The most harmful of all self-restraints is to think,that we know everything. Unfortunately, our culture makes us believe that we must know everything about everything, that to achieve high status we must be all-knowing. Always right. Never wrong. Let's figure out why this is not true.
What's stopping us?
Instead of looking for answers to questions, wewe spend time pretending to know them. This attitude and behavior, at its core, comes from a fear of being seen as ignorant, narrow-minded, and mediocre. And this same fear keeps you from being great. It keeps you from realizing your potential. It limits your ability to learn new things. It keeps you from reading more and educating yourself. It limits your creativity in exploring new ideas. It keeps you from seeing the real world, hiding it behind a screen of prejudice. It keeps you from enjoying the success of others. It alienates people who could help you. At some point, you have to let go of this fear of not knowing and just start living the life you want to live. Why pretend to know everything when you can develop the habit of learning?
Errors help us grow
Despite your show of courage and charm,People know you make mistakes. It wouldn’t be a big deal if you stopped apologizing and admitted you were wrong. Which begs the question: Why is it so hard for us to make mistakes? (How much do you bet it’s because we’re afraid?) Consider this simple thought: “When you make mistakes, you open up new possibilities.” A big part of success is humility, which means understanding that you always have something to learn. Being defensive is a trap. Being defensive prevents you from becoming the superstar you want — and really can — be. Besides, you don’t even really know why you’re defensive in the first place. A simple “That’ll never work” discourages you from learning and moving forward. But think about it for a minute. You don’t know for sure that your new idea won’t work, right? You probably haven’t tested your theory in every possible way in some secret underground lab. You haven’t read every book known to man on the subject.
How to start learning for real?
To learn is to absorb the lessons of life,that come your way. Learning does not happen automatically. Otherwise, we would absorb all the lessons that can make us outstanding. You must focus all your persistence on becoming a learner. And that means bending over backwards to turn life into your own research lab. Don’t wait for answers to magically appear; actively seek them out around you. Don’t learn only when you want to, and not only about what you want to learn. Wanting to learn is not the same as hoping that you will learn. Being a learner means accepting everything life offers (whether you think it’s fair or not) and turning your circumstances into the best possible choice or knowledge. It means planning for the best possible future events in your life, even in the worst moments. Based on the book “Be the Best Version of Yourself” published by Mann, Ivanov and Ferber.
