He left... It's bitter, painful, offensive.And you just don’t know how to live on. Why did he leave? Why?! Thoughts are rushing about, the soul is groaning. What is the reason for his leaving? That he didn’t like something, or the relationship has simply run its course? And how can I get him back? How can I break up with a man I really need? Almost every one of us has experienced this state at one time or another. And not everyone, alas, was able to behave with dignity after breaking up with a loved one. This is understandable. Losing a loved one is a huge stress. A woman gets nervous, gets confused and starts doing things that she may later regret. How can I break up with a man correctly to avoid such mistakes? First of all, let’s figure out why men leave us. And let’s try to look at the situation from several angles.

Why do men abandon us?

In fact, it is difficult to get an honest and clear answer from a man.The answer to the question of why he left is extremely rare. Representatives of the strong half of humanity either evade it or remain silent altogether. Therefore, we can only assume that he left because:

• Found another;
• I never loved, I just had fun;
• So his mother wanted;
• I'm not worthy of it.

This is what usually comes to our minds.And one of the above points may well be true. And they find others, and they just spend time, and mom is a great authority. Well, and whether she is worthy or unworthy is a moot point. Here, everything may be quite the opposite. Often, men leave exactly those women whom they like more and more every day. They leave because they are afraid of the mental pain of a possible separation from their beloved. Therefore, you should not torment yourself with accusations of worthlessness. Even if the young man, leaving, showed aggression. Sometimes it is explained simply by the fact that it is easier for him to break off relations. It happens that a guy leaves a girl as soon as he begins to understand that she is becoming very attached to him. This usually happens when he did not plan to date her for too long in advance. At one time, the young people were interested and had fun together. But the man did not want anything serious and did not offer anything. And when the relationship began to cross the pre-determined line, he simply broke it off, not particularly suffering from pangs of conscience. And, most importantly, there is no reason to make claims against the young man. After all, he did not hide his intentions from the beginning. Well, and finally, men often leave us because of ordinary cowardice. From the point of view of the stronger sex, this is called "nobility", "the desire to protect a woman from trouble", "intelligence" and so on. In a word, anything but cowardice. In fact, all these male definitions hide the fear of responsibility for someone else besides oneself. In general, these are the main reasons why we are abandoned. Let's try to give a sober assessment of each specific case.

How does it relate to what is thrown?

Yes, we say, the explanation of what a mandumped a woman, there are different ones. But that doesn't make it any easier! Of course, that's true. Pain is not a trained dog, you can't tell it "Ugh!" Yes, and probably not. You just need to try to at least slightly reduce the suffering, and then survive it with maximum dignity. And for this it is necessary, first of all, to understand the situation in order to see it a little differently than immediately after breaking up with a guy. This will help to refrain from rash actions provoked by a surge of negative emotions. This is the purpose for which we need to consider each specific case. Let's start in order.

If the man abandoned, because he found another. Oh, how often this happens in our world! Feelings, alas, are unpredictable and inconstant. Today, love can break out with a bright flame. And tomorrow burn to ashes. If the guy fell out of love, there's nothing you can do about it. He, perhaps, himself is not happy about this. But what happened, it turned out. However, maybe another girl is just his temporary hobby and it will pass very soon. Anyway, but in this case we can only wait. It is likely that the beloved will understand that without us it is very bad. And will return. And if not ... Well, so be it;

If a man threw, because he did not like at all,but just having fun. Well, there's nothing to wait for. He just looked at us like an amusing little thing, nothing more. And then the "thing" bored him. For such a disregard for yourself and the guy and love is not worth it! For whatever reason, then, did he take upon himself the right to use us as another toy? And anyway, who is he to suffer afterwards? This frivolous type is not worth a drop of our attention! There are a lot of more decent men in the world;

If a man left because she wanted him so muchMom - that means he's a mama's boy. You can imagine what a sweet life his mom would have arranged if we had a more serious relationship. And you have no protection from her attacks, no support. Left? Great. We are now free and can easily find an independent and reliable person;

The man gave up because we are unworthy of him. May be so. Maybe, we do not have the level of education, not education, not the circle of communication. But if you like, because of this do not quit! So he did not. It hurts, of course, but there's no time to regain one's suffering. We will develop ourselves and become the very perfection. Then let the elbows bite. However, it is still unknown whether we will be worried;

The man gave up because he was afraid of the opportunityfurther pain from parting. Yes, he's selfish! His own suffering, then, frightened. A favorite woman caused. What can I say to this? Perhaps, if the relationship continued, so everything would be. From his own suffering he would fence himself off. And the love of my beloved would not pay attention. How can such a young man become a support in life? Yes, no way. So let him run away from the pain of the soul;

The man abandoned, because he was afraid of condemnation withside and responsibility for the woman. He's a coward. Coward and traitor. It is suicide to associate fate with such types. They can betray at any second and disappear when you are very hard and need help. Gone? And the tablecloth is expensive! It is unfortunate that we paid attention and time to him in general!

Well, that's roughly how it would be desirable to treat itthat we were abandoned. Of course, such an attitude will not solve the question of how to break up with a man you love. Love, as we know, is evil. And it is not particularly interested in the shortcomings or merits of the object of love. It lives for itself, and that's it. And it makes us suffer when the "object of love" leaves us. So what else can we do to soften the blow and be able to withstand it?

How to survive the care of a beloved man?

First of all, let's take into account that the departure of a loved one does notbecame very painful, initially it is impossible to dissolve in a man. Many of us, falling in love with someone, begin to live with his problems and interests, completely forgetting about our own affairs and desires. Of course, such an attachment will cause deep suffering when parting. After all, it is as if a part of ourselves was torn away from us. Therefore, you should always try to be at some distance from your loved one and not allow yourself to grow into him. In the event that we suddenly feel that a man is about to leave, it is advisable to gather strength and leave him yourself. Firstly, this will allow you to protect your self-esteem from defeat and keep it safe and sound. Secondly, your loved one may refuse his decision to break up with us - men can't stand losses. And he will start looking for ways to improve the relationship. And in general, why should we regret the breakup? It is better for him to regret it. In order for the suffering to end as quickly as possible, it is necessary to debunk your idol. After all, we often idealize the one we love and try not to notice his flaws. But they are always there. So let's finally take them into account and try to think about the man's shortcomings as much as possible. In general, it is better to say to yourself: "It didn't work out - that means it's not for me." Accept it and move on. We recommend reading:

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