Pareto's law always operates in our lives,regardless of whether you know anything about it or are hearing about it for the first time. The principle of this rule is as follows: 20% of actions will bring 80% of the expected result. And the next 80% of efforts will be applied to get the remaining 20% ​​of success. Even an individual far from mathematics will understand what we are talking about. Translated into simple human language of relationships, this may sound something like this - you will not have a second chance to make a first impression. In love relationships, this works exactly the same way. The first date is a kind of test, a turning point in the relationship. The assessment is the invitation to all other meetings. That is why young ladies need to figure out how to behave on the first date with a guy so that the relationship begins to develop further. Our article contains advice based on real stories that happened in the lives of various ladies, as well as on the recommendations of experts. After reading them, you will have an understanding of the best date format, after which a gentle melody of love began in two hearts. Perhaps, it is impossible to claim that by adhering to all the listed points, you are guaranteed to continue the relationship with the young man. But the ABC book consists of letters, and words can be made from them. Then phrases are built from words, stories, novels are written. Here are, so to speak, the letters, having learned which, you can become the author of a wonderful, exciting love story. What questions flutter in women's charming heads after their owners receive an invitation to meet from a nice guy who is of interest to them? Conventionally, they can be divided as follows:

• How to look, to him exactly and irrevocably like? Accordingly, it also includes questions from the category of how to make-up, what to wear, how to style your hair, how to take perfume and so on.
• How to behave on the first date, if before that you either communicated too little, or did not communicate at all, or communicated, but only as friends?
• About what to conduct small talk? What to talk about, how to support the conversation, how to talk it better, so that you can better recognize him as a person?
• Where to go? Yes, this is also important. The venue is not crucial, but obviously the importance is important. Why? We will certainly tell you further - hurry to read.

My light, mirror, say

The question of how to look on a first date,you can't ignore it for many reasons. First of all, because most men perceive information visually. So, you need to take this natural feature of theirs into account. Secondly, any young lady feels more confident if she finds out in a dialogue with the mirror that she is especially irresistible and sweet today. Having reached a certain age, each woman begins to understand what suits her best, what aspects of her appearance make sense to disguise, and which should be emphasized and played up. Therefore, you are unlikely to want to go on a first date in a completely new image that you are not even used to yet. You should take as a basis how you are used to looking every day, and embellish and dress yourself up a little. If you always look bright, wear heels and elegant dresses, then feel free to do yourself spectacular makeup, intricate hairdo, dress yourself in a fashionable and well-thought-out outfit. This is your style, you feel comfortable and confident in it. Therefore, your aura is harmonious and attractive. But you shouldn't think that a girl who finds all of the above too complicated and complicated has no reason to go on a date. After all, it's not necessary to apply bright colors of nail polish to your fingernails and toenails. A clear layer of polish will also give you a well-groomed look. Hair gathered in a bun, loose over the shoulders, braided, pulled into a ponytail - there are a lot of styling options that are absolutely not difficult to do. But there are moments that are mandatory to do. The guy will definitely pay attention to this and most likely will not welcome it:

• The smell of a stale body is a real extreme. The girl should smell clean or perfumed. It is difficult to imagine a girl who will allow herself to appear at a meeting without taking a shower. But just in case, let's remind that hygiene is the basis of the basics. Perfume, leaving a thin train, draws. A wave of smell, knocking others around them, is a bust. Correctly selected aromas leave in the memory of the man exactly your image. Each time, catching a similar ambre, he will remember you and only you.
• Dirty hair and nails, no hair removal onlegs or in the area of ​​the armpits, if they are open to the eye. Comments, as they say, are superfluous. All this is taboo. It is better to cancel an appointment than to allow yourself to appear before his gaze in such an image. Cinderella charmed the prince in the image of a princess. Remember this when you are going to meet the prince of your life!
• Shock therapy - that's what you can say about girls,who decide to impress their gentlemen by showing up on a date in unusual or provocative outfits, with eye-catching makeup. Maybe if you are both representatives of certain trends (for example, punks or rockers), then this is great. If not, do not begin your risky experiment.

Manners of a secular lioness

General advice from psychologists and wise peopleis incredibly simple: the right way to behave when meeting a man is to be natural, positive and open. Don't play anyone else but yourself. If you see a man for the first time, there is a danger that he will not like the woman you really are, but the one you have been trying to portray the entire meeting. Even the most talented actresses cannot play a role their entire lives. The mask will have to be taken off anyway. What do you think the man's reaction might be? If you already have some idea about each other, then such behavior can immediately cause a response. It is too presumptuous to expect it to be positive. Especially if the guy invited a sweet, charming mademoiselle on a date, but instead of her, a Femme Fatale sits opposite her and has absolutely no idea what to do now. Think about this: "When I behave naturally, a man sees the real me. This means that he will choose me as I am. The first date is not a way to start life from scratch, destroying stereotypes and shackles, allowing yourself now what was previously denied. A man may be happy that the girl has something unusual and special. Or he may be confused by such a turn of events. Weigh your chances carefully. Especially if you plan to continue communicating with this gentleman further. There is one more point that should be voiced. Alcohol. Anything can happen in life, but always remember how a person who is pretty tipsy looks from the outside. Perhaps you decided to get rid of your shyness with a glass or two or try a couple of cocktails that you have not yet tried, or simply did not calculate your own strength and exceeded the dose of alcohol. In this case, there can be only one piece of advice - you urgently need to go home. There is no point in continuing the date.

Not this

What most men react todisapprovingly during a date with a nice lady? The list is not that huge, but it still exists. Swearing, promiscuity, provocative behavior, loud laughter or voice. When a girl has to be told several times to stop swearing or laughing at the whole room, she can forget about getting another invitation to a meeting. Naturalness is not equal to the absence of good manners and culture of behavior. Femininity is the main criterion that attracts the stronger sex to its charming representatives. A completely justified and natural phenomenon. Do not wait for the moment when he makes a remark to you. A timely thought about "how do I look in his eyes when I behave like this" will help you always control your emotions and behavior.

Let's talk heart to heart

You so want to know everything about him and tell hima lot about yourself on the long-awaited first date! A completely normal desire. To do this, you should build a conversation so that the questions do not give the opportunity to get an answer "yes" or "no". Such phrases are considered closed. After such a monosyllabic answer, an awkward pause may hang, from which both interlocutors feel uncomfortable. Therefore, learn to ask open questions. The interlocutor will give detailed answers to them, and you will be able to get more necessary information from your gentleman. A correctly built dialogue will bring you closer very quickly. During the conversation, ask yourself: "How am I conducting the conversation? Am I talking to myself right now?" Choose neutral topics for the conversation, unobtrusively finding out what interests your gentleman. Common ground and unanimity bring people together, and differences allow you to discover something new for your horizons. It is not for nothing that they say that opposites attract. Avoid only topics that are not always appropriate and accepted to discuss even in the circle of close people. For example, the number of sexual partners, illnesses, interest in his savings book - all these are not the best reasons for developing a conversation. Do not interrupt a man when he is telling you something animatedly, but equally do not remain silent, as if you have taken water in your mouth. Compliments are a weapon that has killed more than one strong man's heart. Say them sincerely - this is the main secret of success in their use.

Where all roads lead

Some say that all roads lead to Rome,someone claims that to a woman. And when it comes to the first date, the relevance of the question of the meeting place is very high. The initiative can come on an equal footing. There are hundreds of places for dates. Perhaps, if we do not take into account the most extreme meetings, such as gatherings at an abandoned cemetery. A walk in the park, horseback riding or boating, going to the cinema, theater, concert or cinema. A cozy restaurant hall or an open veranda of a summer cafe. All options have their unconditional advantages. If you both love physical activity, you can visit the skating rink in winter or go to the beach in summer. There are examples when the first date began with one of the participants of a romantic meeting meeting the family of the other. Although such a turn of events can give you a double dose of excitement, but this clearly indicates trust in you and obvious interest.

Let's sum up the results

You shouldn't think that the first date isThis is a continuous series of tests and a minefield at the same time. You have agreed to a charming man’s offer to meet. Set yourself up for only the good. Go and enjoy communication and pleasant company. There is no particular difficulty in making a great impression on a man. Especially if you sincerely want it. Believe in yourself, your attractiveness and charm, in your star – and you will succeed. The first date will be followed by a series of others, equally wonderful and joyful. This is how beautiful stories about tender love begin – from the very first date until the moment when life separates the lovers. As practice shows, if a guy decides to invite a lady on a date, it means that he already likes her. All you need now is to remain for a long time the same sweet girl whom you decided to invite on a date to continue the acquaintance. Not the most difficult task, right? It is so feminine – just to remain yourself and charm others with it. We wish you good luck on any date, not just your first one!

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