The Internet and women's magazines are full of the mostvarious headlines on the topic of how to get rid of depression on your own. It should be remembered that if we are talking about a medical problem, then it is unlikely to be resolved without the help of a doctor: when depressed, a person is absolutely passive and depressed, and he has neither the strength nor the desire to do anything. However, among the people, this term often denotes a protracted bad mood, apathy and laziness. And you can - and should! - fight them on your own, and we will tell you in what ways.
A collection of pleasant experiences
The point of this option of independent struggle withdepression is to focus your consciousness on the positive moments of your life. To do this, you need to track your experiences: record all the moments when something made you happy (even if it was fleeting). You can even use the power of your imagination: imagine a camera, the button of which you will press, photographing all the events that made you happy. Do this every time you feel content and happy: a funny joke, insignificant but joyful news, an interesting conversation, the pleasure of the taste of your favorite ice cream, the pleasant sensations of a new silk scarf - all these things are worthy of being in your piggy bank. Surely, you will be able to collect quite a few such moments during the day! It is very important to “press the camera button” at the peak of a pleasant feeling. And to consolidate the results obtained, in the evening before going to bed, remember all the positive things you experienced during the day. If suddenly you are not doing very well, then you can again connect your imagination: imagine a remote control in your hand and work with the settings of your image (sound, brightness, contrast) until you “catch” that very moment when the experience was most intense and pleasant.
Think in a positive way
It is no secret that consciousness determinesthe quality of our life. What is the main secret of millionaires and other successful people? Always think positively. Unfortunately, the mind of an ordinary person is filled with all sorts of negative attitudes, which often prevent him from living and being happy. For example, a woman thinks: “Divorce is terrible.” And she continues to be unhappy and live with an unloved alcoholic husband who sucks all the juices out of her, although she could have changed her life a long time ago. Or another attitude - “I will never achieve anything.” You understand that a person who thinks like this will never be happy? Such attitudes must be caught and “eradicated.” If you are afraid of something or are pessimistic about the future, then you should catch this thought and “spin” it to the victorious end, asking yourself questions: “Why? What does this give you? What do you really want? What is stopping you from getting it? Where did this idea come from? How do you stop yourself? " etc. … It is possible that you will come to very interesting conclusions for yourself. For example, Sveta L. wanted to lose weight, but did not go to the gym, because there were only slender girls there who could look at her “wrongly”. It was a vicious circle, and when she realized this, she was able to solve her problem and began to exercise in a format convenient for her.
Find and eliminate the cause of depression
It sounds very simple, but for some reason few people do itthey think of this. Very often the cause of our prolonged depression is some unmet need or unpleasant event. And all that needs to be done to get rid of painful experiences is to solve this problem. Take, for example, the story of Masha S.'s job. She got a job as a psychology consultant in a young but rapidly developing company in her fifth year of university. She was promised that she would conduct individual psychotherapeutic sessions, training seminars, and write psychological articles. But somehow it turned out that Masha was very quickly "hung" with a very wide range of responsibilities, from marketing strategy to website design. There was no talk of any psychology. Masha worked at her job for a whole year until she realized that it was poisoning her life, giving practically nothing in return (by the way, she was paid little money). Needless to say, submitting her resignation letter was a turning point in her condition, driving away all her depression at once. The hardest thing in this case is to understand what is really weighing you down. And here only paying attention to the moments when your mood worsens, melancholy and depression arise can help. The story of Irina K. is an excellent illustration of how this works. Irina always had a difficult relationship with her mother: she constantly told her what to wear, how to speak and who to be friends with. When Ira moved to another city and entered college, the problems became less, but only until the moment when the question of choosing a place of work arose - of course, her mother had her own opinion on this matter. And she was very surprised and upset when she found out that Ira was still going to do it her way. They had a huge fight and did not talk for a month. Ira began to notice that she was often overcome by depressive moods and thoughts. Everything seemed to be going well at her new job, but it didn’t really make her happy. But when Ira realized that melancholy was attacking her when she thought about her mother and that she really missed her mother’s advice, she went and called. And she found out that her mother also deeply regretted what had happened, and all she wanted was to protect Ira from mistakes and recklessness. Peace was restored in their relationship, and Irina’s sadness went away on its own.
Become the "author" of your life
What does this vague formulation mean?There are different positions in relation to one’s own life: the essence of the “fatalistic” position is the idea that nothing depends on us, and everything is decided by fate or chance, while the “author’s” position is the opposite - a person believes that his life is in his hands, and he can achieve everything he wants. Such an attitude is often key to the characteristics of a successful and happy person. It is not surprising that depression comes to fatalistic people, because it is very hard to think that you cannot influence your life in any way. All achievements and goals can become meaningless, and reasons for joy - disappear. Becoming the author of your life means taking responsibility for it and gaining control over all the events in it (or, at least, over most of them). A classic example of a fatalistic position can be the words: “I was late because there was a huge “traffic jam” on the bridge, and I could not make it in time.” It would seem, how can you influence this event? Often, a “traffic jam” is a fairly easy to predict phenomenon, and in order to avoid it, it is enough to leave a little earlier. But you really want to sleep or do some housework! It is much easier to do this and then complain about some external reasons. Therefore, a person taking the author's position would explain his lateness like this: “I was late because I wanted to stay home longer.” When such an understanding comes, it becomes much easier to prioritize, doesn't it?
To love yourself
As we have already written above, a negative attitude towardsoften consists of “toxic” attitudes that sit in our minds. However, that’s not all: sometimes depression is due to the fact that we simply don’t love ourselves. Remember what an unpleasant feeling it is when your confession of love is rejected, and what suffering fills your soul? It’s the same here: we don’t love ourselves, and this makes us sad and melancholy. How can this be fixed? Start listening to yourself. Your body is alive and unique, and it has its own needs. Instead of postponing their satisfaction “for later” and forgetting about it, try to realize some of your desires right now. What do you want? To lie in the bathroom instead of cleaning? Then do it! Cleaning will not go anywhere, and your body will thank you for listening to it instead of another “moral” rape. Don’t forget to pay attention to yourself. Our life is such that we do a lot in a hurry: we chew on the go, run in heels and don’t get enough sleep. All this affects the body: it gets tired and feels like it has been forgotten. It's time to prove the opposite! Arrange a course of relaxation activities for yourself: sign up for a massage, go to the sauna, get yourself an ultra-fashionable manicure. Finally, pamper yourself already! If something hurts - cure it immediately, because your body should not suffer because of your laziness. Start taking care of your appearance, because it is much easier to love something beautiful than something ugly: buy yourself quality things, good cosmetics, play sports. And when you love yourself, your body will reciprocate and stop "depressing". Self-healing from depression is quite possible, you just have to want it. We told you about only five ways, but there are many more! Turn on your fantasy and imagination, think about how you can surprise and please yourself. Being happy is not difficult - You just have to realize that nothing and no one is stopping you from doing this. The main key to your well-being is you. So pull yourself together, stop being a wimp and start conquering new horizons.
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