What should be the sequence of youractions: Take care of your physical condition. Chronic stress causes severe destabilization of the entire body, which leads to a serious deterioration in the functioning of the immune, neuroendocrine, and other body systems. Chronic and psychosomatic diseases are exacerbated. In turn, this further worsens our mental state. And so on in a circle. It is very important to break this circle. What should be done for this?
- Understand that everything is in your hands
The most important thing to understand when you find yourself in a serious crisis is that only you can get out of it. No one will get out of it for you. Not your ex-lover, not your friends, not a psychologist.
- Understand that the past can not be returned
Live in the present (it belongs to us) and think about the future, and leave the past, and preferably only the good ones, in memories.
- Remember that you can always ask for help and receive it
These could be relatives, friends,specialists, colleagues, and even strangers. But what they advise should not be followed immediately. Everything is individual. In any case, think about the advice, do not follow it blindly, reflect on it, but do not push away the hand of real help.
- Look for your mistakes, not mistakes of a loved one
Try not to blame others, but to understand your mistakes. This path is more constructive, since we always suffer from our mistakes, and the only person we can change is ourselves.
- Develop a plan to overcome the crisis
Assess all the factors that upset youor make you happy. Think about what resources (psychological, physical, intellectual) you have to overcome the crisis. What are the ways and methods to resolve the crisis (from your side, internally, and from the external side, i.e. other people, circumstances, accidents). Make a rough plan of action to get out of the crisis. Then, after everything has been thought out, start implementing the plan. From this point on, all your actions should be only rational. Monitor the implementation of the plan. Keep a diary and write down what is happening.
- Do good deeds
Find some good deed that you can doto do it constantly (devoting at least one day every week to it – Sunday is best). It could be helping orphans, the sick, the elderly, or a relative or friend. It would be best if it were something that would not be easy for you, but would require opening your heart, and teach you something you could not do before. Try to give these people what you could not give to your loved one. It is very important not to expect gratitude and even be prepared for ingratitude. You are not doing this to be thanked, but for yourself. This will help you overcome your weaknesses and fill your life with meaning and warmth.
