Every person has these in their lifemoments when he has a desire to be better than everyone else or at least better than his former self. The world is imperfect, and we humans are not perfect either. Well, in every human life there is room for improvement. We can change our personal qualities for the better, and by doing so, we will not only change ourselves, but also influence the lives of others. But how to become better? What should we do for this?

To be better is a natural desire

Each of us would like to grow as a person, becausePersonal growth is the main difference between a person and a rational being. And each of us has our own definition of personal growth, as well as our own list of skills, the acquisition or improvement of which could be of paramount importance. Reaching new heights in personal and professional development becomes especially important when we have a desire to move to a new, more successful level of life. Let's take a short excursion into science. After all, in order to develop a successful strategy for self-improvement, it would be nice to first understand why a person initially has the desire to become better. Agree, even in childhood, each of us compared ourselves with other girls, trying to understand why all classmates want to be friends with Anya, and all the boys like Tanya. And if in childhood we simply tried to imitate our idols, then as we grew up, we began to think about how to become better than our friend. Being just like someone no longer suited us. So why does the desire to become better arise and how does science explain such a desire?

The best qualities help to live better

The automatic renewal theory states thatOnly when human beings strive for a higher level, they get the opportunity to satisfy their basic needs. And what are the basic needs of a person? These are physiological needs, the need for security, the need to belong to a group, community and acceptance by this community, the need for self-renewal and high self-esteem. Why do these factors play such an important role in the development of personality and how do they help us to become better? Physiological needs of a person are the needs for food and water, that is, the needs that ensure survival. If you are hungry and do not have enough food and water, where will you get the strength to become better? Only when physiological needs are satisfied, you can think about spiritual hunger and thirst. Your basic life needs take first place among all problems, and only after they are satisfied does the need for self-knowledge arise. As soon as a person realizes himself as an individual, he has a feeling of belonging to a community of people. This is how he comes to another important need. We all need understanding and love from our family and friends, from the society in which we live. How others perceive us excites us and makes us think about how to become better. We begin to rise above ourselves - in the sense that we not only become better ourselves, but also begin to pay more attention to the needs and desires of others.

Do you want to make the world better? Start with yourself!

Start changing today!Many people have a dream or would like to achieve a goal; but most of them have postponed their dreams and goals "until better times." They are wrong - there is no better time to achieve a goal than now. Only by taking a step today can we bring our "better tomorrow" closer. Having decided to change for the better, set specific goals for yourself. Try to make the goals realistic, otherwise you will doom yourself to failure. Agree - if you suffer from shyness, then you should not set yourself the goal of becoming a real speaker in a month. In your case, you need to first increase your self-confidence, and only then start learning public speaking. Unreasonably high goals will lead you to failure, and failures, in turn, will turn you away from attempts to improve yourself. By setting a realistically achievable goal, you will be able to get closer to achieving your goals every day, step by step. When you achieve one goal - congratulate yourself, be sure to reward yourself with something nice. And set your next goal, this time raising the bar higher and challenging yourself to achieve more. After all, with the first task, your belief in yourself has also been strengthened! When you learn to challenge yourself, you will be able to do much more than you ever thought possible and will have a clear vision of how to become better.

What should I look for first?

First of all, listen to yourself so thatbring out the best in you. Analyze your core beliefs and principles. Your principles are the foundation of your value as a person; they have a huge impact on the course of your life. If your beliefs and principles are wrong, they can lead you down the wrong path. This will lead to the emergence of habits that will not allow you to grow as a person. Do not confuse shortcomings, which can and should be gotten rid of, with complexes caused, for example, by dissatisfaction with your appearance. Short stature cannot affect your personal value in any way, just like too big ears. But you should get rid of indecision or, conversely, stubbornness and arrogance. If you are thinking about the need for personal growth, then the first step that would be wise to take is to make a list of skills that you would like to acquire or improve. If you are thinking about how to become better, then you must understand that you will have to realize your inner potential to the fullest. That is, you need to improve your inner essence. It is the development of your inner self that helps a person become better. And when our thoughts, habits and skills become better, we can try to help others live their lives better. And although it sounds simple, it will require a lot of effort on your part. But – a bad start makes a bad start! Let's see what skills and qualities are worth developing in yourself.

• Perseverance

Have you ever wondered what all of them have in common?all successful people? They have developed persistence in order to achieve their goals in life. People who develop persistence and perseverance do not give up even in the most difficult situations. They believe that only their determination and hard work, including on themselves, help them become successful. It is persistence that motivates them to move on, to achieve their goals. Therefore, one of the main secrets of your success in working on yourself will be the development of persistence. You must stock up on great patience. Those who become persistent receive not only a strong character, but also determination and will, which will help achieve the goal and turn their dreams into reality.

• Individuality

Never try to be like everyone else.Try to be an interesting person and learn to remain self-confident in any situation. Never be shy about expressing yourself. Don't be afraid to express and defend your opinion. If you can maintain your individuality, you will never "get lost" among people and will be interesting to others as a person.

• Elucidation and enthusiasm

To be interesting to people and to myselfYou also need to increase your erudition. Agree, no one likes to communicate with a person with whom you have nothing to talk about. The more you know, the wider your circle of communication will be. But do not forget - a truly intelligent person will not boast about his knowledge and be clever in and out of place. Always remain yourself, do not try to say or do something for show. Find some interesting thing to do that you can devote your leisure time to. The wider your circle of interests, the more people will be interested in you.

• Initiative

Sometimes it can be very scary to say or do somethingsomething that no one in your circle has ever done or suggested doing before. What if what seems interesting and important to you seems like empty nonsense to others? You don’t know how your proposal might be accepted, so your fear is understandable. It is very important to overcome yourself and take a step towards something new. This will help you not only learn to take the initiative, but also strengthen your self-confidence. Therefore, don’t be afraid to take the initiative, including in love and friendly relationships.

• Goodwill

Be kind and tolerant towardspeople. In any person - and you are no exception! - there is not only something good, but also something bad. Try to see the best qualities in a person, not paying attention to the shortcomings. People will feel your disposition, and it will be easy for them to communicate with you. You will become a welcome guest in any home and will be able to get along with others in any situation. Do not forget that your smile and friendly look will be the first to indicate your goodwill. A gloomy person, casting a sidelong glance, will not be able to win anyone over. But a friendly smile can melt the harshest heart!

• Sense of humor

To everything that happens in our lives,It is necessary to treat with a grain of humor. Even if something bad has happened, you can always find something good in it. Optimism, inherent in people with a good sense of humor, helps to overcome adversity and difficulties, and laughter helps to endure in the most difficult moment. But do not confuse humor and evil irony! You can laugh at yourself, but it is unacceptable to ridicule or shower someone else with barbs. Even if you really want to make fun of someone, first think - would you like it if you were laughed at like that? Never hurt people's pride with stupid jokes or pranks. This will not make you better.

• Attention to people

Learn to be an attentive conversationalist – givespeak out to your opponent, do not interrupt him. Be attentive to people, try to notice if something bothers or depresses someone. At the same time, do not get into their soul - just offer your help if the person needs it, he will accept it from you. Your attention to your friends will be shown if you find time to communicate with them and help them solve their problems.

Is it worth it to become a better friend?

You can continue the list of qualities yourself,that you would like to develop or improve in yourself. Your desire to become better than others is worthy of respect - you do not want to stand still, you have some goals, and you know what you want to achieve from life and from yourself. This means that you have a great chance to achieve what you want. But you should not try to be better than someone. Especially, better than your friend. If she feels that you envy her and try to compete with her, she will simply not be able to trust you anymore. As a result, you will lose a reliable friend. Each person is unique and inimitable, so be yourself and just become better. We recommend reading:

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