The ability for friendship is distinctivea feature of man - no animal in nature has it. What can you say about your girlfriend? Surely it is for you a source of support, an assistant, a cheerful and interesting companion, and an adequate and keen critic. And now you saw that this wonderful person has a bad mood. What to do and how to raise it?
Why is she sad?
The mood is a very volatile substance. It can fluctuate both depending on external events, and in connection with internal changes in the body. And the girls do it a hundred times a day - our sex is known for its special variability. In order to know how to raise a girlfriend's mood, you have to understand, because of what, in fact, she is sad.
- Problems on the personal front Girls - amorouscreatures, and certainly your girlfriend is also peculiar. Having plunged headlong into romance, we cease to pay attention to the world around us, as all life now focuses on new relationships. But time passes, and the girl in love faces problems on her personal front. And there is absolutely nothing to distract, because all life was devoted to love for a long time. Well, if it does not exist at all, then the girl withers and falls into depression. That's really really, we can not feed bread, but you need to love!
- Work dislocation In the life of a modern girlcareer takes far from the last place (and many even one of the first). Therefore, problems on this front can seriously spoil the mood of your friend. Swearing boss, gossip colleagues, deteriorating working conditions, transfer to another position, industrial conflicts - all these and other turmoil lies in wait for the girl on the difficult path of professional development.
- Physiology First and foremost, this is an ill-fatedpremenstrual syndrome or PMS (yes, these three letters are capable of bringing a man with a fragile psyche to frenzy). On certain days of the cycle, due to fluctuations in the hormonal background, many girls begin to behave even stranger than usual: tearfulness, quick temper, mood changes - these signs lasting longer than a couple of days, quite specifically indicate to us the imminent offensive of the "red day of the calendar." But not only he is capable of causing a bad mood for a girl. Many bodily diseases, for example, hypothyroidism, are accompanied by a decrease in mood and sadness, so if your girlfriend's period of sadness lasts a long time, she should consult a doctor.
- Boredom It would seem a banal thing, but sheis able to impeccably spoil the mood of your girlfriend. When a person is bored, he experiences a decline in vitality. By the way, if we return to the animal world, then again only man is able to experience this state. Particularly bored are people who live in the twenty-first century - there was simply no time to be bored! Although the output in this case is quite simple - you just need to cheer up by searching for any entertainment. Sometimes we confuse boredom with inner emptiness, when our soul becomes unable to experience positive emotions. The cause of boredom is often internal conflict, when we can not do what we want, or we must do what we do not want.
- Psychological crisis Very difficult and difficultstate. Man is designed in such a way that personal growth and development for him are possible only through pain and suffering. This, in general, is not surprising, because when we are good, we do not want to change anything. And only when it gets bad, we begin to think about ourselves and about our own place in this vast world. This state is accompanied by the experience of loneliness, own worthlessness, unsettledness, lack of support in life and other unpleasant sensations. Unfortunately, outside help provided by an amateur is almost impossible, because, as in the case of physical training, a person needs to go through all this independently.
- Dissatisfaction with itself It can periodicallyroll on your girlfriend, or maybe a property of a character, and then it's about low self-esteem. In any case, you have to listen to her thoughts about your own inferiority, and most often it turns out in appearance. And to cheer up is not so simple, because the banal: "You look great" is usually not enough.
- Global setbacks From time to time in our livesthere are big projects and serious undertakings: entering the institute, looking for work, organizing your own business, buying an apartment or a car - all this requires a huge amount of time and effort. What is your own failure on this front? If you know this, then you can understand your girlfriend, because now she is going through the collapse of all her plans for life.
How to cheer a friend?
Your desire to cheer up your girlfriend is quiteof course, because we always want our loved ones to feel good. However, one should not forget that in some cases a person simply does not accept help from outside. This means that you should not take excessive responsibility for the spiritual state of a friend and reproach yourself for unsuccessful attempts to raise her spirits. However, if she is ready to accept your support, you can try a few proven methods. What do girls like best in the world? To make purchases - at least, this is one of the options for answering the question. Therefore, wanting to entertain a friend, invite her to wander around the shops. It is not necessary to spend a lot of money on upgrading the whole wardrobe: you know that new cool earrings can bring no less joy than designer jeans. The main thing is the ability to find among the mediocre things something special, suitable for your girlfriend, and even for a small price. Be sure, the day spent at the mall is able to remove a bad mood in one fell swoop. Make a shopping trip unforgettable to you will help delicious food. It's no secret that we girls are great lovers of food. We have two states: "I'm watching the figure" and "eating out with something delicious." Naturally, in the event of a spell, you can safely immerse in the regime number two. Especially effective in this field are fresh fruit of bright color, berries, cakes, cakes, sweets and other desserts. But there is a special category of girls who are indifferent to sweet and nourish the addiction to pizza and food from McDonald's. Does your friend treat her? Then run to satisfy her culinary tastes! After the above advice, you and your girlfriend may well have an acute attack of guilt. If a bad mood is associated with a dislike for your appearance and, especially, to the figure, then eating deliciousness in nemerenyh quantity you are contraindicated. But useful will be a joint trip to the gym, pool or recordings for dancing. Sports activities cause the release of endorphins, which quickly elevate the mood. And the result of systematic training will be a prettier appearance and a built-up figure that will inevitably lead to an increase in vitality. What does such a girlfriend have that other people do not have? Common memories. It is thanks to them that you feel a special affinity with your girlfriend, on which only two clear jokes and comparisons are based. Immersion in these memories is an excellent variant of "kitchen" psychotherapy. Remember how you instead of couples at the university went to drink brandy on the bench on a fine spring day. Or how she desperately portrayed the Englishwoman in order to impress the guy she liked. Or how you almost got lost in an unfamiliar city together. Try to get out of memory only merry and pleasant moments, and everything bad and connected with failures leave dusting in the backyard of consciousness. Nobody canceled the usual leisure activities: cinema, theater, bar and club. Going out and the opportunity to "tear yourself away" will be very useful, if your girlfriend just disappeared, and she needs a shake-up and new impressions. However, it may be that she does not want to go anywhere and see no one. In this case, you can arrange a private private party only for you alone. Buy or download from the Internet a couple of funny comedies, prepare several albums with your favorite music, open a bottle of wine - and spend a great evening together! Finally, you can cheer up your girlfriend in some unusual way. For example, give her a bouquet of flowers: it's always nice, and the surprise of such gesture makes it even more exciting. You can also come up with a funny rally: ask someone to call a friend and start asking about the powder or cream that she had been looking for. Another girlfriend can be attracted to participate in the telephone drawing, remembering a playful childhood. Think of the concept of a joke, give the receiver to a friend and dial a phone number at random - you'll see, a cheerful mood for the whole day is provided to you! In general, your girlfriend does not have long to be sad, because she has you - a universal mood rider. Still, friendship is one of those things for which one should live, so spare no effort for your dear friends, and all your good undertakings will return to you tenfold. We advise you to read: