In our life we ​​can often come acrosssuch couples in which the girl is a model of decency and intelligence, and her young man does not shine with special mental abilities, and generally behaves like a real hooligan. Most often, such love unions arise at a young age, but mature women can also choose far from the most prosperous representatives of the stronger sex as their life partners. However, despite the fact that girls like bad boys, in most cases they themselves are not very happy with such hobbies, and over time, when the passion of love fades a little, they try to get rid of such relationships. However, this does not reduce the number of love unions of good girls and "bad" guys, in which feelings often flare up very quickly and fade just as quickly. What causes such an inexplicable contradiction, we will talk about today in our article.

The attraction of male power

To all women on a subconscious levellike it when their beloved has true male strength, which is manifested both in appearance and in behavior in completely different situations. In order to determine why this happens and what specific characteristics men have who attract many women, scientists have conducted many different studies. As a result, they all unanimously came to the conclusion that the culprit is the male hormone called testosterone. Those men in whose blood it is elevated are perceived by most women as strong and very masculine. Most often, such men have a bright, memorable appearance and a muscular figure, which, of course, makes them even more attractive in the eyes of women. However, there are also cases when the appearance of a man with an elevated testosterone level is not distinguished by anything special, but girls still do not give him a break. At the same time, a man may often not understand why he is so attractive to representatives of the opposite sex, but such attention, of course, flatters him and over time turns him into a “bad” guy, even if he was not initially one.

Ability to show parenting skills

Many girls, due to what is inherent in them,by nature of instinct tend to strive to educate not only children, but also all the people around them, and especially - men from their close circle of communication, whom they know very well. Naturally, in the case of a beloved man, this is manifested to an even greater extent. Women think that they can eradicate the shortcomings of their lover and thus turn him into an almost ideal man. However, in reality, all this is just an illusion, since any adult, and especially a man, and even with pronounced features of character and behavior, cannot be remade. Also, a girl, as a result of strong feelings for a particular guy, may want to change him not to test her pedagogical abilities, but so that he can live much easier and better. Such a desire seems to a woman an indispensable component of a love relationship with a "bad" guy, but in him it can only cause irritation, and over time even aggression and a desire to immediately part with the one who does not allow him to live a normal life. And no love will help to keep such a man, since he values ​​his usual way of life much more than any feelings.

The latent desire to experience adrenaline rush

Most women in modern societyEveryday life is not particularly diverse, and any bright events happen in it extremely rarely. Few people like it, and those who speak only positively about such a lifestyle are still a little disingenuous, because deep down they still want to experience unusual and memorable experiences. Such emotions most often arise at the moment when a person experiences an adrenaline rush into the blood, and for women, this is often enough to simply plunge into the pool of a relationship with a “bad” guy. Having met a man who does not fit into the generally accepted framework of standards of behavior, many girls at first consider him too “wrong” and dangerous for a love relationship, but very quickly change their minds, because on a subconscious level they feel that he can give them the so-needed feelings of risk and richness of everyday life. Quite often at this moment, girls do not understand at all why they succumb to the charms of “bad” guys, but the desire to experience adrenaline pushes them into such ambiguous and dangerous relationships.

Bright and passionate intimate relationships

Another reason whywomen like extraordinary men with provocative behavior so much, is the need for passionate sexual relations. Many women do not realize this need, since often when choosing a partner they are guided more by his psychological and social qualities. However, from a physiological point of view and the need for procreation inherent in nature, girls always choose those guys who have the highest testosterone levels. Contrary to popular belief, such men are not short men with a strong body and a bald spot on their heads, but quite attractive successful modern representatives of the stronger sex, distinguished by an unconventional outlook on life and almost complete disregard for any norms accepted in society, that is, those who are called "bad" guys. Such men have a certain natural magnetism and a very passionate temperament, which makes them ideal lovers. However, such qualities are often combined with a far from simple character and rude behavior in everyday life, but this does not scare women. At least in the early stages of developing a love union with “bad” guys, girls often pay more attention to the carnal side of the relationship, and the psychological characteristics of the new chosen one temporarily recede into the background.

Thirst for adventure

It would seem, what connection could there be betweenadventures and some kind of love relationship? However, in a pair with a "bad" guy, this relationship manifests itself in the best possible way, since it is precisely such representatives of the opposite sex who can bring a huge number of adventures into the life of any woman, both literally and figuratively. From the very first second of meeting, such guys begin to demonstrate to the young lady they like their extraordinary features and skills in various spheres of life, and then, when the relationship moves into a more or less stable phase, they do not let their beloved get bored with their constant inventions and unusual, and sometimes daring antics. Also, "bad" guys are often fond of extreme sports and try to introduce their other half to this activity. This especially attracts girls who have long wanted to do some kind of sport, but they did not succeed due to banal laziness or ignorance of the basic principles of training. In a “bad” guy who is involved in one sport or another, such women subconsciously look for a kind of mentor and strict teacher who will constantly push them towards athletic achievements.

Low self-esteem

Unfortunately, quite often it is insurmountableThe desire to communicate with "bad" guys can be caused by girls' low self-esteem and an inner feeling that they do not deserve better. Moreover, the girls themselves may not even guess why they have a soft spot for "bad" guys, and consider this simply a feature of their character. This option is the most dangerous, since with long-term relationships with unusual, but not very good men, women's self-esteem can become even lower, which can easily provoke the emergence of persistent mental disorders and neuroses. The best option in this case is an uncompromising break in relations, no matter how difficult it may be. At first, after breaking up with a "bad" guy, the girl's life may well turn black, but over time she will definitely feel much better and will finally be able to start dating a good young man. It is also advisable at this time to seek help from a psychologist, who will significantly speed up the process of experiencing the breakup of a love union, identify the reason for sympathy for "bad" guys and help eliminate it. The reasons why women have a thing for “bad boys” can be discussed endlessly, since there are many different psychological and physiological characteristics involved, laid down by nature itself. However, in any case, a love union with such a man rarely develops into a reliable family relationship; more often, it remains at the level of a short-term romance. Even if a man and a woman in such a couple tie the knot or simply start living together as a family, then, most likely, they will quickly encounter irreconcilable conflicts that can destroy any relationship. The only undeniable advantage of a love union with a “bad” boy is the opportunity to feel the fullness of life, to realize your secret desires, which may not be understood by ordinary men, and also to enjoy an all-consuming mutual feeling. However, when getting involved in such a relationship, it is very important to understand that the likelihood of its successful and more or less long-term continuation is unlikely. So it’s best not to think about why it’s impossible to influence your loved one and make the union more harmonious, but simply enjoy the moments of happiness together to the fullest.

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