How to forget the person you love

When people think they have found lovetheir whole life, but eventually lose it, they fall straight into the abyss of depression and unsuccessful attempts to forget the past love. But just as there is no point in crying over spilled milk - it will not return back to the jug! - neither will crying over an ex-boyfriend help. It is clear that it is very difficult to forget your love. But this does not mean that it is impossible to do so. How to forget the person you love? A lot depends on what caused the breakup.

If you love a married man…

One of the reasons why you shouldbreak up, even if you still haven't broken off the relationship - this is a family bond in which the man is. He is, but not with you. If you understand that you need to break up, but you can't decide, or maybe you don't want to listen to anyone and continue to love your sweetheart, hoping for the best, then we can give you at least eight reasons why you shouldn't continue such a relationship. Eight reasons why you should forget a married man

He will never be only with you in the future.A man who felt unhappy in his marriage would have left his wife long ago. Of course, he is inspired by your love and excited by the novelty he found in a relationship with you. He may even say to you: “I have never felt so happy as I do with you! I am ready to spend my whole life with you!” But in reality, these words mean absolutely nothing - he is not taking on any obligations to you by saying this. Think about it: if he wants to spend his whole life with you, then why does he rush back to his family again and again?

The fact that he deceives his wife, speaks of hisInability to deal with unpleasant situations, when it is necessary to take a weighted decision. This means that he will resort to searching roundabout ways when, in your relations with him, there are any problems.

Constantly hiding is quite a taskexhausting. The need to keep a relationship secret can "attack" your self-esteem; in addition, you miss out on many aspects of a happy relationship. Loving people who freely and openly demonstrate their love to the world are always filled with an inner light of happiness. And each of them can, without any reservations, be proud of the person who walks through life next to them.

He eats two cakes at once, as the English would say. He has a legitimate marriage relationship, which he does not need to hide and in which he can feel all the joys of living together. He also has extramarital relations, which help to compensate for all that he lacks in marriage. How offensive it must be for a woman who loves a married man: he gets all the best of both relationships and is quite pleased, and she spends most of her time alone and waiting for rare (and not always happy!) Minutes of communication.

Is it possible to love a man who is like that?disrespectful to his wife? After all, he deceives her, betrays her, cheats on her. It is unlikely that such a person can be called decent. And you should not believe all his excuses. Of course, he will give you a thousand reasons why he cannot leave his wife, almost glowing with pride for his "decency". And the point is not only that these reasons, as a rule, are all far-fetched; the point is also that in any case he deceives both his wife and you into the bargain. He gets pleasure from two sources, while forcing both women to suffer.

Like it or not, but you becomean accomplice in a man who neglects his duty and betrays his wife's trust. And this is not to mention the fact that he inflicts mental trauma on his children and loses credibility in their eyes. It's hard to educate when you can not see a role model!

You may be hit by a boomerang of guilt.Many men (as well as women) are unable to take full responsibility for their deceitful actions. It is just the way humans are made, that it is easier for them to blame someone for their mistakes than to accept deserved shame. If your man is caught red-handed, so to speak, do not be surprised if he tries to shift all the blame onto you. And then prove to anyone that you did not know that he was still sleeping with his wife and that she is not a bitch who eats her husband alive, but a completely worthy woman. The man will be quickly forgiven for his "prank", and in the eyes of people you will remain a treacherous homewrecker who tried to break up the family and take away their support and breadwinner from his wife and children.

You are wasting time and missing out on the opportunity to behappy with another man, and often the opportunity to have a child. You can wait forever for him to break up with his wife and tell you at the registry office "I love you" on a legal basis; but the fact that this has not happened yet speaks volumes for itself.

Remember:Time is too valuable to waste. Have you noticed how quickly the years go by and you become older and older? Even if you are quite comfortable being just a mistress, you should understand that such a relationship with a married man can last for a long time. When those women who were in such relationships still decided to break them off, they most often regretted the time they wasted in vain. If you realize everything we have just told you, then this alone can become a good impetus to forget a man, even if you still love him. And then it will be easier for you to start implementing your plans.

If he is not worthy of your love

There may be other reasons that canserve as an impetus for your breakup. Perhaps your boyfriend doesn't pay enough attention to you, or is mocking of your worldview, or can't pass by any skirt without being indifferent, or… It doesn't matter what else «or». For some reason you broke up, and now you're just sitting at home alone, completely unhappy and drowning in tears, and you can't figure out how to forget the guy you love more than anything in the world. You don't know how to do it? You need to start by honestly answering yourself one single question: do you really want to forget him and never remember him again? In any case, not remember him with such pain and tears as now. And if your answers are unclear, something like «time will tell» or "well, he may still change, and then everything will be fine with us", then this means that you do not want to break up with a man forever, but hope for some future with him; then it will be a completely different story. But if you have firmly decided that you want to forget him and that you will not be with him anymore "never-never", then throw him out of your head - and out of your heart! - our guide will help you. Here's what you need to do to forget the person you love in two weeks:

Day one, the most difficult

This is the Day of the Great Lamentation (but only oneday!) Today you have the right to feel sorry for yourself, cry bitter tears and tell your girlfriends about your unhappy lot. Yes, everything is bad for you now. Yes, your love story has ended and there is no one left to give you flowers and nice souvenirs. And he really was very handsome (smart, funny…) Listen to sad songs, watch your favorite movies, put on his sweater that you left at home… And cry, cry, cry! Tears are a protective reaction of the body that helps get rid of stress and negative emotions.

Day two: rubbish overboard!

This is the day of getting rid of all things,that remind you of HIM. Collect all his things, CDs, books that are still lying around in your closets. Don't forget to grab his gifts that he brought you just like that or on the occasion of some event. And calmly throw it all in the trash! It's a pity, of course, it's hard to argue. But you want to forget him, don't you? You want to show yourself that he means nothing to you anymore? Then get rid of all this, without a doubt! And even if he later asks if he can take back his scarf that he forgot in your hallway, then tell the guy honestly that you threw this scarf out a long time ago. Along with the rest of your things. Let him know that you don't shed tears over these "souvenirs", regretting the love that has passed! Yes, and most importantly: all joint romantic photos must also be destroyed! Check if you have at least one such photo lying around among your books or other things, and be sure to delete all the photos from your computer and phone. It may not be easy, but if you really want to start a new life and find your true happiness someday, then you simply must destroy the photos. And there is hardly any other option here!

Day Three: Cleansing the body and soul

Be sure to take a bath todayaromatic salt or oils. For example, use this composition: add seven drops of rosemary oil and seven pinches of sea salt to a bath filled with hot water. Lie in the water, trying to relax and dream of something pleasant. When you get out of the bath and open the plug, watch the water flow out and imagine that it takes away all your sadness and sorrow, floating with them through invisible pipes further and further. That's it! The cleansing procedure is complete. From this moment you begin a new life!

Day four: update the circle of communication

It is clear that it is necessary to part with everyonefriends who communicate with your ex, not necessarily. But right now you need to minimize all your casual meetings. If you have friends who never met your man or crossed paths with him too rarely, now is the time to start communicating mainly with them. This way you will kill two birds with one stone: firstly, you will minimize the risk of meeting your ex-lover, and secondly, you will not have to discuss him with people who do not even know him. Of course, it is better for you not to be alone now. Communication with friends will help distract you from sad thoughts and will not let you feel lonely. Sit with friends in a cafe, chat about plans for the summer, indulge in memories of funny school or college pranks. Hopefully, your friends will be sensitive and tactful enough to try to cheer you up, rather than remind you of your past love by asking about the details of your breakup or telling you where and with whom they saw him last week. It is very important to make an effort to create a safe and comfortable world around you - a world full of new interests and new friends who do not recognize your man in a crowd and who do not even know how to spell his name. This will be a world where your ex will not have the right to enter either literally or figuratively - even in your memories. To build such a protective "fortress" around yourself, take advantage of every opportunity to try something new - scuba diving lessons, a book club, art lessons, dance school - so that you program your body and mind to expect a new life. A life without him!..

Day five: we bring beauty

I guess I don't need to tell anyone howany woman can be cheered up by a new hairstyle! Make an appointment with a good hairdresser (only a good one, so that an incompetent hairdresser does not ruin your already fragile mood!) and boldly experiment with your appearance. Change it decisively and irrevocably!

Day six: to start, attention, march!

When you exercise, your bodyproduces endorphins - real "happiness buzz". Winter gives you unlimited opportunities - skates, snowboards, sleds, skis. In summer you can swim in open water, ride a bike, play tennis or volleyball. And if all this is not enough for you, you can work out in the gym. Do not limit yourself to regular shaping, choose something interesting, for example, yoga or belly dancing.

Day seven: there is to live

If your man was a lover of good food, thenWhen you were preparing delicacies for him, it was very difficult for you to resist the temptation to treat yourself with something tasty. The good news is that now no one will lead you astray, and you can start eating healthy food.

Day eight: move your brains

When you break up with someone you love, the hardest thing is- is to stop thinking about it. Thoughts about it just keep coming into your head, and there is no way to get rid of them. Right? Well, then the only way out is to keep yourself so busy that you don't have a single free minute left. So if until now you have often sinned by shirking your studies or working half-heartedly, now it is time to plunge into your responsibilities head-on. And even take on a couple of new responsibilities!

Day Nine: all that he hated, now you can do!

Perhaps your relationship with your ex is nowYou perceive your relationship with your ex-boyfriend almost idyllic, but surely you had some disagreements. Maybe your boyfriend didn’t like the music you were ready to listen to for hours, or your favorite girlfriend irritated him? Whatever the case, today you need to devote the whole day to what you couldn’t do when your ex-man was still yours.

Day ten: for those who are still young

If you are a fairly mature person,then it will be much easier for you to find something to do to distract yourself from thoughts about your sad love experience (which is what you need to do on this day). And what if you are still, for example, a student? You have started to study conscientiously and find time for sports; but there is still an hour or two when you do not know what to do with yourself and begin to indulge in sadness. Does this happen? Then look for a job! Many companies will be happy to accept students who can work two or three hours in the evenings, when regular employees go home. Of course, you will earn very little; but this money will not be superfluous for you. And by the end of your studies, you will also be able to boast of the work experience you have acquired!

Day eleven: pleasant troubles

Have your hard work and diet given you the first results? Then it's time to update your wardrobe. Grab your best friend and go shopping!

Day twelve: beauty indescribable!

If you did everything correctly, then you are already practicallyare ready to show up at some grand party and show off your best self, not your universal sadness. Call your girlfriends and start preparing for a wonderful event. Get a manicure, pedicure, masks for all parts of your body and stunning makeup. Whatever you want!

Day thirteen: your way out!

Have fun and don't forget to look around, because your true betrothed may appear at any moment. Now the main thing is not to miss him!

Day fourteen: a new life, new thoughts

You may have already seen it at yesterday's partymet a young man who showed serious interest in you. Or maybe everything is still ahead, and now you think only about it. And the past love is in the past! So, even if you have lost your love, this does not mean that life should end for you. In no case should you withdraw into yourself, into your personal space closed off from everyone. This is the last thing you should do, because this is exactly what will make you feel truly unhappy. But you can always look around you: who knows, maybe you forgot your ex-boyfriend precisely in order to give way to a new feeling that will make you happy for the rest of your life? We recommend reading: