What is a comfort zone? This is a whole list of places, habits, people who fall under the definition of the words "convenient" and "habitual". We are used to our apartment, car, work, colleagues and friends, and therefore our life proceeds calmly and predictably. However, it is worth it for a person to get into an unfamiliar situation, as he begins to experience stress, excitement. And this is a completely natural reaction of our brain. For example, a young mother goes with the child to the reception in a new clinic. She does not know the location of the cabinets, nor the doctors. Do you think that a woman feels comfortable, especially when you consider that she has a sick child in her arms? Of course not, she is scared and awkward. But there is no way out, because the child needs treatment. So the young woman adapts to the situation that has arisen. And along with this, its comfort zone also expands. Because the next time the girl will perfectly navigate in the new clinic. And she will already be acquainted with the doctor. From this it follows that the more difficulties arise on your way, the wider the comfort zone. But first things first!
How to get out of the habitual comfort zone?
Despite the fact that in his own lifespace to a person is warm and cozy, he has one cardinal drawback, which usually people do not pay attention to is the lack of development. This is a kind of swamp, an intellectual vacuum, where nothing new happens. The same apartment to which you are accustomed. Friends who will not teach anything new. Work, where there is no prospect of growth. It seems that this is bad? Everything you need is there. And the man himself seems quite safe. But it will not rise above the established level. There is no need. Him and so comfortable. Why change anything? Our society forgets that the world is rich and multifaceted. And beyond the comfort zone there are many interesting people with whom you could make friends. Activities that you should learn. Cities that are worth visiting. Fortunately, not all people are content with what they have. Many are trying to develop the skills of a leader, to try themselves in a new field, to become better. If you want to achieve greater success in life, you just need to know how to get out of the comfort zone. Because in the usual situation, if a person develops, it is very sluggish. The lack of new incentives will not allow us to discover new horizons. Let us explain with an example. The woman gained excess weight and now wants to lose weight. It is wonderful. But where to put your favorite habits snack for the night, take food to the TV and fry a huge number of pies with meat? It's so delicious! A woman at the time refuses to herself in delicacies (out of the comfort zone), but then the habit of eating tasty is stronger than the desire to lose weight. And it's not even the heroine. It affects the entire comfort zone as a whole. Friends and colleagues who are accustomed to seeing the heroine as she is, are perplexed by her desire to go on a diet. "Why should you? You are so fine! ", They repeat. And it's not that a woman really has a slender figure and she does not need to lose weight. Just others are not used to seeing it differently. What to do? Change friends, work and home in order to leave the comfort zone? Of course not, such drastic measures will not be required. In this case, a woman simply needs to stop buying high-calorie foods (the family will also have to switch to a healthy diet for a while). For an additional stimulus, you can attach a reminder to the refrigerator (a kind of comfort zone) that she is on a diet. This is how the attempts of the subconscious mind to stop returning to the usual behavioral circle. Does not help? You can hang your photo in a swimsuit on the same refrigerator. It is desirable, that in a picture all superfluous kgs from which it is necessary to get rid are clearly visible. With diets everything is clear. But what about professional growth? Is it really necessary to quit your job and get a job in order to get up on work? Doing this is not necessary. It is enough to enroll in a refresher course, ask for a second education, or simply take part in a short seminar. So you can temporarily leave the comfort zone and improve your professional skills. As you have already noticed, all changes occur exclusively outside the usual space, and, accordingly, warmly and comfortably you will not be. And, the more serious the stress that you experience when you reach the goal, the more success you can achieve, the stronger and more confident you will become as a result. Believe me!
How to change the comfort zone?
A zone of comfort is not only a job, an apartment anda familiar metro station, but also our habits. Changing them, we expand or narrow our usual living space. For example, a girl used to run in the morning. She can easily get up at six o'clock and run a huge distance. But then it was winter, and the running tracks were covered with ice. It is only natural that the young woman decided to postpone the morning rations until the spring. The zone of familiar comfort has narrowed. Now the extra two hours before work, the girl just falls asleep. And if instead of running she decided to study English? Or programming? Then the zone would simply be slightly modified, but it did not narrow. Why all this information, you ask? To ensure that you have developed a habit of replacing an obsolete occupation or hobby with a new passion. Unfortunately, it is not always possible to extend the comfort zone without giving up old habits. Many with pleasure and in addition to charging would swim in the pool, but time is not infinite, and in 24 hours only. Therefore, before undertaking a new business, ask yourself: will you have enough time and energy to do it? Will your previous habits suffer from this? Trying to expand the zone of familiar comfort is good. But it is very important to do this wisely. And at first you can not do without incentives. Change is great, but how to defeat your own laziness? Many dream of cubes on the stomach, but only a few visit the gym. And what is the difference between those who pump muscles and those who are lying on the couch at this time? Just one person passionately wants change, and the second seems to want, but the victim is not ready to go. How to encourage yourself to take decisive action? Find a photo of what you want to get as a result of your efforts, hang it in a prominent place. Or write a rough plan of achievements for the next year or two. Schedule a specific time frame in which, in your opinion, you can achieve the goal. If you did not succeed, do not despair. Try again and again. Not yet. And this is sure to happen!
When you do not want to change anything
It often happens that a person does not think about how,how to find a way out of the comfort zone, but how to stay in it forever. And this is quite understandable. Because it is there that a person lives easily and pleasantly. Why change anything if everything is fine? Blurred growth prospects are not tempting, since no one promises that there, beyond the zone of comfort, you will necessarily achieve success. And if on the contrary? Lose some of what you have? Why take chances? This is the opinion of every second inhabitant of the planet, remaining where he is at the moment. The situation is complicated by the notorious voice of the subconscious, which is also scary to leave the comfort zone. Therefore, he expertly discourages a person from taking decisive action. Here is a simple example from the life of a mechanic who dreamed of an entrepreneur's career. "Why should you open your business? Vaša Vaša from the second entrance of the car and the garage sold for promotion and burned out. And Saveliy Ivanovich was generally put in prison for non-payment of taxes. Do you need it? Grind your parts at the factory and do not jerk. But you will remain free and with the car! "- this is how our inner voice reason, soothing, discouraging and .... stopping our development. As a result, a person is engaged, although not bad, in principle, but not his own business. What's next? Routine. Though, probably, from the usual locksmith the fine businessman could turn out. And he would have gone now not on the broken Moskvich, but on a foreign car. Where did the guy make a mistake? Everything is very simple. He lacked the courage, determination or desire for another attempt to enter the institution chosen earlier. And it is quite difficult to radically change your life after five to ten years, especially if you already have a family that you need to feed. But the ambitious girl, at school not distinguished by her mind and successes in her studies, after graduating from hairdressing classes, suddenly realized - this is her vocation. Quickly stuffed his hand, learning how to work with the most capricious clients, with interest visiting a lot of thematic seminars and master classes, truthfully and crookly issued a bank loan - and now her own beauty salon flashes swiftly with a new neon sign. Yes, it will be difficult, there will be ups and downs, painful falls, successes and failures, pre-holiday messy days and a period when the proceeds will barely suffice to pay interest to the bank ... But the rhythm of her life captures, does not get bogged down in everyday life, no matter how "well-fed" she was not. A success ... He will necessarily come to an insistent and brave man who is not afraid to change something, take a chance, expand the comfort zone! Each of us understands at a subconscious level what he lacks, what he would like to achieve and so on. But how difficult it is for us to change! How difficult it is to take a step towards something new, interesting, unexplored! Here, for example, how many families constantly go on vacation in the same thing, are familiar to the point? Ah, as soon as they do not justify their wife's deed! And conveniently, they say, and familiar, and everything is explored. You just listen to these words - conveniently, habitually. And unbearably boring. But after all leave alone. And in addition to rest for the body, it is necessary to provide a so-called change of pictures for your inner self. New impressions, emotional uplift and even small inconveniences - all this helps to broaden the horizon and differently look at the world. What to do? Train and teach yourself how to get out of the comfort zone. For example, master the game on the guitar. Not for nothing that she has been collecting dust on your mezzanines for decades. Sign up for lessons in ballroom dancing or strip-plastics - useful for the figure and very fashionable. Start running in the morning. Accustom to healthy food, stop smoking. Go to a master class on cooking sushi or real Italian pizza. In a word, do everything that you did not do before. And when your inner voice becomes tired of predicting defeat, decide on something more ambitious. If you can not get better right away, do not despair and do not lower your hands.
The main assistants to get out of the comfort zone: habit, enthusiasm and reason
So, you have come to the conclusion to change your life. Let not cardinally, but simply bring a familiar and measured way of some kind of novelty. But the way out of the comfort zone is not so easy to find. Rather, everyone is able to find it, but not everyone can cross the threshold and enter the new world. The most important thing in this business is to develop a habit. Scientists have proved that the process itself takes twenty-one days. And this is even less than a month. Overpower yourself, make you continuously engage in a new business for three weeks - and getting out of the comfort zone in a way that is familiar to you will not be a problem anymore, but the space will expand significantly. But if you at least once allow yourself to relax and do not begin to teach, for example, English words, do not go to a course and so on, the countdown will have to be re-done. So, the more insistently you apply for mastering something new, the faster it will become your habit. Take into account one more nuance. If you ever had to visit the sea in the autumn or cool in the summer, you probably remembered the feeling that you experienced when you entered rather cold water. At first it seems so unpleasant that you are hesitantly trampled on the sand, then all the same overpower yourself and plunge. In the first instant, the desire to get to the shore as quickly as possible and wrapped in a towel heated by the sun. And after a few minutes you are floating with pleasure. Your body simply got used to and adapted to the proposed conditions. The zone of comfort has found wider boundaries. The same thing happens with a person who begins to engage in a new business. At first he feels an acute attack of laziness and apathy, tries to find arguments to postpone the work. That coffee you want to drink, then talk with a friend on the phone, then the interesting film began. Overpower yourself, call for help all internal reserves and get down to business. Remember the enthusiasm that prompted you to learn English, for example, or to buy a subscription to a sports club. Do you expect to get a promotion or find a new high-paying job? So think about the prospects that will open before you, if now, at this very moment you will be able to force yourself to open a textbook and learn the first English word. Are you too lazy to go to the gym or go for a morning run? And what about a swimsuit that perfectly underlines the golden tan of a body that has been built up? Visualize your desires, this will help move forward. And you can not do without good reasons to expand the zone of familiar comfort. The simplest example is regular charging. Ask yourself why did you decide to start your day with it? "So in fact it is useful for health!" - you will exclaim. So what? Do you have a sharp increase in enthusiasm? It is unlikely. The thing is that the above argument does not have the necessary strength for you. You are young and as long as you do not complain about your health, your brain does not accept this reason as a direct guide to action. And now remember that feeling of pleasant fatigue and, at the same time, the cheerfulness that swept you after a trip to the gym or hours of training at home. That's for it and hold on, forcing yourself to start charging. Why does this work? It's very simple to explain. In the first case, the general formulation "to improve health" is perceived by you as something not entirely real, and in the second - the experience already exists, because the brain has obligingly presented you with a memory of a very tangible surge of energy. Another tricky trick is to tell you about your desire to learn something new or to change yourself for the better as many people as possible. And their opinion, both positive and negative, will be of great importance to you. If you hear the words of approval, then at the right time someone else's belief in your success will help not to break down, because you certainly will not want to deceive the expectations of close people? Doubt in your power is also an excellent incentive to prove the opposite, to force yourself to respect and cause admiration. Expand or change the comfort zone without effort is impossible. To go beyond the usual and established world is extremely difficult. It reminds of training in the gym: in the first days the body breaks down and wants to throw everything, then comes the period of adaptation, the figure changes, and you feel joy and pride. But it is only necessary to start the exercises, as the muscles again lose their former elasticity. And only based on a really good reason, you will be able to overcome yourself. So do it, decide and expand the comfort zone. We advise you to read: