All misfortunes are actually given to us so thatour souls have grown strong. (John Gray) We live in an age of adversity; but life has always presented people with ups and downs, good fortune and bad luck. Problems are part of the general process of life. Even the happiest people, whom everyone considers lucky and darlings of fate, face misfortunes from time to time, and a black streak of bad luck in life comes to them too. But why does it seem to us that troubles never overtake such people, and if their life is striped, then each stripe is only white? It's all about how they behave during such periods of their lives. Positive by nature, these people know how to overcome difficulties without bitterness and regret. They are not shy about asking for help and support when they need it. When the white streak ends and a streak of bad luck overtakes them, optimistic people learn lessons from situations in which others simply give up, and try to see something good even in the worst. They control their own destiny and create their own lives. Such people, as it seems to us, never live in a world of suffering; however, this does not diminish the feeling of unhappiness, which in them too can be very deep and sometimes even destructive. They simply “work off” these feelings, which cannot disappear overnight, while others simply sink to the very bottom of despair when a streak of bad luck overtakes them.

Why do not we take an example from the best?

If you asked people who know how to fightadversity, share their experience with you, they would tell you about six steps that you need to take first to quickly get to the white streak in your life:

First of all, admit to yourself thattrouble really happened to you. Admit to myself that in our life there has come a black streak, we, however strange it may seem, thereby reduce the emotional shock from the adversity that has fallen on us.

And now try to understand that all the misfortunesare temporary and rarely affect not the individual stages of life, but the entire fate of a person. You can lose your job, money, housing; but your family still loves you, friends are willing to put a shoulder, you yourself - are alive and well. You have retained the most important values, and everything else can be made.

Awaken the feeling of gratitude. Be grateful for what you have, instead of complaining about what you lost.

Realize that you have the opportunitycontrol your response to life's difficulties. As soon as you begin to experience pain, immediately change the focus - look at things with a different look. On the positive side, in any case, there is every event, even the most unpleasant - it all depends on how to look at it.

Achieve a higher state of consciousness, learn to control your thoughts, feelings and reactions. This will allow you to see things more clearly by reducing emotional involvement.

Decide what practical steps you can taketake today to help yourself. No matter how small these steps are, each of them is important, because it brings you closer to solving the problem. And in the end you will get to the place where you really feel that you have the strength to cope with the situation.

Several ways to deal with troubles

Life really can be unpredictable, andSometimes troubles take us by surprise. And then it is very important to know what to do if a bad streak in life has replaced a lucky streak. When we go through a difficult period, having a specific action plan can help us. Only action will help clear the way in the jungle of adversity to give us space to move forward! The points of this plan may vary, it all depends on the specific person and the difficult situation he has found himself in. But the basic actions are still the same in any case:

• One of the first stages of grief and other forms of unhappiness is, as a rule, failure

We refuse to acknowledge what has happened to ussomething bad. And we try to hide from everyone what happened to us. This can only make the situation worse, because we do not give ourselves the opportunity to cope with the reality of the situation and rationally perceive the consequences of the trouble. The sooner we accept reality, the higher our chances of moving on. Remember what successful people shared with us in the article - they, too, first of all admit the fact of the onset of a streak of bad luck.

• Mobilize all your internal forces, try not to let despair take possession of you

Don't panic under any circumstances.Do you know what can happen to a person who can't swim and suddenly falls into the water? There are two options: in the first case, he will start to panic, splash around randomly, and eventually swallow water and drown if help does not arrive in time. And in the second case, this person will try to calm down, and the water itself will push him to the surface. Remaining calm and relaxing his muscles, he will be able to control the position of his body and will keep his head above water. So it is in life - if you remain calm, you have a much better chance of resolving the situation.

• Break a difficult situation into smaller, more manageable and solvable tasks

You can even eat an elephant by taking one bite at a time.one small piece at a time! Using this simple strategy of breaking a complex problem into several simpler ones, you will be able to see solutions to the problem faster. You will dispel anxiety, restore organized, rational thinking, and direct your thoughts in the right direction to see the next right move.

• Be active, not allowing despair to discourage your desire to act

There is always a way out!By depriving us of some opportunities, hardships give us a chance to take advantage of others. Imagine a person who has lost his arms or legs. It is terrible for him and for everyone who loves him. And, of course, no one would dare to judge the unfortunate person if he fell into depression and lost the will to live. But we have all seen (both in real life and thanks to television and the Internet) many examples of people who have experienced such a loss and directed their efforts to what they can do, and not to what has become inaccessible to them. An armless musician who plays beautiful melodies on the piano with his feet, an artist who paints, holding her brushes with her teeth, a ballet dancer with one leg who dares to go on stage and dance with an equally crippled ballerina - and they dance in such a way that you do not notice the guy's crutch, or the girl's missing arm! These strong-willed people set goals for themselves when they lose the opportunity to do something in the usual way, and work to solve them. They are not simply reacting to a tragic accident in their lives, but are purposefully looking for ways to continue an active life. We need to learn from them not to despair and to seek a way out of a streak of bad luck and failure at any cost.

• Look for support and do not give up the proposed help

There is absolutely no need to fighttroubles and misfortunes alone. Interesting fact: scientists have conducted all sorts of research, trying to unravel the phenomenon of long-livers. You can come up with all sorts of theories, based on the characteristics of nutrition, the environment and other factors that could cause such longevity in venerable elders. But one common factor unites these people who have managed to survive more than one misfortune during their long lives - this is their connection with other people, the ability to accept help and provide support to everyone who needs it.

• Very often victims of failures and misfortunes remain in captivity from their past

They still have this feeling that they have been let down.or betrayed by circumstances, people or even life itself. Their souls are wounded and bleeding, the joy of life is lost. Staying in their thoughts in their past, which brought them misfortune, they kind of agree that unpleasant events can repeat themselves. It is necessary to take responsibility for your life, for your physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual well-being, and not allow all the circumstances and situations that you encounter to manipulate you like a puppet.

• Stay in front of danger

Resilience allows you to cope with adversity,overcome stress and be able to recover from grief, gaining valuable experience. Each of us has the potential to recover from failures and return to normal life. If we do not use this potential, then over time we lose it. But we can increase our ability to overcome difficulties and achieve amazing results even in the most difficult conditions. It is the desire to learn how to successfully cope with failures and adversity that can make us successful and happy - both now and in the future. And we, too, will be called lucky and fortunate.

What else can you do to get these useful skills faster?

Reread the list of everything that would beIt is useful to pay attention and choose the most suitable points for yourself. You can expand this list by adding what would help you most to withstand life's storms.

• Rejoice in life, every ordinary day;
• Every morning, smile at your reflection in the mirror;
• Calmly relax in the evening, knowing that in the day you did all that was required of you;
• Rely on your curiosity, to learn something new every day, expanding the boundaries of your world;
• Exercise your sense of humor, laugh as much as possible;
• Perceive communication with people who have experienced mental trauma, as an opportunity to study at university life;
• Look, read, listen to people's stories,who found the strength to survive unhappiness and return to normal life. It inspires us to become more stable in the face of our own misfortunes;
• Write down or draw your emotions. Try to talk more often about what is good in every event that is not entirely pleasant for you;
• Try to be more often in such an environment that causes you to revive and raise emotions;
• Get a pet for yourself - it will help you to immerse yourself in joyful experiences;
• Come up with a new hobby;
• Read the statements of wise people, quotes about the strength of the spirit and overcoming difficulties - it's very good "cleanses" the brains!
• Exercise not only the mind, but the body. Previously, it was not for nothing that they said that "in a healthy body - a healthy mind";
• Periodically spend time alone or with the closest person in the bosom of nature. This very well relieves stress and tension;
• At least occasionally visit as a volunteerhospitals and hospices. You will not only feel satisfied with the opportunity to help someone, but you will be able to make sure that your troubles are nothing compared to the misfortune of some people.

There is one very good exercise.Imagine that you are sailing in a boat on the river of life. Sometimes the river is calm, the sun is shining and there is a beautiful landscape around. But then around the bend the river starts to rage, it starts to rain, a thunderstorm rumbles. And you are still in the boat and remain calm. You know that the rain will soon stop. You cannot control the rain, but you can control the boat so that it sails forward, to where the river will flow smoothly and calmly again. It is the same in life. Do not try to control circumstances, command only yourself. Just become the captain of your life.

Overcoming adversity is difficult, but it is always possible to overcome them

Overcoming adversity can be difficult at times.times of despair, when a dark streak of failures and misfortunes begins. It is not surprising that we may feel pain at first, but the skills acquired and the resilience developed in ourselves will help us overcome any changes in life. Our life can be like a roller coaster - with many ups, downs and turns. You must follow your thorny path without stopping or turning back. It may even be scary at first, but do not give up! Life can be harsh and tough on us; but just like a ride on a roller coaster, the hard times will come to an end, a bright streak will come and the disaster will be in the past. Adversity means change - our lives change, we ourselves change. But it is up to us whether we will find the strength and ability to eventually return to normal life and move on. We recommend reading:

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