If your 40th wedding anniversary is approachinglife together, and you have not forgotten about it, then one of two things: either you are a very happy woman, or you are a very patient woman who led her husband by the hand to a ruby wedding. No one will reveal this secret, only you know it, but there should be more secrets like this that help to live a life of love and happiness. Statistics are silent about how many couples in Russia or even in the world have lived together for 40 years from their wedding day. But if you conduct your own exit poll among relatives, friends and neighbors, the percentage is unlikely to please: many have already had several divorces by the age of 50. A silver wedding is a more common option, couples cross the finish line after 25 years more often. But on the next lap of another race to a golden wedding, they are faced with a formidable obstacle called a midlife crisis. Not everyone manages to bypass it, and only a few reach the finish line. But the theory of probability together with statistics guarantees the celebration of a golden wedding if the couple has crossed the ruby threshold. The next 10 years pass by everyone, and surprisingly, they pass much easier and more confidently than the first year or the first 10 years.
How to cross the ruby line together?
There is no single recipe.Everyone has their own path. Some have a thorny path, some are strewn with roses. Some believe that difficulties brought them together, others argue that it is important to hear and understand your other half, and that is enough. Still others have their own theory that spouses should grow and develop together, look in the same direction, then they will go hand in hand through life for many years. But all couples unanimously agree that one should marry for love. And what is important - for mutual love. If one loves, and the other only allows himself to be loved, such a marriage rarely lasts, its life is 3-4 years. Those who were lucky and met their true love, there were also enough reasons for divorce. As one joker aptly noted: the thought of divorce never occurred to him, but he wanted to kill. Over the years, women become wiser and men smarter, stormy passions subside, and at some point the number of days and years lived together turns into a different quality of relationship: respect, care, support. So, shoulder to shoulder, and they step over the thresholds of anniversaries, and now the ruby wedding anniversary is ahead. Ruby wedding, ruby milestone, We have been together for all 40 years, and our marriage is young and fresh. What woman would not want this? It seems to 17-year-old grandchildren that their 60-year-old grandfather and grandmother are ancient fossils. And they look at each other with the eyes of those young 20-year-olds, as they were forty years ago, and will always look like that, but the grandchildren do not understand this yet, they are too young.
Celebration will be held
There are loving couples who are together their whole liveslife, they are happy in any conditions and situations, for them wealth, recognition, success are not so important, for them it is important that they are together. And not all couples want to celebrate their anniversaries, more often it happens on the initiative of children, the immediate environment, and they themselves would rather have a romantic evening together or a quiet day in nature. Celebration in the family circle Such couples do not resist the decision made by children to celebrate the wedding anniversary, at least because the whole family does not get together so often now: children visit their parents less and less, taking care of their own families. And here such a reason to see everyone at once on one day at the anniversary festive table, and it will not hurt to support young families with your own example. A home celebration of the ruby wedding anniversary in a narrow family circle differs from a celebration in a restaurant with more modest external attributes, but there is more sincerity in it. There may not be ruby necklaces and cufflinks among the gifts, but there will be a wonderful album in a ruby-colored binding with family photos, starting with wedding ones, and their joint viewing. Positive emotions and memories are worth a lot. Celebrating jubilee dates and wedding anniversaries at a certain age helps to understand that enduring values are feelings, emotions, relationships, and they are much more important than material things. This is what your soul has been enriched with and what you will take with you to another world. By the way, Alexander the Great ordered to bury himself with his hands raised so that everyone could see that he did not take anything with him, even though he conquered half the world.
Restaurant version of the celebration Loverscelebrate all sorts of dates and anniversaries will not miss such a wonderful date and the opportunity to once again be in the spotlight. In this case, the restaurant version of the ruby wedding celebration will be built on a template generally accepted in the world, but everyone brings their own twist to it to make the celebration memorable. The basis is the play on the ruby color scheme and its presence in everything: in the decoration of the wedding hall, in the clothes of the heroes of the occasion and guests, in dishes, in drinks, in gifts. The circle of those present at the wedding expands, hosts are invited, a script for the event is prepared, the scope and presence of the ruby theme is felt in everything. Spouses give each other ruby jewelry, which acquires the power of amulets, and guests bring red flowers and wedding gifts, if not with rubies, then necessarily wrapped in red paper. The ruby precious stone in this case symbolizes the strength and durability of feelings that the spouses have managed to maintain over forty years of married life. Ruby is actually considered a talisman and a stone that can strengthen the immune system, preserve memory, improve sleep, and support vitality, but you can’t wear it all the time, otherwise it will start to take away energy. Healers use not only the stone, but also water infused with it. The main thing is to believe in it, and the ruby given as a gift for an anniversary will really be beneficial. It is not necessary to give only rubies, a new lawn mower or garden furniture will please future gardeners no less. Video filming of a ruby wedding, decorated with stories-memories, will become another page in the list of celebrating family anniversaries, both for the couple themselves and for their descendants. Such a chronicle of the family and clan will help not only to preserve memories of them, but will also be useful for raising the younger generation. If the spouses are categorically against any celebrations associated with the anniversary, but love to travel, another option for celebrating a ruby anniversary can be a trip together on a honeymoon.
