

All stages of life under one roof youngA couple in love should be based on a feeling of sincere respect for each other. It is important to remember that each of you has your own interests, certain desires, personal freedom and character traits. Do not expect that with the beginning of your life together the young man will quickly change and begin to live only by your interests. Before expecting such behavior from him and getting offended if this does not happen, ask yourself about your own readiness to forget about meeting with friends, sitting in a cafe after work and weekend shopping. Difficult? So why do you think that a guy is obliged to unconditionally sacrifice his interests, devoting all his time and attention only to you? Therefore, if you start making scenes every time he tries to meet with friends, nothing good will come of your life together. The young man will either have to learn to lie to you, or silently act in his own way, causing your indignation and deliberately going into conflict. At some point in your life together with your loved one, you may also experience such a feeling as a desire to be alone with yourself. When you lived alone, you didn't have such feelings. Of course, you used to be able to calmly drink coffee, enjoying the silence or your favorite movie, leisurely put on your makeup in front of the mirror, wash it off if you didn't like it, and repeat the procedure again, lie around with a book, and so on. That is, you had plenty of time for activities that involve a certain amount of solitude. Therefore, do not deprive each other of the opportunity to enjoy the peace and quiet and do personal things. It is also important to remember that living together is not a reason to forget about your own appearance. Do not wear old, stretched-out clothes as home clothes, continue to take care of your appearance, otherwise you risk unpleasantly surprising your chosen one. A huge number of marriages begin to collapse precisely because young women who become wives suddenly inexplicably turn from slender beauties into flabby ladies of an indefinite age. I wonder how many men will be pleased with such a prospect? Therefore, try to always look neat and presentable in the eyes of your loved one. And finally, it should be noted: if you have decided to move in with your boyfriend, following the example of your friends, or your relationship with him has started to deteriorate and you are trying to fix something in this way, then this is a deliberately bad idea. Such a decision is unlikely to lead to anything good. You should not rush into living together and if you are simply tired of sharing living space with relatives or the boyfriend, who you do not really like, has a nice apartment. Nothing good will come of this either. We recommend reading:

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