Romance, secret meetings, passionate sex. And then the agonizing expectation, jealousy, tears in the pillow. And almost no hope that the beloved man will move to you forever. So, the woman fell in love with a married man. What to do in this situation? Leave everything as is, rejoicing in fleeting encounters? Trying to divorce him with his wife and gain personal happiness? Break up the agonizing relationship and seek a new love? Being a mistress of a married man is not the best and not the easiest fate for a woman. And many have pledged themselves that they will never repeat such a mistake. But not at all it turns out. There is a type of women who again and again fall in love with married men. What is that, karma? Crown of celibacy? How to just explain your own actions with such things. And it is convenient, is not it? But in fact, women themselves plunge themselves into these painful experiences. Why painful? Yes, because the beloved, although close, but the woman does not belong. In order to understand this situation and understand what to do next, you need to know all the subtleties of this delicate issue - a romance with a married man.
Young girls in danger
Most often in the network of married men fall youngimmature girls. Perhaps in their chosen one they see a father, whom they so lacked in life. Or maybe they were turned by an adult man, gifted with gifts and compliments. Men attract the youth and inexperience of young girls. With them, they feel younger, full of strength and young recklessness. But at the same time feel more confident - such a brutal guy. They set themselves the goal of molding from a young girlfriend the image that will satisfy all their requirements. The first few months everything can be just perfect. But only at first glance. Judge for yourself - a woman falls in love, with all the ensuing consequences. But instead of full and undivided attention, we get rare calls, hasty dates. It is deprived even of the simplest, but such pleasant trifles - to write a favorite smsku or simply call when she wants. And not convulsively to guess, whether there will be a wife nearby. Holidays alone, in the evenings alone. Sooner or later a woman loses her emotional balance and falls into despair, not knowing what to do next. Often such a "psychological breakdown" is very, very dangerous for women. They have become accustomed to the idea that their lot is second place, that the joys of fleeting meetings are sufficient for their happiness. Well, if a young girl, taught by bitter experience, no longer falls for such a bait. Otherwise, it can spend its entire life on those who see it as a spare airfield.
Mistress as entertainment for a woman
Some psychologists believe that women startan affair with a married man in case they are afraid of the responsibility of family relations. They like that adrenaline that they give secret meetings, excites "illegality" itself. "I need it, like the air," they say. In order to understand whether this is really so, answer honestly the question: what will you do if he decides to stay with you, divorce his wife and marry you? Will not the beauty of the novelty, the joy of the relationship be lost? Perhaps your love for a married man is just a game, a remedy for boredom. In this case, it is worth seriously to think: are you ready to change your youth for an unnecessary relationship, or is it time to build your family? Lack of responsibility is addictive. And in the event of a break with one "zhenatikom", you can fall into the same network again and again fall in love with a married man.
Fear of loneliness
Many women over the age of 30 do notso just find a suitable man. By that time, most worthy candidates have already created their own families, while others often do not like it. The chance to get warm to the soul of another's husband is great enough. Lonely mature women find solace in a relationship that at least somehow fills the spiritual emptiness. They understand with their mind how much pain they deliver to their chosen family, but the feeling of self-preservation prevails. Although a little, at least a couple of years - but feel necessary and desired. Imagine that you really want to eat. But, for some reason, consider normal food for yourself impossible. Therefore, you drink water, trying to drown out hunger. For some time, hunger recedes, but after a while you again want to eat. So with that man that is bound by obligations with another family. How often would you not take it with you, the feeling of mental hunger does not disappear, it flares up with renewed vigor, it is necessary to go beyond the threshold. After all, water will never replace normal food. In order to prolong the relationship and keep this man next to you, you find many ways to tie him to yourself. This and excellent sex, and attention to his problems, affection and tenderness. Perhaps, if he were your husband, you would not give him half, but - in war, as in war. Your spiritual hunger is so strong that the need for satiation wins all moral principles and pity for his family. What awaits these unfortunate women? The eternal mistress is a sad sight. All my life alone, without children. Lonely holidays, sad days off - these are the days married men prefer to spend with their families. Remember the movie "Winter Cherry"? His heroine for years suffered from loneliness and pain. So is it worth repeating someone else's mistakes? Ask yourself a question - what awaits me in the future?
Why do men need this?
Men who are looking for meetings on the side, rarelythey feel remorse. They justify their behavior by simply being tired of everyday problems, they are bored with home sex, they deserve a break from the usual way of life. Moreover, the main comfort is that they are not going to leave their wives and children. Sexual relationships with one single woman are a rarity among men. The conquest of new women is a kind of self-affirmation, proof of their leadership and obvious masculinity. Coming to you, they again feel sexy macho, romantic heroes. And your desire to keep it and avoid the quarrels make the relationship with you very comfortable. Subconsciously, men perfectly understand that it is worth creating a real family with you, the same problems will appear with your wife. At home he has a cozy apartment, a well-established way of life. It's not known where to move to and start from the beginning - such a prospect is not enough for anyone. So what is the use of destroying old relationships for you? Men will always find one thousand and one reasons why they can not leave their family and in the end never marry you. Often men explain to the mistress the reluctance to leave the family with the fact that they have children. At first, they are concerned that the child is still small, and they can not leave him without a father. Then the child goes to school and he needs the care and control of both parents. Later, the adolescent period, capable of breaking the unstable psyche of the child, will begin. Then his son or daughter learns to build their own relationships and a bad example to them to anything. Here, maybe, when your grandchildren grow up ... But by that time you will not have not only your own grandchildren, but also a normal family. Karaul someone else's happiness for years, you can remain alone and unhappy woman for life. While your girlfriends are nursing their own babies, you will run around the children's shops, buying toys for his child. Is it worth any, even the strongest love of such victims? By the way, if a man and leave a family with a child, he will have to pay alimony. You will be surprised to learn how many men are not divorced just for this reason.
Sometimes a woman genuinely believes the words of a lover,that he does not sleep with his wife, but only with her. This spurs her desire to continue to deal with him. If the spouse is not sick with a serious illness that does not allow her to have sex life (which is unlikely), then your man is lying. Any woman should be sure that she is the only one for her partner. The man perfectly knows the rules of this game: at home he swears his wife in fidelity, but tells you that he sleeps only with you. Surely he combines sex with two women and gets a great deal of pleasure from it. If you fell in love with a married man, the fate of picking crumbs from someone else's table is inevitable. How would you not assure yourself that he only loves you, perhaps his body has not cooled from the caresses of another woman. And nothing you can not change.
The image of a caring husband
If your lover has already had time to meet youto build a successful career, then this is another reason for not abandoning the family. It is known that in the eyes of the public, a man who left his wife and child for the sake of his mistress does not inspire confidence. So people are arranged. It's not about people from show business, there's just such a relationship - the norm. But if a man is a politician or a successful businessman, he will do his best to keep the position of a loving and caring wife. And for this no rash steps can not be done. Your existence he will try to hide in any way, and even about creating a new family home, there can be no question. A woman who fell in love with a married careerist should be ready for loneliness. No matter how touchingly a lover treats her, he will never undermine his career, earned by hard work.
And what should I do?
What if you fell in love with a married man? First of all, think about yourself. If you are ready to be a life buoy, a temporary haven, a spare airfield, then you do not value yourself. Do not you want a normal family, so that your husband would come to you from work every day, take care of you during pregnancy, bring up children with you? Every woman, from the very young age, dreams of a white wedding dress, a beautiful wedding, of a long and happy married life. If you do not dare to break the evil relationship, then your dream may not be fulfilled. After all, it is hardly possible to achieve something if nothing is done. Even if you manage to insist on your own and a man throws a family for you, you will make three people unhappy at once. A wife who will suffer very much. A man tormented by remorse. You - all lover's experiences will be written on the face. Especially, in eighty cases out of a hundred, husbands in a few years still return to their former wives - too many of them connect them. Are you ready for such experiences? Is it not easier to let a man go and start living his own, full life? Of course, it is difficult to cross over your feelings, but after the illness the healing will necessarily come. There is such an ancient legend about King Solomon. There lived in the world the wise King Solomon and he wore on his hand a ring with an engraving "everything passes." Whatever trouble may happen, he looked at the wise inscription, and anxiety left him, making it stronger and harder. Once his son was killed and King Solomon threw a ring in fury on the ground. Then he noticed another inscription on the inner side of the ring: "This is also passing." Be strong and wise. The fact that a woman fell in love with a "busy" man does not make her worse. But the fact that she did not find the strength to not destroy someone else's and her own happiness will give a lot of bitter tears and emotions in the future. Release him, look around: maybe your real happiness is somewhere near! We advise you to read: