Not sure - half defeated
Uncertainty is a great hindrance to life.Thanks to her, dear one, we sit at an unloved job and "pull the strap", thanks to her we tolerate a stupid boss, earn pennies instead of a decent salary. Due to self-doubt, we allow more successful colleagues to sit on our necks, we tolerate rudeness. The list can be very long. At the same time, the nervous system is shaken, very often against this background serious diseases appear. Insecurity is an enemy. At a crucial moment in life, this enemy will definitely show its teeth, and if you put up with it, you will achieve nothing in life.
How to gain self-confidence?
The main blow to the uncertainty is that youyou really want to get rid of it. The most important thing is to clearly understand that it is interfering with your life. The second and final blow - you start acting. Without waiting for Monday or the beginning of a new month. Be prepared for your inner voice to whisper to you: "I hope nothing happens", "why are you doing this". Don't listen to it. Think about the fact that you are on the threshold of a new exciting life, where you will become stronger and more independent. People will listen to your opinion, your colleagues will respect you. And any problem will be within your power. Don't forget, the feeling of confidence has not gone anywhere, it has been in you since birth, and it remains so. It's just that external circumstances have grown insecurity in you. It is because of it that you have to make an effort to be invisible, submissive and too accommodating. Being confident is easy and simple. Being insecure is difficult and unnatural.
How is a confident person?
A self-confident person lives in harmony withhimself. He has no fear of communicating with people, he is not afraid of tomorrow. He always has his own opinion, and he is not afraid to express it. A confident person does not give in to difficulties. A person who is confident in his abilities has a much richer and more interesting life. But also more difficult. After all, sometimes he has to take responsibility and decide not only his own destiny, but also the destinies of his loved ones. Unlike an insecure person who finds an excuse: “I can’t”, “I don’t know”, “I’m not competent” and so on. If you decide to change your life, you will have to make an effort. Within a month, if you follow all the recommendations, everything will work out. Then your restored confidence will only grow stronger and more tempered.
The first steps of the revival of confidence
- Become the most competent specialist in your field of activity. Having studied all the subtleties and nuances, you will feel that you have become more confident. You will be contacted by colleagues for help.
- Work on your manner of holding on. If you are slouching, buy a suit in which you need to keep your back. Work on the look, gestures, speech. Mirror for this period of time will be your assistant.
- Pay attention to your appearance.If you think that your physical form is far from perfect, go in for sports. Don't forget to refresh your manicure if you are a woman. A man should be clean-shaven. Don't forget about good perfume. Out with old things.
- Choose yourself a role model in your environment. Take a closer look at this man. Take something for service. Maybe the style of clothes, the manner of talking.
- Start to do good deeds. It will be useful for you to get a positive result, this will add self-confidence. If failure occurs, do not give up. Analyze, draw conclusions and act.
- Determine why you need self-confidence. What goal do you want to achieve? Set a goal and aim for it.
- Take a look and see who surrounds you. Become more attentive to people. Support a colleague if he needs it.
If you hear that in order to gain confidenceyou should attend special trainings, don't believe it. No trainings will help you if you don't decide to get rid of your uncertainty. If this decision is ripe, you will cope with the problem yourself.
Change your way of life
Forbid yourself from criticizing people, events andyourself. Negativity that breaks out always turns against the person. Thoughts are material. If you think about the bad, you will feel bad. Think about the good - good comes. Enjoy life in all its manifestations and give a positive attitude to the world to everyone around you. Never make excuses or blame yourself. If you made a mistake, admit it and live on. Do not go back to the past, think about the future. Driving yourself into a sense of guilt, you destroy your personality. This is the biggest mistake. Tune in to a positive attitude and share positive emotions with others. Change your environment if the previous one is used to belittling your dignity. It is very important to be surrounded by confident and positive people. Remember your hobby. Surely you have forgotten what you would like to do. Remember, maybe you loved to draw or do wood carving? Or maybe you dreamed of learning to play the guitar or piano? Doing something you love is very helpful for boosting your self-esteem and gaining self-confidence.
Don't expect the results of your transformation right away - be patient
Set small and realistic goals for yourself andstrive to achieve them. Achieving a goal strengthens your self-confidence, you get an additional incentive for further improvement. Listen to your intuition, this feeling rarely deceives. Get rid of the feeling of pity for yourself and others. Do not take other people's failures to heart. If you can help, help, but do not delve into the problems deeply. Protect your resurgent confidence. Treat any gifts of fate with gratitude. And do not forget to do good deeds. Do not consider it shameful to ask for help from a more experienced, wiser person. There is no manifestation of weakness in this. A strong person is not afraid to ask, because he himself is ready to come to the rescue. Learn to trust the world around you. Be grateful to fate for the troubles and misfortunes that it presents to us. After all, by overcoming difficulties, you become stronger and your confidence grows stronger. Do not forget about your body. After all, it is not clothes that can be changed. A healthy spirit can only be in a healthy body. Bring everything you do to the end. Even if you really don't want to. Gather your will into a fist and finish what you started. You will feel how your self-esteem increases. The main enemy of confidence is fear. Try to do something you were afraid of. Of course, without unjustified risk and heroism. You need to work with fear constantly, and eventually the day will come when you will win.
How to live with the established, not natural confidence?
At first, when you just feel it in yourselfrestored confidence, you will feel a little uneasy. Be patient, this feeling will soon pass. And you, remembering your former self, will be surprised: "Was I really like this?" You will soon get used to your new self, you will begin to treat the world and others differently. You will have new goals. You will understand that confidence is the most natural state of a person.
