How to ignore a man with whom it is unpleasant to communicate

Not every person you have to deal withcommunicate, makes you want to maintain this communication with him. And it also happens that any contacts with someone we know bring us only pain, disappointment and resentment. Well, some “girlfriend” likes to get on our nerves, and that’s it! And when your nerves can’t take it anymore, you ask her to remember her conscience – she gets offended, starts being rude at every opportunity, and even spreads gossip about what was and what wasn’t! The hardest thing to get rid of a man’s annoying advances is when you don’t like him, but with his persistence he tries again and again to melt the ice of your hostility. How can you ignore a guy in such a case? How can you convince a man of the futility of all his attempts with your behavior? And how can you learn to ignore a guy you like, but he behaves too dismissively with you? Different situations arise when a person becomes extremely unpleasant to us. We get offended, worry – and receive a new portion of negativity at every meeting. Often we try to somehow influence such a friend of ours, to sort things out with her. But there is nothing more effective in such a situation than to ignore the person, communication with whom brings us so many unpleasant emotions. We have not discovered America now, right? But think for yourself: how many of us know how to react to insults, gossip and insults correctly? After all, what do most of us do? Each of us has her own way; but not each of them allows you to avoid suffering, and some only exasperate the soul even more. Someone does not pay attention to the offender and lives on as if nothing happened, but there are very few of them. And someone cries in a corner, experiencing every unfair word addressed to her. Someone withdraws into herself, becomes very closed and uncommunicative, someone constantly feels irritated and transfers this irritation to others who are not to blame for anything. These are the most common reactions, and the list could be continued. But all this is wrong behavior. And what is the right way, you ask? This is what we would like to teach you!

How to behave correctly?

The best thing to do is to show the unpleasant person that you don't want to communicate with him anymore. That is, just stop noticing all his antics, and him himself. And here's how to do it:

Ignoring a person is a serious decision,so consider your step and try to understand if you really want to break off the relationship with the abuser forever. Do not resort to disregard for one day or for a week just to attract attention and cause feelings of guilt in the person who insulted you.
Before you stop the relationship, tryunderstand the motives of this person's behavior, see not only what he did, but also why he could do so. Did you do something that could provoke such behavior? Suddenly, you yourself have offended your acquaintance, and is it just trying to protect yourself?
Try to ask about the reason for this attitude toyou (if you find it possible, of course). Maybe everything is not as bad as you think, and you can settle the situation peacefully. In any case, you should first talk, try to discuss your problems, and not just throw a person out of your life without any warning.
Be direct. If you can not establish a relationship, firmly tell a friend that you no longer want to know her. It's not worth being angry, just tell me about your decision, keeping your politeness. Some people do not immediately realize that such a decision can be deliberate and final, and continue to try to communicate. Be consistent - stop receiving calls from them and do not read their messages. Do not be tempted to try to provoke you to an answer. Do not argue at meetings, if they can not be avoided (if this is your employee, then do not change because of the intriguing work!). If you stick very strongly, firmly and clearly say that you want to be left alone - now and forever!
You must understand what the consequences will be. This bore will be angry, because getting a rebuff for your machinations is not so pleasant. Prepare to withstand the siege. Inform common friends and acquaintances that you are going to ignore the offender. If they ask you questions, answer them. Do not try to convince them to stand on your side, let them make their own opinion on the situation. Just let them know the essence of the problem and your position.
Refrain from any contact withignored by you person. If it's a man, then ignoring it will be much easier. But if it's a woman, then it will be more difficult! She will first be angry with you, and then will intensively look for an opportunity to show how bad you are, since you decided to make an empty space out of it. If you do not pay attention to all her attempts, she will look for sympathy from other people. And the fact that she will talk about you now, maybe even much more painful and hurtful than that, because of what all the fuss and flared up. What can be done about this? If you have the courage - continue to ignore it. With people whose opinion is important to you, you have already discussed your position, and their sympathies will tend to you more quickly if you behave yourself worthy - unlike the scandalous person who pours you mud. And if she goes beyond all boundaries - threaten to bring her to justice for libel and insult. Sometimes it works!
When meeting, do not worry about embarrassment, without knowing,whether it is necessary to please the etiquette with an unpleasant person. Demonstratively turn away, of course, is not worth it, but you do not have to say hello. And if he addresses you, or you need to say something to him (for example, if it is necessary for work), then reduce communication to a minimum, as far as possible. And if you come across somewhere on the street or in a store, you can generally pretend that you just did not notice it. Change the pace of walking or go to the other side of the street is not worth it - it's stupid, agree. And it will look like you are afraid of him (or her). Just look as though through a person, as you look at people you do not know. You have not seen, and that's it! And if he wants to tell you something, pretending that nothing has happened - say that you are in a hurry and can not stay.
Do not forget to limit access to yourself and yourpersonal data and social networks. Configure privacy settings and block your pages so that only close friends and family members can see your information and your photos.

Once you have done all of this, you will be able to protect yourself from communicating with the person you no longer want to see in your circle of acquaintances. Celebrate freedom and enjoy peace!

How to ignore a guy who treats you disparagingly

There are also situations when a person does notmakes you feel unacceptable, and yet it is quite difficult to communicate with him. For example, such a situation: you quite like a guy, but his behavior can sometimes be quite offensive to you. He seems to say that he has hot feelings for you, but nevertheless pays too little attention to you, and sometimes even behaves quite dismissively. How to ignore a man in such a situation to make sure that his feelings towards you are sincere?

Do not stay close to him when he startsbehave in this way. You do not deserve such treatment! True, do not stand aside from him demonstratively: this way you will only provoke a man to a conflict. It's just easy to tell him that you do not want to spend all your free time waiting for him to be able to choose several hours to communicate with you, or that you do not like how he talks or behaves with you, and so today you want to stay without him. (just do not lose sight of the fact that sometimes it behaves rudely or disparagingly to a man to make a desire to attract her attention).

In turn, do not pay any attention to it infor two or more days. Do not call him first, do not send sms messages, do not catch his eye. If he really loves you, he will be sure to get worried and try to find out where you've gone and whether you are all right.

When he wants to find out what happened,talk to him calmly, without tears and reproaches. Nothing can push a man away more than female hysterics. In addition, do not start to sort things out immediately as soon as he approaches you. If this happened in a fairly crowded place or when you are quite busy (for example, at work or during a break between classes at the institute), then do not give in to temptation and do not start a conversation. The best time and place for such a conversation is when you are alone and in no hurry.

Ask for help from your friends. Tell them that you want to stop communicating with your boyfriend for a while. They will help with advice and will try to protect you from situations where you can unintentionally meet a man whom you are trying to ignore. Only you have to trust precisely those friends you are sure of, because you want to get support from them, and not spread gossip about you, do you?

Be patient, don't rush the man,provoking him into scandals and showdowns. It is much more effective to make him really feel that you are very unhappy with his behavior. But first, try to convey to him how you feel when he behaves inappropriately with you. Imagine: guys never have an idea of how girls feel when they are neglected!

How to ignore a guy if you are in love with him

You have fallen in love with a man, but you are afraid that yourfeelings are unlikely to find a response in his heart? Well, throw him out of your head! Believe me, there are guys who are much better than the one you like now. And among them, there is probably one who is now secretly sighing, looking at you. Therefore, you can start ignoring this particular man in order to free your heart for true love. Moreover, the situation may develop in such a way that you need to cool your feelings for a guy who is either your friend, or you are simply visually acquainted. If he is part of your circle of friends

Do not blame yourself for falling in love with your own friend or friend. This can happen to anyone. Just start to take the first steps to a little distance from it.
Do not respond to his treatment the same second as he called you or wrote a text message. For example, you can send a reply message only in two or three hours.
Never refer to it first, and if it is about something asks you, answer him in monosyllables.
If he asks you for something, tell him that you are busy. Do not allow yourself to communicate with him for a long time. This will only worsen the situation.
And best of all - make new friends, preferably of the opposite sex.

If you are just acquainted

Try not to be there, where you can meet a guy whom you decided to ignore.
Do not smile at him. A smile can betray your feelings.
Do not ask about your friends and acquaintances about him.
Try not to think about the guy at all, since you decided to ignore him.

And if they ignore you? Anything can happen in life.It may happen that you yourself are guilty of something. What can I say - each of us has been in this situation when someone was angry with us and pretended that we did not exist. Brrr, I don’t want to remember! And if it did happen again - what attitude should you choose to choose towards the person ignoring you in order to somehow influence his desire not to have anything to do with you? It all depends on whether you want to fix the situation yourself. If you do not value the relationship with the one who is angry with you, you can do the same and stop noticing him. And if you feel guilty and want to make peace, then it is worth settling your dispute so as not to aggravate the confrontation. Remember that it is not always reasonable to continue to maintain brand and insist on your position! One of the best options for behavior if you want to avoid hostility is a direct and open dialogue. If the person is too offended and is still keeping his distance, start small - say “Hello!” when you meet, smile. But don't try to forcefully cross the line he's set for you yet. Show everyone with your behavior that you regret your breakup. You'll see, he'll thaw out. No matter which side of the crack that's arisen between you you're on, remember - by ignoring someone, you very often harm yourself. It's always better to try and find a common language! We recommend reading: