Female loneliness… Sounds sad, doesn’t it?Is she alone? A woman. Oh, how sad! But if you think about it, it’s not as sad as it seems at first glance. There have always been those in this world who consciously did not want to start a family. Many representatives of the fair sex went to a monastery, became sisters of mercy, worked in orphanages all their lives, or devoted themselves entirely to some cause - that’s what loneliness led a girl to. And representatives of the stronger sex did not marry until old age. So why do unmarried women nowadays cause a strange interest in others, sometimes mixed with disdainful pity? For some reason, more attention is paid to female loneliness than to male loneliness. Well, so what, a single man! That’s normal. With modern household appliances and store shelves piled high with semi-finished products, it is quite possible to do without a wife. But when an attractive woman does not have a husband - that’s suspicious. It turns out that something is wrong with her. How justified is such an attitude towards a woman's loneliness?
A Lonely Woman and Society
It must be said that male and female lonelinessIn past centuries, it was perceived differently than today. A man over thirty who did not have a wife was much more perplexing than a woman of the same age without a husband. The fairer sex could be sincerely sympathized with - poor thing, no one would marry her! Or treated with understanding and approval. But bachelors under forty were considered nonsense. They say, it is somehow inhuman. After all, it is not normal if a man still has not started a family. Well, when he is a widower, everything is clear - the man has lost his beloved, he grieves, and so on. But when he has never married at all ... As we have already said, in our days the attitude to such situations has become different. Unmarried men are no longer considered as a completely normal phenomenon. As for single women, they are either disapproved of or pitied, considered losers and unlucky. But if you think about it, many of those who have a husband are much more unhappy than single ladies! Fearing condemnation from others, they are forced to endure humiliation, bullying, and betrayal by their significant others because they have gotten it into their heads that female loneliness is bad. And they are often proud of having a permanent man in the house. Well, let everything work out in the family however you like, but “BUT I HAVE A HUSBAND. And my neighbor doesn’t! So, I’m a full-fledged woman, and she’s not so much.” However, despite this, the number of single divorced ladies and the number of girls who don’t want to get married at all is growing. And not at all because there are fewer men than women. A candidate for a husband’s place can always be found. If only there was a desire. And most single ladies of the weaker sex do not have such a desire. That’s the story. What’s going on, my dear women? Are we becoming freer from public opinion? Perhaps, yes. After all, if you think about it this way, a woman who is not burdened with a family has more opportunities to do what she likes. And she can devote more time to caring for her own appearance and self-development. As a result, single representatives of the fair sex often look better than married ladies and surpass their fellow tribeswomen in intelligence. So why ruin your life by acquiring a husband who demands increased attention? Do we need this? And what is so bad about female loneliness?
Disadvantages of female loneliness
Yes, it seems that in our time many women do notneed to find a life partner. They are successful, wealthy, self-sufficient. But... But... But... What is a lady who lives without a man who deeply loves her really like? Even if she has children and lovers, she remains unloved. Periodic sex with someone who only wants this sex? Well, that would be good. But only "sort of". After all, a man's true love is what makes us truly beautiful. And it doesn't exist... There are only sexual contacts that are good for the body. Perhaps someone will consider this complete nonsense, but in general, a single lady, even if she is rich, will not be able to fully realize herself. She needs a caring, understanding man who lives with her problems. Even if she categorically rejects the need for such a man in her life, it is so. Perhaps someone is able to satisfy the need for him with a hobby or doing some business. But are there many of them among us? Peace and a sense of security are given only by the one who becomes the foundation, the soil for the growth of interest in life. And such interest appears when you feel desired, needed, understood, the only one. Well, let's imagine for a second that someone is worried about us not because we have to do something for them. But because we are ourselves. After all, every person is vulnerable. Today, she is a successful, self-confident beauty who has a lot of admirers. She is showered with flowers, taken for rides on luxurious yachts, given chic gifts. And tomorrow, she suddenly falls seriously ill, becomes ugly, old, impoverished. As a result, the admiring glances of men fade, become indifferent, alienated and even contemptuous. And there is no one around. Is it possible to feel protected in such a case? The flowers have long since faded, the yachts have disappeared on the horizon, the jewelry lies dead in the box, the money is gathering dust in the bank. And health, and with it vitality, melts, melts, melts... And the opposite situation. There is a man who has become a relative over the years, an unusually close, loving man. It is calm next to him. Even if something happens, even if tomorrow you turn into a feeble wreck (and this can happen at any age), he will not leave you. He will try with all his might to make his beloved's life easier, even when it becomes very difficult. After all, such a state of affairs is much stronger than eternal loneliness, albeit in luxury! So why are we distracted by anything - a career, business, a hobby, anything, but not by searching for exactly such a man? Frankly speaking, no matter how much we say that we feel great being alone, in reality this is not so. In fact, there are few women who with all their souls desire complete freedom. The main reasons for such freedom are completely different.
Causes of female loneliness
So what are the reasons for loneliness and what to do about them? Usually it is:
Of course, these are far from all the reasons for femaleloneliness. Some did not start a family in their youth because of their despotic parents, some devoted themselves to education and career, believing that family would come later. And some even decided that they did not deserve the attention of men and personal happiness. But there are many examples of successful late marriages! And there are many cases when a completely unattractive woman successfully marries her beloved. You just need to open yourself to love, and happiness will definitely come. Because any woman is its vessel and source. Happiness lives inside us. You can’t kill it. It’s simply a crime against nature. We recommend reading:
