Have you ever wondered whymen literally hover around some women and avoid other beautiful ladies? Why do some girls have no problem attracting and keeping any guy they want, while others try to attract attention, but all the men, as if bewitched, pass by without noticing them? And if some kind of relationship begins, then the woman has to put in a lot of effort so that the young man does not eventually switch to another. What is the reason for this state of affairs? Why do some women find a partner so easily, while most others are afraid to even dream of love and devotion from guys? What makes most women so unattractive in the eyes of men, and why are men afraid of women who, in our opinion, have many virtues? Are most of us just unlucky?

What men are afraid of

Every man has his own "collection"switches" of female attractiveness. We are talking about those qualities of a woman's personality that serve as a kind of stopcock for a man. Having noticed certain character traits in a lady, a man runs away from her, regardless of her external beauty and internal harmony. It must be said that every young man is afraid of practically the same types of women. And if we generalize, we can identify six main reasons why men avoid women:

Women have unlimited sexual powerover men. It is difficult for us girls to even imagine the power of influence on the male consciousness of the appearance of our body. When a woman knows about this, she can use her sexual power as a powerful tool for manipulation. Especially before sex; but often a woman continues to manipulate a man after sex, in everyday life. Guys understand this, and, afraid of becoming a toy in the hands of a capricious young lady, try not to plunge into the abyss of feelings: slept with one - and run to look for another!

Women tend to deny their sexualdesires, at least outwardly. We think that this is how it should be, because we have to demonstrate our modesty and decency! Women, as a rule, perceive their sexual desires as weakness and vulnerability, and not at all as power (as in the first point, when it comes to men's desire for sex). Most of us cover our sexuality with several layers of inaccessibility, prudishness and the concept of decency, and from the outside it becomes completely unclear what we really feel. Men are left to guess. And woe to them if they do not guess! Such situations create a huge internal struggle, which is often projected onto the relationship as a struggle for power.

Women tend to hide something all the time.from men, and they guard their secrets impregnably. If a man feels this, he gets the impression that he does not know everything about his lady. This makes men distrust women. Believe me, such secrecy has nothing to do with the statement that “there must be some mystery in a woman.” Sometimes we are just trying to hide from a guy that we spent too much money on cosmetics, and he is afraid that he has a chance to grow branchy horns, because we are clearly planning something in secret from him. Such understatement causes such an emotional atmosphere when you just want to say that “in love - as in war”; that is why men behave as if they must always be ready to repel an enemy attack. That is why they consider us insidious and unworthy of their trust; and everything that they themselves say and do is the ultimate truth!

"Yes" for us does not necessarily mean "yes" but "no"— does not always mean "no". And our "maybe" can mean anything: "maybe", and "yes", and "no"! Accordingly, "maybe" can be "possibly", and "maybe", and "I don't know", and "of course, you idiot!" All this does not reflect reality, even very vaguely. And how can a poor man figure this out, if we ourselves sometimes do not know why and why we said this and not another? Almost every man has encountered the situation when a woman says "no" only because she wants to experience how much he loves and wants her, but in fact, she, in general, is very much "yes"! And we also say "no" because we love to experience the feeling that our resistance is broken by male pressure. If you were a man who was not afraid of any consequences of his pressure, or if you were a man who was so patient that he could not rush a woman and was able to wait until she wanted sex herself, then you would be able to understand how treacherous the game a woman plays towards you! Because a woman can always claim that she was raped if her resistance was overcome, and this is despite the fact that she herself wanted it. And a woman can always declare a man a wimp or impotent if he does not overcome her resistance, taking it seriously. And what would you do if you were a man?! So is it any wonder that most men are afraid to start serious relationships with women?

Women can get pregnant when they don't want tothey will want to. A woman can lie about whether or not she has taken contraception, while it is difficult for a guy to lie about whether he has a condom. You must admit, either he has one or he doesn’t. Why are men so afraid that women can deceive them? Read on!

Pregnancy irrevocably changes not only lifewomen; it also irrevocably changes a man's life. And not for all men does the pregnancy of his woman not bring with it serious problems. And if a woman has the right to decide for herself whether to change something in her life - after all, she herself decides whether to prevent pregnancy or not, to have a child or not - then a man is practically deprived of this right. It turns out that a woman herself decides how his future fate will turn out, even if he himself would not like to change anything in his life. And the other extreme - a man may well find himself in a situation where he does not know that he has a child, even if he really wanted a son or a daughter. Agree, this is a very unfair tool for manipulating a man's life.

Five types of women avoided by men

In general, it is clear what can be frighteninga man in a possible relationship with a woman. And is it possible to say something about a certain type - what kind of women are men afraid of? Well, if they are not afraid, then they certainly avoid? After all, it happens very often: it seems like a guy has fallen for you, and is happy to contact you; but as soon as you communicated a few times, he disappeared! Is this about you too? Most likely, you showed yourself while you were on a date from a side from which your guy saw not your best features. You may not have even thought that this or that feature of yours can be considered a disadvantage, but your man considered it wiser to retreat than to build a long-term relationship with you. If you want to avoid such mistakes in the future, then keep in mind that men cannot stand five types of female personality:

"Flirting Butterfly" Actually, for menlike it when women flirt with them. They will always be drawn to healthy, beautiful flirting, and a flirting woman will always be considered cheerful and charming. Flirting, a girl shows a guy her interest in him, and it is much easier for a man to get to know her right away. But there is a big difference between situational flirting and constant, so to speak, “serial” flirting. Flirting, a woman giggles stupidly, makes eyes and coyly acts in front of literally every man. She is like a moth that flutters to any light that is nearby. Such a doll blinking her eyes will not arouse any interest in a man; on the contrary, he very quickly understands that this “flirting moth” will demand constant attention, since the girl almost certainly has very low self-esteem. A very patient and self-confident person may be able to deal with such a feature of a woman’s behavior; but most men will decide that this “moth” is not worth their time.

"Obligatory" Just imagineFor a second, realize that you are a guy. You have met a fantastically beautiful and interesting woman, and already on the first date you have developed exciting feelings for her. You have invited her to a cafe, and you really like it there. The lighting is just right, and the food is delicious. You are just starting to feel at ease, enjoying the company of such a wonderful girl, and suddenly... Bam! The beauty starts talking about your wedding, how many children she wants, what kind of home you will have, and that your future dog will be named Richie. When a girl starts putting pressure on a guy like that, right off the bat, he will simply run away from her without looking back. In any healthy relationship, the first months, and especially the first dates, should be devoted not to the future, but to today. After all, you don’t even really know each other yet, how can you talk about your future life together?! And just like that, without the guy’s consent, deciding for him what will happen next, and then putting pressure on him, demanding that he take on obligations, fulfilling your desires – men are very, very afraid of this!

"Always in need of care" Such a girl is notcan go nowhere and can do nothing without her man. At the same time, she lives only for his interests, constantly hangs around him, always ready to take control of his behavior. She gives herself to a man at his complete disposal, relying on him and expecting that he will be ready to entertain or console her at any moment, because she basically has no interests of her own and does not live her own life. "Eternally in need of care" literally suffocates a guy with her exactingness, absorbing all his energy and exhausting him with her desire to constantly possess his attention.

"Party Girl" These girls are alwayswant to have fun, considering themselves the life of the party. They are carefree and irresponsible, and do not even want to make a slight effort to build a relationship with a man. They make acquaintances easily, but never take responsibility for anything. You can have a great time with them at a disco or a party, but what will they be like in the sobering light of day? Her cheerful antics are good only in small doses. It is difficult to have a serious relationship with a person who hides all his problems under a mask of fun. In addition, everyone knows that people who cannot amuse themselves with anything other than a glass of cocktail with dance music very often become despondent and even depressed when the party is over.

"Chatterbox" This is a woman who neverfalls silent, barely stopping for a second to breathe. This is capable of driving any man crazy, who in the presence of a chatterbox will dream only of her shutting up as soon as possible. But a very large number of women are guilty of verbosity. It is a pity that chatterboxes do not understand that “silence is golden”! Each of them should take into account that the more a person talks, the less he learns.

Two facts in the end

First, the hard fact.The truth is that ninety-five percent of women will never have the success with men that they want to have. Let's face it! Most women are clueless when it comes to men. They just rely on luck because they don't know how to do things right. And even worse, they never make a real effort to understand their mistakes. They will just sit back, living with the false hope that someday they will find the man of their dreams and everything will be smooth sailing. But it doesn't happen! Nothing just happens. Success with men comes down to a woman knowing how to and how not to act around guys. And finally, an interesting fact. The qualities that women think attract men, are actually more often than not repulsive to them! We hope you understand what we mean. After all, you have already read this article! We recommend reading:

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