There is probably no family in the world in which there is at leastfrom time to time there were no quarrels. This phenomenon is unpleasant, but inevitable. For some, quarrels with their husbands result in oppressive silence, for others they turn into grand scandals with broken dishes. Moreover, they can arise because of sheer nonsense - an unwashed plate, a towel thrown anywhere, a mirror splashed with toothpaste, garbage not taken out... Sometimes conflicts arise because of past grievances or often unfounded jealousy. Often the cause of regular quarrels with a husband is the monotony of family life, work and household stress, fatigue. One way or another, but we quarrel hard, often regretting it later. Why does this happen? And is it possible to somehow change this state of affairs?
Why do we quarrel
When we dream of starting a family with someoneAs a person, we usually believe that we will be able to maintain romance in our relationship almost until old age. That's what we think. But life makes its own adjustments. Time passes, and the romance in family life evaporates somewhere. It is replaced by an endless series of nerve-wracking everyday problems. And then comes the moment when spouses can quarrel over any trifle. And quarrel so much that it seems that the only way out of the situation can be divorce. Frequent quarrels with your husband are depressing, drive you into depression, do not let you sleep at night, rest happily and work calmly. In fact, the main reason for regular quarrels with your spouse is the inability to compromise and give in to each other. We get angry, get excited at the drop of a hat, start shouting, proving we are right. And then we calm down and often cannot even remember how it all started. And we lament, thinking about why we are unable to overcome short-term emotions. Often the roots of such uncontrollable aggression are hidden in the person's past. If for his parents constant showdowns with shouting and noise were the norm, then in his family the person will behave the same way. He does not know how to do it differently! No one taught him... Sometimes the increased aggressiveness of a husband or wife is explained by low self-esteem and the desire to assert themselves at the expense of their other half. And sometimes an outburst of rage for any reason is caused by fatigue, illness, stress. We get angry when our spouse prevents us from doing what we planned, when he watches TV instead of helping around the house, when he throws socks and shirts anywhere... We take out on him the grievances caused by someone else. We simply take out our anger because we got into trouble in the heat of the moment, and he responds to us in kind. It's sad. Because there are plenty of examples of families breaking up after a wife had some trivial quarrel with her husband. Look, the neighbor made a scene because her husband forgot to buy bread, and he went and left for another woman. For good. What should you do? Is it possible to fight often unprovoked aggression and survive a burst of rage without taking it out on your loved one? It is possible, if you call on patience and learn, when necessary, to sort things out in such a way that your spouse does not slam the door and leave one day.
How to fight with her husband
It must be said that there are reasons to be angry with each otherany husband and wife still have enough friends. It can't be otherwise. These are close, dependent on each other people who simply cannot always act only to please their other half. No matter how life turns out, but even when spouses have lived together for decades, they still remain different people. What the husband wants at the moment, the wife does not necessarily need. And vice versa. This is normal and indicates that it is impossible to avoid conflicts in family life. Well, or almost impossible. At least occasionally, but they will arise. How to behave correctly so as not to turn a minor quarrel with your husband into a protracted war?
In general, in order to avoid quarrels with your husband,you can poison your existence less often, it is advisable to initially arrange the family life and communication with your other half in such a way that any annoying mistake of each other can be calmly experienced. To do this, you can make some kind of joint sports activity a tradition: morning jogging, swimming, playing tennis or badminton, bowling, basketball, volleyball ... This brings you very close. And very useful for both, besides. In general, to be or not to be frequent quarrels largely depends on the woman. We value ourselves and do not allow the husband to raise his voice with or without reason. But we do not try to trample him either. Praise your spouse more often, but praise for the cause. We will try to be his friend, demonstrating at the same time that the merits of the faithful are appreciated as expected. And shortcomings are accepted indulgently. We encourage his attempts to develop, eliminating the mocking tone from circulation. We consult, ask for help, claiming that our husband will do better than us. We will become affectionate, caring, considerate. And we will not allow ourselves to be rude, even if he is rude. After all, men are almost more vulnerable than us. When something hurts them, they become aggressive. This is the male sex's way of self-defense. In a word, we will become more patient. After all, we don't want him to leave one day, do we? We will support our husband, help him solve some problem, try to understand what is on his mind. And if there is a quarrel, we learn to make peace after it.
As after the scandal to put up with her husband
How to make peace with your husband after anotherscandal? Before trying to improve the relationship, you need to wait for some time to cool down and let him calm down. You need to realize what happened, and only then approach your spouse with a white flag. Otherwise, the reproaches will start again, and instead of peace, a new battle will break out. Do not be afraid to take the initiative to make peace into your own hands. Even if we are not to blame for the quarrel, we must approach our spouse and offer to calmly discuss the conflict situation. And if we are wrong, all the more so, we should be the first to take a step towards capitulation. If your husband does not meet us halfway and does not want to enter into a dialogue, let's not put pressure on him. Apparently, he has not cooled down yet. Sullen for too long? Well, then let's not insist on a conversation. Let's write him a letter, setting out all our thoughts about the scandal. This is a good method of making peace. And we will be able to coherently present our thoughts, and the husband will be able to delve into them and think them over carefully. Well, if he finally starts talking, to relieve the tension that usually arises at the beginning of a conversation, we use not only words, but also gentle touches, affectionate stroking, light kisses. If this grump does not give up his position and continues to be silent for several days, you will have to try hard and prepare some kind of surprise for him. Just do not meet your loved one from work half-naked or in sexy lingerie. Men do not really like it when wives try to win them over with sex. This is somewhat offensive, because it hints that the animal instinct in the stronger sex prevails over everything else. And, whatever one may say, it is vulgar. Like, here is my body in exchange for a good attitude. Therefore, even if the husband loses his head, burning with desire, after sex he will again feel irritated. And you will have to court and calm your faithful again. A gourmet dinner will be a good surprise. You can cook it at home, or you can invite your husband to a nice restaurant. And there, to gentle music, quietly tell him: "I love you so much!" It is unlikely that your husband will not thaw in such an atmosphere. Let's dance together, look into each other's eyes, hold hands and be silent. After dinner, let's go home and indulge in frantic caresses. And forget about what happened a couple of days ago. After all, despite everything, we are still close. This means that love is still alive. We must take care of it, and not systematically destroy it, arguing over an unwashed plate and a full trash can. We recommend reading:
