He threw it ... It's bitter, painful, insulting. And just do not know how to live on. Why did he leave? Why?! Thoughts rush, the soul groans. What is the reason for his departure? In that he did not like something, or just the relationship exhausted? And how to return it? How to part with a man who is very needed? Almost every one of us experienced such a state once. And not everyone, alas, could behave after parting with her beloved worthy. It is understandable. Loss of a lover is a tremendous stress. The woman is nervous, lost and begins to do what she can later regret. How to properly part with a man to avoid such errors? First of all, let's see why men abandon us. And let's try to consider the situation from several sides.

Why do men abandon us?

Generally get honest and clear from a manthe answer to the question of why he left is extremely rare. Representatives of the strong half of humanity either evade from it, or generally remain silent. Therefore, we can only assume that he threw because of the fact that:

• Found another;
• I never loved, I just had fun;
• So his mother wanted;
• I'm not worthy of it.

This is what usually comes to mind. And any of the above items may well be true. And they find others, and just spend time, and my mother is a great authority. Well, but worthy or unworthy is a controversial issue. Here everything can be quite the opposite. Often, men throw exactly those women who they like every day more and more. They leave, because they are afraid of mental pain from the possible parting with the beloved. Therefore, you should not torture yourself with accusations of worthlessness. Even if a young man, leaving, and showed aggression. Sometimes it is explained simply by the fact that it makes it easier for him to break off relations. It happens that a guy throws a girl, as soon as he begins to realize that she is very attached to him. It happens usually when he did not plan to meet her in advance for too long. At one time, young people were interesting and fun together. But nothing serious man did not want and did not offer. And when the relationship began to move ahead of the planned line, he simply tore them apart, not particularly suffering from the torture of conscience. And, most importantly, the claim to the young man is not something to show for anything. He did not hide his intentions from the very beginning. Well, finally, men often throw us out because of the usual cowardice. From the point of view of the stronger sex, this is called "nobility", "the desire to save the woman from trouble", "intelligence" and other things. In a word, anything, but not cowardice. In fact, under all these male definitions, the fear of responsibility for someone else, except for himself, is hidden. In general, these are the main reasons why we are thrown. Let's try to give a sober assessment to each case.

How does it relate to what is thrown?

Yes, we say, the explanation that a manthrew a woman, there are different. But this does not make it any easier! It, certainly, so. Pain is not a trained dog, it can not be said "Fu!". Yes, probably, and it is not necessary. Just need to try to at least a little to reduce the suffering, and then survive them with maximum dignity. And for this it is necessary, first of all, to realize the situation, to see it a little differently than immediately after parting with the guy. This will help to keep from reckless actions provoked by a surge of negative emotions. For this purpose, we need to consider each specific case. Let's start in order.

If the man abandoned, because he found another. Oh, how often this happens in our world! Feelings, alas, are unpredictable and inconstant. Today, love can break out with a bright flame. And tomorrow burn to ashes. If the guy fell out of love, there's nothing you can do about it. He, perhaps, himself is not happy about this. But what happened, it turned out. However, maybe another girl is just his temporary hobby and it will pass very soon. Anyway, but in this case we can only wait. It is likely that the beloved will understand that without us it is very bad. And will return. And if not ... Well, so be it;

If a man threw, because he did not like at all,but just having fun. Well, there's nothing to wait for. He just looked at us like an amusing little thing, nothing more. And then the "thing" bored him. For such a disregard for yourself and the guy and love is not worth it! For whatever reason, then, did he take upon himself the right to use us as another toy? And anyway, who is he to suffer afterwards? This frivolous type is not worth a drop of our attention! There are a lot of more decent men in the world;

If a man threw, because so wanted himMom - then he's a mama's son. You can imagine what a sweet life would be arranged by his mother, to develop a more serious relationship. And you do not have protection from her attacks or support. Gone? Great. We are now free and we can find an independent and reliable person;

The man gave up because we are unworthy of him. May be so. Maybe, we do not have the level of education, not education, not the circle of communication. But if you like, because of this do not quit! So he did not. It hurts, of course, but there's no time to regain one's suffering. We will develop ourselves and become the very perfection. Then let the elbows bite. However, it is still unknown whether we will be worried;

The man gave up because he was afraid of the opportunityfurther pain from parting. Yes, he's selfish! His own suffering, then, frightened. A favorite woman caused. What can I say to this? Perhaps, if the relationship continued, so everything would be. From his own suffering he would fence himself off. And the love of my beloved would not pay attention. How can such a young man become a support in life? Yes, no way. So let him run away from the pain of the soul;

The man abandoned, because he was afraid of condemnation withside and responsibility for the woman. He's a coward. Coward and traitor. It is suicide to associate fate with such types. They can betray at any second and disappear when you are very hard and need help. Gone? And the tablecloth is expensive! It is unfortunate that we paid attention and time to him in general!

Well, here's something so desirable to take it,that they left us. Certainly, such an attitude will not solve the question of how to part with a man whom you love. Love, she is known to be evil. And not particularly interested in the shortcomings or virtues of the object of love. Lives to itself, and all. And makes you suffer when the "object of love" throws us. So what else can you do to soften the blow and be able to withstand it?

How to survive the care of a beloved man?

First of all, we take into account that the care of a loved one does not becomevery painful, initially it is impossible to dissolve in a man. Many of us, falling in love with someone, begin to live with his problems and interests, completely forgetting about their own deeds and desires. Of course, such attachment at parting will cause deep suffering. After all, as if we tore off a part of ourselves. Therefore, you should always try to be some distance away from a loved one and not allow yourself to grow into it. In the event that we suddenly felt that the man was about to leave, it is advisable to gather strength and throw it himself. Firstly, it will save one's self-esteem from defeat and keep it intact. Secondly, a loved one can give up his decision to part with us - men do not endure losing. And he will start looking for ways to establish relationships. And anyway, why should we regret the break in relations? Let him better regret it. In order for suffering to end as quickly as possible, it is necessary to debunk your idol. After all, we often idealize the one we love and try not to notice its flaws. And they always are. So take them, finally, into account and try to think about the shortcomings of a man as much as possible. In general, it's better to say to yourself: "It did not work out - it means it's not mine." Reconcile with this and live on. We advise you to read:

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